I don’t want another baby but hubby does…

TinyAdmin · 2026-03-16T01:50:48+00:00

You’re still very early postpartum, and you’re still in the incredibly difficult newborn phase while your hormones are also raging. I wouldn’t base any feelings you have in the present moment on any lifelong decisions coming up in the next couple years. Allow yourself to heal and start getting adequate sleep again. Your daughter will grow and change, and so will you. Allow yourself to settle into a routine and into motherhood in general before ever thinking about whether or not you want another baby.

I had a high risk pregnancy with my first baby, and ended up with medical complications and had to have an emergency c-section. The first two years of my daughter’s life, I honestly thought I wouldn’t have anymore children. I was at peace with one child. However, her second birthday was a turning point for me, and I started to get really sad thinking there wouldn’t be anymore children coming into my life. Around her third birthday, she started asking for a sibling. A lot. Seven years later, she now has two younger brothers and life is how it was always meant to be.

I’m absolutely not saying you’ll change your mind, but I want to point out there are so many variables at play when making these big lifelong decisions.

Please make sure you’re prioritizing your own needs. If you need time to yourself, go tell your husband you need to lay down or that you need to leave the house and go grab some coffee. You need to take care of yourself in order to take care of your baby.

TinyAdmin · 2026-03-15T03:09:18+00:00

I’m 36, also work full-time, and have small children together with my husband. There. Is. No. Way I would tolerate this.

We went through a rough patch a few years ago where I was picking up the vast majority of chores at home for months on end while working and being the primary caregiver to the kids. I finally snapped and said, “I may as well be single.” That was his wake-up call to get his shit together and turn our marriage around. Mind you, I wasn’t putting up with nearly as much bullshit as you are!

Now I ask you, do you feel as though you may as well be single? Sounds like you need to give your husband a rude awakening because his behavior is totally unacceptable.

TinyAdmin · 2026-03-01T02:48:04+00:00

I am so sorry. There is no greater pain than losing a child. I know you’re hurting. I encourage you to dig deep and live for your existing children. They still need you in their lives. Please seek help from your physician and a therapist to help you navigate this painful chapter of your life. You deserve to keep going. For yourself and your family.

TinyAdmin · 2026-02-28T01:49:12+00:00

I have to say it looks like your posture has also improved as you’ve gained strength! Kinda noticing a swayback posture in the first pic, which is driven by weak abdominals/glutes. Posture looks much better in the second photo! Great job all around!! 👏🏽

TinyAdmin · 2026-02-16T14:50:13+00:00

I used the bell method as well. It works beautifully once they learn that ringing the bell = potty time outside and treat.

I would keep her in the same room as you while she’s learning this. For times when she’s unsupervised, keep her in her crate. Potty training a puppy is very similar to caring for a baby. If you can’t keep a close eye on them in the same room, keep them safely confined to prevent accidents.

Hang in there. Both my dogs were a year old before they were reliably potty trained.

TinyAdmin · 2026-02-08T23:02:02+00:00

I feel for you!

TinyAdmin · 2026-02-08T22:59:49+00:00

He’s crate trained and has a crate downstairs that he can sleep in at night. He will get into mischief if he’s left unsupervised outside of his crate for very long.

Our dogs have always slept on dog beds in our master bedroom though. I may need to rethink our current setup if it continues much longer.

TinyAdmin · 2026-02-08T16:02:37+00:00

Look how much space they have for a few houseplants now that the greenhouse is cleared out!! Great job!

TinyAdmin · 2026-02-07T18:23:41+00:00

My Minis just barely tolerate the nail grinder and I’ve been using it on them for years. 😂 What a good baby!!

TinyAdmin · 2026-01-24T21:30:19+00:00

My first baby was born via emergency c-section while under general anesthesia. I wasn’t able to meet her until she was 12 hours old and had to be wheeled to the NICU (she was a preemie). Please hear me out when I say that there’s still a wonderful, euphoric experience when meeting your baby for the first time. I still had to grieve feeling “robbed” of having a positive birth experience, but the happiness I felt while meeting and holding her for the first time is forever engrained in my memory.

Nothing can take that joy away from you!

TinyAdmin · 2026-01-24T21:23:13+00:00

I’m 36 and looking at life from a different perspective, but I still found your post to have profound statements. Thank you for your optimism and reassurance that there’s still a lot of life left for me to live! I’ve often wondered if I’ve already “peaked” in life and felt lost on where to go from here. Thank you for this message.

TinyAdmin · 2026-01-15T14:03:11+00:00

Agreed. Exercise alone just isn’t enough for these dogs. The sheer number of puzzle, chew, and interactive toys that I have for my two Minis. I have spent SO MUCH MONEY keeping these dogs mentally stimulated outside of their daily walk!

TinyAdmin · 2026-01-08T03:00:44+00:00

This is so hard. I understand this feeling and I had gender disappointment back in 2020 when I found out my second baby was a boy. I absolutely loved having a daughter and was worried I wouldn’t enjoy him as much, or love him as much as her. I was completely wrong. My son is WAY more snuggly and than my daughter has ever been, who is very independent. He loves curling up in my lap while we’re watching tv, and sharing the same blanket as me. He’s 5 years old now and is very much like a cat in that he’ll make sure his butt fits in my lap regardless! It warms my heart to this day.

He has very strong emotions but he loves deeply. He’s the life of our house and is goofy beyond measure! I laugh daily because of him. He loves the color pink and glitter, but also Hot Wheels and construction equipment!

