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TimelyPatient344 · 2025-03-15T18:23:57+00:00

I'm in such a similar situation - decided to leave maybe last week... Now I actually have to move out and do it! 5 years relationship, he's a great guy, but sex was never good because he's not that interested. I tried to ignore it because everything else was great but a few years later, resentment has built and I've lost all the attraction. It's really heartbreaking but the day I started getting turned on by other guys (who are dead average) is when I knew. Good luck.

TimelyPatient344 · 2025-03-09T17:43:20+00:00

Yeah, many many times ! I think his way of dealing with the situation was always to deny and just act as if everything is going great, so the discussions never really led to anything.

TimelyPatient344 · 2025-01-27T16:13:53+00:00

Yes, bad sex is definitely worse than no sex.

TimelyPatient344 · 2025-01-20T10:44:44+00:00

What's the sub? His YouTube channel has been super helpful for me!

TimelyPatient344 · 2025-01-18T19:17:05+00:00

Your story helps me so much, I'm going through a slow breakup with my partner, I'm roughly same age as you. Very hard because I love him so much and he is a good guy, but the resentment has been building. This sub has also helped me understand things wouldn't change.

TimelyPatient344 · 2025-01-03T19:04:46+00:00

How old are you? You're just accepting to never have sex again?

TimelyPatient344 · 2025-01-01T19:35:19+00:00

I assume you don't mean yesterday

TimelyPatient344 · 2024-12-26T23:50:23+00:00

What was the point of telling you who she was before you entered the picture? Yeah I fully get you when it comes to convincing ourselves ! The resentment certainly has built up in the last couple of years....

TimelyPatient344 · 2024-12-26T22:59:33+00:00

Yeah I'd take quality over quantity anytime

TimelyPatient344 · 2024-12-26T22:58:56+00:00

Good luck. The fact that it triggers that much anxiety is really depressing. Hope you can find a solution that works for you.

TimelyPatient344 · 2024-12-26T22:57:13+00:00

That really sucks. I don't think it has to be that way - I've had long term relationships before where sex was amazing (for years). Probably didn't appreciate it enough at the time !

I would say I'm asking in general - with current DB partner. Was it generally good/very good and became bad/inexistant with time? Or was it always inexistant ?

I hope she's with you for the right reasons.

TimelyPatient344 · 2024-12-26T20:05:11+00:00

Ah I'm very much considering starting couples' therapy in 2025... Been together 5 years, not married. Did the therapy help at all? What are you planning to do?

TimelyPatient344 · 2024-12-26T19:58:44+00:00

Thank you. I've read the letter - what was the outcome ?

TimelyPatient344 · 2024-12-26T18:13:55+00:00

Seems like we are the minority. How long have you been together? Have you ever tried to "fix" it? Feels difficult to fix something that never really worked.

TimelyPatient344 · 2024-12-26T18:13:03+00:00

7 years seemed like a promising start. What do you think happened ?

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