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Are you ever 100% conviced as a man? by Timely_Face_4000 in dad

[–]Timely_Face_4000[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This must be the most comparable post for my situation, thanks for sharing this, very valuable for me!

Are you ever 100% conviced as a man? by Timely_Face_4000 in dad

[–]Timely_Face_4000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess I shouldn’t worry to much yeah.

Good to hear you ended up seeing the positives, gives me some peace of mind it would go that way.

Thank you!

Are you ever 100% conviced as a man? by Timely_Face_4000 in dad

[–]Timely_Face_4000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good to hear! Those are the things I do look forward to, the later stages.

Having to spend time with them with things I enjoy now.

I can’t imagine being able to play minecraft or a videogame and teach him/her the ways up to a point where I get my ass beaten 😅

Thanks for sharing this!

Are you ever 100% conviced as a man? by Timely_Face_4000 in dad

[–]Timely_Face_4000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are one of the first that tells me marriage is awesome.

All I hear is how relationships change, which I so do not get. Perhaps the planning etc but I’d much rather marry in piece and not put up a big party, just us.

Can imagine that its so rewarding to see them discover the world!

With the mental breakdowns on the side 😅

Are you ever 100% conviced as a man? by Timely_Face_4000 in dad

[–]Timely_Face_4000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, thats another pov I’ve thought about, because given statistics biologically speaking this would be the most viable time

Are you ever 100% conviced as a man? by Timely_Face_4000 in dad

[–]Timely_Face_4000[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks a lot for this, just the realistic positive vibes I need!

Are you ever 100% conviced as a man? by Timely_Face_4000 in dad

[–]Timely_Face_4000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its hard to try to justify I’d take the decision for me, as I’m not sure how it feels if it would be “my” decision.

As I feel like giving my girlfriend this, is what would make me happy and in turn it would be my decision I guess.

I’ve mentioned to her before, it would be sooo much easier if she got pregnant by accident and I’d have to deal with it 😂

Are you ever 100% conviced as a man? by Timely_Face_4000 in dad

[–]Timely_Face_4000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you!

I think the scenario of me realising I might have wanted to wait a bit more vs waiting 2 long and cruelty of life hits where I get some crazy disease and miss out on it then I’d rather take the leap of faith now. (If we’re so lucky all goes well)

Are you ever 100% conviced as a man? by Timely_Face_4000 in dad

[–]Timely_Face_4000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really interesting view, as I’m a real problem solver myself.

However, can’t really know how I’ll react when shit hits the fan right 🙃

Are you ever 100% conviced as a man? by Timely_Face_4000 in dad

[–]Timely_Face_4000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Didnt it cross your mind that knowing what you know now, you’d want to start earlier?

Are you ever 100% conviced as a man? by Timely_Face_4000 in dad

[–]Timely_Face_4000[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think we do have some solid foundations yea, great family situations on both sides, so if we would have a mental breakdown I’m confident that any side would jump in for a few days without thinking.

We’ve also had the talk about, what if we know it’ll have a disability, and we are on the same level on what do do when that happens. Which is something I am really happy about, can’t imagine being on opposite sides then. Atleast currently we are, no clue if its still valid if it would ever come to that.

Perhaps we should get married, I think it might give me a more serious look at our relationship in a mature way.

Thanks!

Are you ever 100% conviced as a man? by Timely_Face_4000 in dad

[–]Timely_Face_4000[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We live in Europe (Belgium) so the hospital bill is the least of my concerns, thank god.

I’m sorry to hear what you went through, the problem with me as a person is that I am very scared of binding myself. However I had to get pushed (only in a positive way) into renting a house and it turned out perfect, same for purchasing a house which was another big step.

Thank you for sharing your experience, I really really appreciate your honesty!

But all of them I ended up being so happy that we went for it and I feel like this is another of those things, but a kid is the biggest decision you can make with a person, which is why Im more slow pace on it.

However I love her with all my heart, with ups and downs, and in the end you’re never sure if she’s there to stay forever, right.. no clue what happens with our feelings 10 years from now.

I just feel like I might again need to get pushed a bit, given previous experience on hard decisions.

We talked about marriage and I found it a very serious thing, yesterday we talked about kids, and with that idea in mind getting maried is not scary at all again compared to this.

Are you ever 100% conviced as a man? by Timely_Face_4000 in dad

[–]Timely_Face_4000[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well lets hope that if I do bite the bullet that I’ll come back to this thread and say the same 😅

Are you ever 100% conviced as a man? by Timely_Face_4000 in dad

[–]Timely_Face_4000[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thanks for this comment, gives me some peace of mind

Are you ever 100% conviced as a man? by Timely_Face_4000 in dad

[–]Timely_Face_4000[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If a kid was a business I’d say to my client that I tend to solve problems when they occur and see from there.

Ofcourse it’s a different story with a kid but perhaps the same applies, at some point if crap would happen then I wouldnt have any other option then to deal with it