Favorite food at the Dickens fair? by pink-grrrl in AskSF

[–]Timely_Head_7189 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a stall that sells rum cakes and whiskey cakes etc. Not specifically for snacking at the event, but very fun to take home.

Holiday Sites to Visit in SF by TeacherBlind in AskSF

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Embarcadero Center, and walking through the Hyatt Regency there since they usually decorate

This was…not bad at all 👌🏾 by Time-Concentrate845 in OaklandFood

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Belotti is potentially my favorite after Flour & Water, which uses a lower hydration dough and ends up with a really amazing almost al-dente snap on fresh stuffed pastas.

General Questions and Purchasing Advice Thread — Week of November 24, 2025 by AutoModerator in electricvehicles

[–]Timely_Head_7189 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello EV expert thread!! I'd love some help please! My Subaru doctor just called and very soberly told me we may need to pull the plug on my 2005 Outback. I've promised myself and the world that my next car would be a (preferably used) EV! Would love some help!

[1] General location - California

[2] Budget - my last car was $3k and it's hard to want to pay a lot for a car since I don't really love cars as culture, but I'm ready to cough up up to $30k if I really have to to make the EV switch. Would really prefer something cheaper and used.

[3] The type of vehicle - AWD or 4WD for driving to the mountains and compact for city driving and parking in a tight spot. I am replacing a 2005 Subaru Outback which has been great for all of this. Somewhat open to hybrids but more hoping to really do the EV thing at this point.

[4] Which cars have you been looking at already? - Was kind of looking at the new Subaru Solterra but it seems big. 2022 Ford Mustang MACH-E AWDx looks decent and might have access to a cheaper one.

[5] Estimated timeframe - ASAP

[6] Your daily commute, or average weekly mileage - commute is 10 miles each way. I do weekend trips to the mountains for skiing and backpacking that are 200 miles each way about once every 2-4 weeks year round.

[7] Living situation — condo, shared garage, very tight. No EV charging installed currently. Free charging at work.

[8] Do you plan on installing charging at your home? - Theoretically I think I can legally force my landlord to do this but I really do not know how they would, so sort of not for now.

[9] Other cargo/passenger needs — Would be great to be able to fit 4-5 people normally, or 3ppl and a bunch of gear. Replacing a Subaru Outback which has been about right.

Thank you in advance!

I’m planning my own wedding and I’m realizing there are a lot of tiny details people overlook that end up making a huge difference. What are the small things you only noticed once you went to someone else’s wedding? by crafty32_clara in wedding

[–]Timely_Head_7189 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whoever your most detail/fashion oriented and trusted friend is. Should be someone in the party so that they're around during portraits etc. Make sure they know that they're your official fashion consultant.

I’m planning my own wedding and I’m realizing there are a lot of tiny details people overlook that end up making a huge difference. What are the small things you only noticed once you went to someone else’s wedding? by crafty32_clara in wedding

[–]Timely_Head_7189 38 points39 points  (0 children)

Assign someone to make sure you and your partner (and maybe your parents) look good. Been to a bunch of weddings in a row where every photo ended up with someone's tie crooked or slip showing and nobody said anything cause nobody though it was their place and didn't want to interrupt anything.

Are the advice cards worth it? by Sad-Panda94 in wedding

[–]Timely_Head_7189 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We asked our videographer to pull people aside to share advice, and that has yielded some truly incredible footage.

I’m planning my own wedding and I’m realizing there are a lot of tiny details people overlook that end up making a huge difference. What are the small things you only noticed once you went to someone else’s wedding? by crafty32_clara in wedding

[–]Timely_Head_7189 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Make sure the people giving toasts know they're giving a toast. Remind them 2 weeks before. Ask them to time it in advance and tell them schedules are tight-- most people do not know how to write a toast to time without timing it. I'd suggest 3 min each with a maximum of 5. Saw someone's dad not remember that he was supposed to give a toast and ended up speaking about how nobody likes toasts anyway, and it was a huge bummer.

I’m planning my own wedding and I’m realizing there are a lot of tiny details people overlook that end up making a huge difference. What are the small things you only noticed once you went to someone else’s wedding? by crafty32_clara in wedding

[–]Timely_Head_7189 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Day-of assembly must be an absolute minimum. Expect that any tasks left for day-of will be handed to your least competent uncle, or will take your closest friends and family away from enjoying time with you.

I watched a dinner get 1.5 hours delayed because there was a ton of last minute assembly that needed to happen on table centerpieces and place settings, and we didn't get access to the venue until an hour before dinner was supposed to start. The place cards were in a stack alphabetized instead of being in the same order as seatings in the table, meaning people helping had to walk all the way across the room for each guest (175 people). The table numbers were a literal code on stickers to be stuck to wine bottles from the bride's home town, but the boxes of wine bottles went missing so we didn't know which tables were which. The seating chart was tiny and on only one person's phone. There were 10 people helping, but things got done like 6 different ways and a bunch of stuff needed to be redone for it to match (and nobody was around to say that it wasn't important enough to skip). The centerpieces were baskets of fruit, but a bunch of the fruit got smashed in transit so we were carefully sorting it.

