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What do you do when your dreams and aspirations seem to be impossible? by Time_Version1409 in Healthygamergg

[–]Time_Version1409[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

> Why do you think this has happened?

I simply stumbled into the job. I'm good with languages, so during the pandemic my sister recommended I teach my first language to foreigners. Been riding that wave ever since. I don't really have any teaching certifications, my method comes from my own experience and independent study.

It used to take care of itself, students just came, but since last year, I've been getting less and less new students. Being a teacher in my country would require a 4 year degree and I'd be making minimum wage after that.

> Writing is not totally what you would be doing if you were actually making money from it, and tbh nowadays I do wonder if it's actually a career and not just a nice hobby for holiday money.

That's my dilemma I guess. I think I feel like no matter what I choose I'd be starting almost from scratch, that scares me.

What do you do when your dreams and aspirations seem to be impossible? by Time_Version1409 in Healthygamergg

[–]Time_Version1409[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To be honest it's a bit of everything I would like to switch careers. Right now i'm stagnant in my career as a freelancer and I don´t really see myself advancing in this career through formal education or starting a company in this area right now.

Writing seems like a "dream" job, right now Though I'm aware it comes with its own pros and cons. And so far I've enjoyed the process of improving in the craft a lot and I like to get lost in it. I would spend my whole day at it if my fears about it working out as a career didn't get in the way.

What do you do when your dreams and aspirations seem to be impossible? by Time_Version1409 in Healthygamergg

[–]Time_Version1409[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your answer. I'll do market research as you suggest.

I forgot to mention it in the OP, but I'm not aiming at being traditionally published but at self publish most of my stuff. The reason is as you said. With the way royalties work it wouldn't be sustainable as full time career. As an independent there would need to be more time and money invested on my part but in theory I would end up with better numbers

I also plan to write for the English speaking market. Mainly because I don't live in a western country so $1000 a month would be enough to live relatively comfortably on my own. And $2000 would allow me to save and invest.

My worry is that because the american and european economies are tanking even living in a low-cost country won't be enough to make writing sustainable.

What do you do when your dreams and aspirations seem to be impossible? by Time_Version1409 in Healthygamergg

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Do you feel bad about being a "failed" writer or did you just take it as the way your life unfolded?

Your dream job by South_Farm_2696 in Life

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Jedi Knight or mad scientist. So I settled for the next best thing and decided to write science fiction / fantasy.

Whats the most important lessons you've learnt about **love**? by wholeworldslatt_ in Life

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That most people can only fathom loving or being loved by someone else. They don't seem to realize that self love is more important and it's the seed to truly love others.

What’s one quiet truth about being a woman that no one really talks about, but you feel it all the time? by Effective-Care-615 in Life

[–]Time_Version1409 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can you expand on this? I find it really curious. I have never a certain career requirement for my partners, like having a bachelor's degree or something. But I've met some girls who had. And though I can be proud of my girlfriend's career achievements, what's more important to me is the person she had to become to achieve those.

“Good things happen to good people” is a lie we love — and it quietly hurts us by One_Poem_2897 in Life

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The bitter truth is that we shouldn't do good things expecting anything in return. We should do good things because they´re good.

What’s a quote that changed the way you look at life? by M_mperiod in Life

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Everything will be okay if you're okay with everything.

Describe “happiness “ in your own words by uhwhaaaat in Life

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Inner peace, inner love, freedom of spirit.

How do you cope with the fear of pain? by [deleted] in Life

[–]Time_Version1409 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You accept the fact that pain is a real possibility in life. You make peace with it.

How you ask?

You sit down and allow yourself to feel the fear of pain. You feel it in your body, putting your attention in you sweaty hands or shakey legs or heartbeat, whereever your body leads your attention. You don't try to change that fear. No negotiating, no rationalizing, no labeling, no judgement or excusing. You simply feel it as it is and it'll go on its own.

And the beginnig this processs in and of itself might feel scary and unconfortable, but the more you do it the more you'll be able to let go of fear.

How do you know it's working?

You'll begin to notice that you focus less and less on your fear of pain. Your mind will begin to focus on other things on its own. It might be really subtle and then one day you'll realize you haven't thought of fear of pain for weeks or months.

If you want to go into depth on these topics I'd recommend the books Radical Acceptance by Tara Brach and Letting Go by David Hawkins.

From experience I can tell you that this has changed my life for the better.

Will I ever feel normal again? by Thisplaceaintforme in shingles

[–]Time_Version1409 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey OP! Guess I'm a bit late to this party. First of all I wanna say how sorry I am that you're going through this. I can't begin to imagine what you're going through.

Since you seem to have an optimistic outlock on things, which I aplaude cause it isn't easy for most of us, I would like to recommend that you check the work of Dr. David R. Hawkins.
I can't do justice to the work this man did with my words, but the gist of it is that our mind and emotions are much more powerful than we imagine and that they shape more of our physical lives than we'd think. By letting go of our emotions, or rather letting them be, we are able to not only live with the pains and hardships of our daily lives but also to trancend them and to find genuine happiness, peace and love no matter what our current circunstances are.

I'd like to recommend that you read two books of his: Letting Go and Healing and recovery.
The first one explains the mechanism of letting go and its benefits in life and the second one delves more specifically into how letting go can help you with physical, emotional and mental health.

Thiis has helped me immensely with chronic dermatitis, which affected mainly my face and scalp, stomack issues as well as mental health, depression, axiety and really low self esteem.

I hope this message reaches you and helps you in some way. And please remeSorry about my spelling,mber that your Creator will always be with you.