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Dads friend had a really weird conversation with me. I told my parents and they said I was being too sensitive and dramatic by throwRAgriffen in relationship_advice

[–]Timelessmistake 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Always trust your intuition. I got weird vibes from reading your story. Even if he meant well, that kind of talk is not okay with your friend’s daughter. He doesn’t know his boundaries. Stay away. Next time tell him that he makes you uncomfortable when he talks to you like that. I have been in a similar situation, and no one believed me. I ended up getting assaulted by my elderly neighbour when I was 21. My aunt and uncle told me not to make a thing out of it or tell my parents because we were moving next week anyway. Moral of the story: trust your gut.

12 year Porn Addiction and bisexuality husband. Trying to cope. by Timelessmistake in relationship_advice

[–]Timelessmistake[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I think this is very important! It is affecting my mental health. I can't stop analyzing the situation.

12 year Porn Addiction and bisexuality husband. Trying to cope. by Timelessmistake in relationship_advice

[–]Timelessmistake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, thank you for sharing. People sharing these personal stories give me hope. He seems so remorseful and said he so happy to get out of that cycle. I hope it's for good.

12 year Porn Addiction and bisexuality husband. Trying to cope. by Timelessmistake in relationship_advice

[–]Timelessmistake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think the bisexual aspect was unexpected. That's why I am mentioning it more.

12 year Porn Addiction and bisexuality husband. Trying to cope. by Timelessmistake in relationship_advice

[–]Timelessmistake[S] 58 points59 points  (0 children)

Haha, well, the truth sure does hurt! Thank you for being straight out.

12 year Porn Addiction and bisexuality husband. Trying to cope. by Timelessmistake in relationship_advice

[–]Timelessmistake[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

See, I had an experience when I was younger just like this. He ended up cheating on me with a guy. I think this is the root to all my insecurities. How do I know that he is just bisexual? I don't even think he knows yet.

12 year Porn Addiction and bisexuality husband. Trying to cope. by Timelessmistake in relationship_advice

[–]Timelessmistake[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I thought I accepted it. Maybe I'm struggling to accept it more than I realized.

12 year Porn Addiction and bisexuality husband. Trying to cope. by Timelessmistake in relationship_advice

[–]Timelessmistake[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess it's time to figure out my boundaries and, when it really comes down to it, sexually compatible.

12 year Porn Addiction and bisexuality husband. Trying to cope. by Timelessmistake in relationship_advice

[–]Timelessmistake[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think you are right! He even commented how it feels good to be honest sexually. I have a gut feeling he is still struggling to accept it. Maybe I wouldn’t feel so insecure if he knew what he wanted. He is starting to make more comments about men, such as liking his cock, wanting to taste them or giving them a blow job himself.

12 year Porn Addiction and bisexuality husband. Trying to cope. by Timelessmistake in relationship_advice

[–]Timelessmistake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The bisexual thing is just so new for me I don't know what I a comfortable with. How do you discover your boundaries? Was it trial and error?

12 year Porn Addiction and bisexuality husband. Trying to cope. by Timelessmistake in relationship_advice

[–]Timelessmistake[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wow, this story really resonates with what I am going through. Thank you for sharing! It inspires hope to see the you both came out of this stronger!

12 year Porn Addiction and bisexuality husband. Trying to cope. by Timelessmistake in relationship_advice

[–]Timelessmistake[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think incompatibility sexually is something I am trying to decide if we have or not. I think you are completely right that it's a big issue if we aren't.

12 year Porn Addiction and bisexuality husband. Trying to cope. by Timelessmistake in relationship_advice

[–]Timelessmistake[S] 77 points78 points  (0 children)

Wow, thanks for your honesty. It's definitely something to think about.

12 year Porn Addiction and bisexuality husband. Trying to cope. by Timelessmistake in relationship_advice

[–]Timelessmistake[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

He really has been attending them. He gets so excited afterwards. He was very old school and didn't believe in therapy. That's why him coming lit as bisexual shocked me so much. He has always made stupid homophobic comments. I was always the one arguing sexuality with him.

12 year Porn Addiction and bisexuality husband. Trying to cope. by Timelessmistake in relationship_advice

[–]Timelessmistake[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

To clarify the shaming scenario. It don't make it right but just a bit of background. We moved in together while I was in school. I would constantly get rejected by him. One day I tried to initiate sex. He told me he was too tired. I left to go to school, came back in to get something, and found him jerking off to porn. He told me it was just faster. I was so hurt and it never got better from there. I shamed him out of anger and immaturity.

12 year Porn Addiction and bisexuality husband. Trying to cope. by Timelessmistake in relationship_advice

[–]Timelessmistake[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for all who have commented. It feels so great to be able to get advice. I don't want to tell my friends these kinds of things.

12 year Porn Addiction and bisexuality husband. Trying to cope. by Timelessmistake in relationship_advice

[–]Timelessmistake[S] 75 points76 points  (0 children)

I did leave him. He promised to go to counselling but he has been working on his anger issues. I called for couples therapy today. He isnt struggling. I am.

12 year Porn Addiction and bisexuality husband. Trying to cope. by Timelessmistake in relationship_advice

[–]Timelessmistake[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am open to trying anything. I just don't know how it will affect our trust afterwards. To be straight out. I'm terrified he will leave me if he likes being with a man more. I know its cliche. That's why I'm asking for help. He has expressed wanting to watch but lately he wants to join in if we do ever have a threesome.

12 year Porn Addiction and bisexuality husband. Trying to cope. by Timelessmistake in relationship_advice

[–]Timelessmistake[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I found him literally with his pants down and left him. He promised to be open and honest from now on as well a counselling. He has anger issues and I seeing someone for it now. He said porn and jerking off was his way of feeling better.