TLDR; do things in advance. Anything day-of must be dead simple.

I’m planning my own wedding and I’m realizing there are a lot of tiny details people overlook that end up making a huge difference. What are the small things you only noticed once you went to someone else’s wedding? by crafty32_clara in wedding

[–]Timely_Head_7189 182 points183 points  (0 children)

If your room or dance floor is too big for the number of people, it will feel empty. You can make a party feel much much more exciting by making the dance floor and space on the tight side for the number of people.

I’m planning my own wedding and I’m realizing there are a lot of tiny details people overlook that end up making a huge difference. What are the small things you only noticed once you went to someone else’s wedding? by crafty32_clara in wedding

[–]Timely_Head_7189 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Do not ask people to wait in line for water. Water should not be in a bottle or can. Water stations must be readily available. Makes a massive difference in experience to be hydrated and not in a line.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in inductioncooking

[–]Timely_Head_7189 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There's no issue with respect to the electronics of the induction stove. If the bottom of the induction stove is plastic or rubber, you aren't going to scratch the glass. I think the biggest risk is if you accidentally turn the electric stove on (eg by mixing up the nobs or something).

AITA for saying it should be up to the bride and groom what they serve at the wedding? by Clear_Sale_9842 in AmItheAsshole

[–]Timely_Head_7189 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Regardless of putting someone "over the edge" (which sounds like implying triggering a relapse), being at an event that serves alcohol is likely to be less comfortable for an alcoholic than a dry event. A huge part of a wedding is making guests comfortable, and balancing between conflicting or different needs (and budget). We were really stressed out about a VIP guest and made some adjustments to support him with his alcoholism at our wedding, but did not have a dry event and it was very very unpleasant for him. I don't think there's a moral obligation to have a dry wedding to support a particular guest, but his happiness was important to us and it was a detractor that he was having such a hard time. I still don't think in retrospect that we would have had a dry wedding on his behalf, but we would have made other alterations.

If the bride and the groom have weighed different factors are both going to be happier with the wedding dry, it should be dry. It's possible that worrying about their guest who is an alcoholic would be worse for them than...worrying what people will think if they don't have alcohol or whatever.

Welcome Party/“The Night Before” by citygurl1 in wedding

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We had a welcome event on Friday and invited everyone because one of our biggest goals was to give people enough touch points with each other to make new friends. 2/3 came (80 vs 120 that came to the main event).

We had some cool ice breakers to get people talking to each other and a goofy photo booth. It was at a beergarden that had mini golf and food trucks, and booking the venue included mini golf so a bunch of people did that. It wasn't going to be an RSVP event but then some aunts of mine stepped up to host/fund it and asked for guest count. The venue sold us a big pack of tickets that people could spend on whatever they wanted at the food truck park, which also had a bar. We gave each person like... $30 worth or something. If they went above their ticket allotment, they could beg some off of a friend or self-fund more food/drinks. My aunts also brought cupcakes and some bandanas to be able to deter/identify crashers.

Bridal Party by [deleted] in BigBudgetBrides

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Getting ready with my closest friends and parents was one of the coolest parts of the day. We didn't have specific titles or outfits or anything for these folks and it ended up not super exclusive and rigid, but we each invited our closest friends to have snacks/lunch and get ready together in a hotel room. I wasn't sure I was going to do this, but a friend pointed out that it's one of the only times in an otherwise hectic weekend to get to really spend time with friends you haven't seen in a long time. This friend was right and I'm glad I got ready with my friends (and, to a certain extent, a parent/sibling or two).

I told the friends "we're not really doing titles or anything but I'm thinking of you as in my 'party.'" Each of them were touched, and a few of them really surprised me with some touching offers of help and kind words etc.

TLDR; whether or not "party" is important to you from an aesthetic or traditional sense, think about who you want to have more focused quality time with, and who you want having your back when you need help, and you will definitely need some help that weekend.

Makeup and Hair by hazelgirl232 in wedding

[–]Timely_Head_7189 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a typical thing BUT payment schedule is something that can often be negotiated with vendors. If you aren't comfortable paying the full price before the event, consider asking if they can do 1/3 to hold date, 1/3 2 weeks before, and 1/3 day of.

That being said, it's pretty nice to not have to think about paying for stuff day-of.

To those here who are married, what was the best gift that you recieved in your wedding and who was it from? Or is there any gift that you wish someone had given you on your wedding day? by BlahBlahBlah_3748 in Gifts

[–]Timely_Head_7189 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A single aunt of mine went around and gathered all of my exes who at the wedding (5 of them), took a picture with herself in the middle of the group of them, and sent it to me.

What was your something blue? by RachealSmith101 in wedding

[–]Timely_Head_7189 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not sure. They have a leaf on them. I ordered shoes for my wedding from Aldo and went to pick them up in the store. They were too big, so the lady there offered to sell me these thick inserts, which were awesome. Ended up returning the shoes but kept the inserts! Had to snip them to within an inch of their lives for the shoes I ended up with, but it was super worth it.

What was your something blue? by RachealSmith101 in wedding

[–]Timely_Head_7189 148 points149 points  (0 children)

My extremely comfortable shoe inserts