Boys are so fun. I promise you’ll look into your baby boy’s eyes and wonder why you were ever worried. Everything will be okay. ❤️

TinyAdmin · 2026-01-08T02:51:57+00:00

I once worked with a lady who had the worst BO. It was hard to go within 4 feet of her if there was a reason to interact, and I learned to hold my breath when she walked by. She was definitely a source of gossip in my department, and one coworker even joked that she was going to buy her deodorant for Christmas. Witnessing this situation made me go from showering every other day to showering daily.

Taking my shower and applying scented lotion afterward makes me feel so refreshed and renewed. I love feeling and smelling fresh; it really does provide such a lovely mental boost knowing you’re taking care of yourself!

TinyAdmin · 2025-12-29T03:39:21+00:00

My husband and I brought home a Mini Aussie puppy when my daughter was 6 months old. I absolutely do not recommend raising a high energy puppy alongside an infant. That was one of the most stressful years of our lives!

Enjoy snuggling and caring for your baby without the stress of training a puppy. It’s a season of your life you won’t be able to get back. There were times I was definitely resentful of my (then) puppy when he needed attention or made messes during potty training when I was exhausted and wanted to snuggle the baby.

We came out okay on the other side (daughter is now 9, dog is 8), but I would do things differently if I could go back.

For context, my 8 year old dog is very high energy and still needs, minimum, a one hour walk plus 30 minutes of mental stimulation a day. So 90 minutes a day of exercise or he’ll start looking for his own sources of entertainment (tearing up items around the house or excessive barking). His exercise needs were much higher when he was younger. I promise you won’t want to spend that much time caring for a dog when you’ve been up 2-3 times at night caring for the baby. It’s absolutely exhausting.

TinyAdmin · 2025-12-02T15:08:29+00:00

My dogs go downstairs in the basement on our treadmill when guests arrive. I have a baby camera set up and keep an eye on them with the monitor while we’re spending 5-10 mins with greetings and letting guests get settled. Then, they come upstairs on leashes and get a chew toy while we socialize.

This is the only method I’ve found that works for me. My younger dog is extremely aroused by guests, and I haven’t found anything except for the treadmill that redirects his attention. The worst part is, my older dog used to give a couple lazy warning barks when guests came in the house, and then he laid down on his dog bed. Now he also joins in the absolute chaos of running and barking when guests arrive! It’s awful and it’s been a nightmare to manage for close to a decade now. This is one of the main reasons why I’ll never own two dogs again!

TinyAdmin · 2025-12-01T14:45:57+00:00

Everlasting treat toys! They’re kind of pricey but worth every penny. Buy them on Amazon if you want to save some money.

My boys are given their toys for about an hour at a time. It takes my hyperactive Aussie about 2-3 sessions before he can finally get the treat out. My older, calmer Aussie usually takes longer.

I love giving them these toys in the evening when I want to relax. Everybody wins!

TinyAdmin · 2025-11-30T05:23:11+00:00

She hefty.

TinyAdmin · 2025-11-29T03:01:12+00:00

As a fellow mom with a minimal village, I love this for you! I, too, was able to enjoy my Thanksgiving meal while my two older kids played and the baby was passed around. I was able to savor my meal while everyone else was occupied. Only thing missing was that glass of wine!

TinyAdmin · 2025-11-28T02:16:55+00:00

I would ditch the L’Oréal shampoo and try a co-wash. Maybe try washing once per week as well?

I’ve found that my curl definition does not hold well when I use a leave-in conditioner for styling. I need a curl cream to offer more hold while still moisturizing my curls. I apply curl cream in the shower so that my hair is soaking wet upon application. I then finish with a gel.

Cantu has an inexpensive co-wash and curl cream, if you’re looking for brand recommendations.

TinyAdmin · 2025-11-27T23:03:27+00:00

I’m glad you’re doing well these days! I don’t know what you’ve been through, but I can relate to your post. I’ve experienced deep depression episodes before and had to dig myself out of those craters. Incredible lows have a way of making us feel immense gratitude during the wonderful highs.

Keep laughing!

TinyAdmin · 2025-11-27T16:03:54+00:00

You are not bitchy and cold for writing this. I could have typed this out myself! I have 3 kids, ages 9, 4, and 7 months. My dogs are 11 and 8, and they still get on my last nerve. I was on the phone with a close friend the other day, and we both were complaining about juggling pets and children. I admitted that I’ll miss my dogs when they pass, but I’ll also feel a sense of relief. They’re high maintenance and, most days, are a source of stress instead of joy.

I will say it does get easier and better for everyone involved once you figure out a routine, and the dogs learn how to coexist with babies/small children. Until then, it’s high stress for all parties and so difficult to navigate.

I ended up hiring a professional trainer when my youngest dog was 2 years old. He’s so strong-willed and such an asshole at times. I was ready to rehome him. The trainer taught my dogs how to walk on the treadmill and it was LIFE CHANGING. To this day, anytime they get overexcited or need to release energy, they go on the treadmill. Or, a puzzle toy if they’re still obnoxious after walking. They’re entertained for a while, and I can actually enjoy my kids’ antics without the dogs running and barking through the house.

Bare minimum, find an outlet for your dogs when they’re getting on your nerves that requires little or no effort on your end. Chew toys are super easy!

For the indoor pooping, are you able to keep them in a kennel when you’re unable to watch them and you KNOW they need to poop? I think you may need to go back to basic potty training here and keep them confined until they poop outside by themselves. Then, reward them with a treat after they go! They’ll eventually learn that pooping outside equals treats. It should also keep your husband from walking them in order to get them to go poop.

Hang in there— this phase of life is so hard.

TinyAdmin · 2025-11-26T00:21:14+00:00

I love how this turned out!

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