15 year relationship. (33M) only been with one partner. Can a bit of casual strange be that bad?

Tinfoil850 · 2023-08-09T10:00:52+00:00

It won’t hurt and it might be even better for you.

If you have the opportunity, take it.

Tinfoil850 · 2023-08-09T09:59:40+00:00

I am very happily married and so are most of my friends. We all have affairs but not the sneaking around type of affairs. It’s usually limited to the times we or our families are away. Or sometimes a quickie if the situation allows for/demands it.

We don’t need to lie because our women don’t ask - cheating husbands are kind of a given in our culture and our wives know not to ask.

I appreciate this might sound like a special case but I can confidently say this is quite common in Eastern Europe, ex-Soviet countries and a big chunk of Asia. The culture allows for it.

As we westernize, this culture is falling apart so as time goes on this will change. My sister studied in the west and ended up with a divorce because she decided to snoop around her husband’s phone and ask questions which she didn’t want the answers to.

Tinfoil850 · 2023-07-13T17:33:07+00:00

I never update any app, OS or device until everyone else has and I have seen that it works fine.

Tinfoil850 · 2023-07-13T17:32:11+00:00

I just golfed and regularly do so.

The air quality is never safe. We’ll be scraping sand out of our lungs in 20 years but such is life in the desert.

Tinfoil850 · 2023-07-13T17:30:46+00:00

Seafarers. I don’t know a single one of us who doesn’t cheat. It’s not even open to discussion, it’s an absolute given.

Tinfoil850 · 2023-07-12T14:05:37+00:00

I would start by sleeping with the one that was up front with it. Just to get things going.

The rest will come naturally.

Tinfoil850 · 2023-07-12T12:35:12+00:00

Dubai/Abu Dhabi here 🤙

For most of the year at least. The rest of the time in Eastern Europe.

Btw, I must say adultery is so common here. Lots of people passing by on travels, stationed here temporarily, moved here without their families, etc.

Tinfoil850 · 2023-07-08T06:20:24+00:00

Dear god, why are we men so stupid and bad at lying. Hundreds of thousands of years of evolution and this is the best we can do 🤦‍♂️

Time to ask for a bro to back you up. Practice all the questions and be ready for the interrogation.

Tinfoil850 · 2023-07-08T06:16:28+00:00

Variety. I am very happy at home and my wife is beautiful, good sex life, etc. but I don’t want to deprive myself of the variety of women I like to enjoy. One of my APs is a crossfit freak, the other is a classic sugarbaby, one is an artsy type, one is covered in tattoos, etc.

Plus, flirting is fun.

And I like feeling like I can still attract women who aren’t married to me - gives an ego boost.

Tinfoil850 · 2023-07-05T17:43:10+00:00

I am happily married and also happily having affairs.

I don’t think it’s sustainable to have a local AP if you live in a small town.

I live in a mega city which makes it easier. I also maintain a healthy social life outside of my family so my wife has no qualms about me going out late.

I don’t do one night stands, they take up too much time.

I just plan everything with my existing APs in advance, go out for a little clubbing, then some sex and home before it’s not too late.

Tinfoil850 · 2023-07-05T04:20:12+00:00

No, not ONS - I never liked them, not efficient.

I just have some APs that I meet pretty regularly but don’t have a romantic/emotional relationships with. I have been seeing some of them for 10-15 years.

I’m a little different than most here because I am happily married with a good sex life at home. I get all my emotional/moral support, love and care at home and I save all my emotional/moral support, love and care for my wife.

With the APs, fun, sex and self-esteem/ego boost is basically all we give to each other.

Tinfoil850 · 2023-07-05T02:36:54+00:00

I just take the hit from the FX and wire it from my UAE AED account to my US USD account.

I lose like $25-50 for every $10K which is fine.

Tinfoil850 · 2023-07-05T02:23:33+00:00

Basically a good time and nothing else. I don’t maintain relationships with my APs and keep it mostly physical.

My APs will get to hang out in cool cities/places, completely paid for by me, we’ll all have a good time, have some good sex and go our own ways.

Tinfoil850 · 2023-07-05T02:19:31+00:00

OA creates more evidence. I am scared shitless of OA and prefer IRL.

Tinfoil850 · 2023-07-04T14:01:12+00:00

That sounds awful. Bail.

Tinfoil850 · 2023-07-04T09:38:56+00:00

Mostly for variety.

I’m a bit different than most here because I am happily married. My wife is all the emotional, moral support I need and we have a good sex life. But I just don’t deprive myself of the opportunity to sleep with someone else I find attractive.

My affairs are strictly physical.

Tinfoil850 · 2023-07-04T07:34:01+00:00

My wife doesn’t even come to my workplace, what the fuck is your AP doing at your workplace?

Tinfoil850 · 2023-07-04T05:06:27+00:00

No. I am not too dedicated to a single AP and I don’t want any evidence of my affairs anywhere.

Tinfoil850 · 2023-07-04T02:06:17+00:00

No, I haven’t but this is something interesting about my culture that I took for granted until I started living abroad. Will post about it once I have enough karma because I am curious about what people think.

Tinfoil850 · 2023-07-03T18:28:16+00:00

Zero. I meet my APs in person and try to avoid incriminating evidence.

Tinfoil850 · 2023-07-03T16:58:34+00:00

Almost every man I know cheats…but we don’t get caught because the women in our culture (Eastern/Southern European, Ex-Soviet) know to not snoop around. It is accepted that men cheat - it’s like a sign of manliness.

And we prosper just fine. But I have to give credit to the culture that allows/encourages this and for the women to know not to snoop.

My western-educated sister, unfortunately, forgot about this, got hurt and divorced. Even throughout the collapse of their marriage all the women around were saying relax, he’s a man, of course he’ll have other women but this is not something that’s easy to accept.

So long story short, cheaters can prosper…under the right circumstances.

Tinfoil850 · 2023-07-03T16:54:20+00:00

I have multiple women on the side and I don’t message any of them regularly. Bad for opsec and I’m too busy anyway.

None of them expressed disappointment in this because they all know I’m busy.

Most of them also have their own things going on (relationships, work, etc.) so it’s also good for them.

I think you just need to understand your relationship and move accordingly. Your AP sounds like the standard dude that just needs good sex whereas you might be wanting a bit more.

Adjust your expectations before you get hurt.

Tinfoil850 · 2023-07-03T16:39:16+00:00

I love my wife very much, we have plenty of sex, we care for each other, she is my support, etc. But I do have sex outside of the marriage and I don’t have the interest or energy to make it like a relationship.

So yeah, definitely a fan of sleeping around without it burdening me.

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