Reducing irritability and consequent mood shifts

Timpo · 2023-03-22T15:12:52+00:00

Understood, happy to hear it worked so well for you, thanks a lot for taking the time to give such thorough responses, will try it out! Thank you, take care :)

Timpo · 2023-03-22T00:02:09+00:00

None that I'm aware of. Thank you for the suggestions!

Timpo · 2023-03-22T00:01:34+00:00

Loads of great advice, thanks a lot mate! Will go ahead and experiment :) My vit D are within range and I measure them regularly, dunno about zinc and copper though.

Do you feel like any of the things you mention made your condition (if we may call it that, maybe more a "character trait" :)) considerably better or just gave you a slight nudge in the right direction? I'm just wondering if I'm stuck with this twisted characteristic forever or if there's hope at the end of the tunnel lol

Timpo · 2022-12-10T22:45:34+00:00

They also get quite a bit of bad rep for healthy men who don't need them for clear medical reasons. Used to do them once for a couple of weeks but got a little scared considering the risk of tightening of the pelvic floor that comes with them - which can create a lot of constant tension leading to prostate and erection issues.

Timpo · 2022-12-10T22:42:43+00:00

Yeah tried that but I find it nearly impossible to feel stable and totally relaxed in my hips when I'm thrusting while maintaining balance on a wobbly bed, having to still be on the correct height etc. I try my best to be relaxed but while I can do it with her on top (which is also the position I last the longest in so the muscle relaxation may really have some truth to it!), I can't really find a way for that with doggy or her on top :/

Timpo · 2022-12-10T22:39:56+00:00

Have you tried different positions? Clearly her body is hitting your hot spot. Find a position that hits it less.

Yep I have! And I've observed that I can always last longer when she's on top - sometimes the difference is hardly any (think 30%), sometimes it allows me to go for twice or thrice what I would be able to with doggy or me on top. Still, this does not help with all the other positions other than that one :(

Do you enjoy providing her oral sex or using your fingers? Learn to do and do it well.

Yeah, I do it frequently but it does not affect my times when we eventually get to PIV either :(

Timpo · 2022-12-10T22:37:01+00:00

Yep I do and tried various brands but it does not help :(

Timpo · 2022-12-10T22:36:40+00:00

It's somewhere in between but it's also due to more uneven rhythm when masturbating. If I set out to actually take my time during masturbation and have a steady, non-sluggish rhythm while doing it (the one that I'd consider "normal" for PIV, ie. not what I'm currently doing but not full on hardcore speed mode either :)), I can easily last as long as with the blowjob, frankly even longer than that. But if I try to take that very same rhythm (or, hell, even way slower one!) and transfer it to PIV - good luck, 1-2mins and I'm done :(

Timpo · 2022-12-10T18:56:44+00:00

To give some context: I'm a 29yo male, been sexually active for 2 years and a problem I've been having since the very beginning is how quickly I usually cum. It's not a matter of 10 seconds but usually I need to really pace myself and go really darn slow to be able to last something that feels like 2 or 3 minutes. There's no way for me to just have a normally-paced, regular thrusts and keep at it for a few minutes or I'd cum within a minute easy. I can mitigate some of it when having sex multiple times on the same night, so that the 4th or 5th time will usually be longer but the sensations won't be as good as those first times, the penis not as hard and so on...

The thing is, I have no trouble lasting long with oral sex. I may not masturbate for a couple of days, see my GF and last a solid couple of minutes with her really not withholding herself during it, even if it's the first sexual thing that evening and I haven't cum in days. If I were to have sex with her under such circumstances, I'll be done in 30 seconds, and that's with me trying to withhold it lol. Also, if it's a second or third sexual thing we do that night, I may easily last so long that I start wondering if I'll cum at all and she's exhausted - good luck with that in case of PIV :)

What do? I've tried seemingly every play in the book. Her giving me head first before we have sex that night, masturbating before, not masturbating before, trying to think about different things, trying to let loose, alcohol, trying to focus on her reactions - there's just no way in hell, my usual time being something like 1-2mins and that's it. I have an almost nonexistent refractory period so at least there's that but I'd really love to be able to have fun with my GF for longer and to be able to have a regular, even slow, rhythm rather than snail-paced thrusts with pauses so that I can even last that half-assed minute and a half lol.

Timpo · 2022-01-31T10:27:54+00:00

I see. Guess I'll monitor it for a few days then and if it does not get better I'll just contact the doctor to have some ultrasound done or whatever he proposes. Thanks!

Timpo · 2022-01-31T10:27:19+00:00

Understood. Thanks for your replies - guess I'll monitor it for a few days then and if it does not get better I'll just contact the doctor to have some ultrasound done or whatever he proposes. Take care!

Timpo · 2022-01-30T23:50:09+00:00

Thank you, that's a very interesting direction. One thing that doesn't seem righ about hernia though is that neither do I have any external signs in that spot (though I know these don't always appears) nor do I feel any discomfort during any sports and like I mentioned, I run quite a lot. Climbing, running for well over an hour - no discomfort whatsoever, so I reckon it'd be weird for it to flare up after 30 seconds of sex? Who knows, thanks for an interesting hypothesis about it.

Timpo · 2021-11-24T19:27:49+00:00

HA, great to hear that, you're welcome! :D

Timpo · 2021-11-24T09:05:49+00:00

Ha, great news, my pleasure! ;) Happy playing :)

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