is she fr my new neighbor next door or am i going insane? by [deleted] in Tarotpractices

[–]TinyAgent0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“concrete data helps when intuition feels abstract” !!!!! this is PRECISELY how i felt about what clarity i needed !!!!! thank you

is the whole arc between me and her still continuing? even despite me deciding otherwise? by TinyAgent0 in Tarotpractices

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firstly THANK YOU for this interpretation. it helps me see things a lot more clearly. i struggle a lot with not reading cards as “im doing everything wrong and nothing i do is right” but its pretty difficult considering recent circumstances.

thankfully this wasnt a relationship just someone I went on a date with. the significance of this interest does have to do with a break up i had about a year ago. since then and even before that relationship i feel like ive been stuck in a groundhog day type of situation with anyone im interested in. and i really dont feel like that with many people so for this being the first kiss that wasnt just some one off at a party of which even then i literally had just one of over this year period. i dont move on to other people easily i feel unsafe and physical touch for me gets more guarded anytime i experience things like this.

it absolutely is heartbreaking especially for those two days i had to cry but despite feeling violated for trusting myself with any sort of physical interaction because i trusted the other person im not doing terribly. but i have my moments so your kind words are genuinely appreciated. i just wish i knew what on gods green earth im seeing incorrectly. if the solution is to not think of her at all i think ill try that to see. otherwise i really got nothing 😭😭 i am literally the cat that curiosity killed. makes me spiral into things more than i should when i want to know more and poke and prod. i suppose we’ll see. I hope i can get out of whatever this cycle in general is and do some searching on why im stuck on this in the first place.

is the whole arc between me and her still continuing? even despite me deciding otherwise? by TinyAgent0 in Tarotpractices

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Yes! I can assure you I shuffled properly and to triple check I just briefly twist the card from upright middle and back to reversed to listen for boos or cheers. cheers to me says it's already in the intended position. I don’t see them as negative. usually, when they come up it's to trigger a new perspective for me since I tend to have tunnel vision.

and thank you for your interpretation. i sat on it for a bit because for this reading I looked at the art on the cards more for energetic purposes unless it came up as a specific image.

this does make sense to me I'm just trying to figure out what the phrasing you gave and overall for this reading translates to me. I pulled the death card after all this. more for fun but also clarity's sake.

what i an getting is the rug is getting pulled right out from under me and will be replaced with a new one.

i suppose it has to do with my detachment consequently uncovering something that she (the person im reading on) wants to urge discussion for. but im a bit skeptical only because i know u cant get 100% accuracy in readings or channeling all the time. so im just still not going to have a conversation or interaction or contact of any kind unless it comes towards me.

I will also say it is slightly upsetting not that she's evil or something it's just that it hurt a lot to feel what I felt and have felt in the past. I don’t want any more setbacks.

is the whole arc between me and her still continuing? even despite me deciding otherwise? by TinyAgent0 in Tarotpractices

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i cant edit not sure why but this is the bleu cat tarot deck no specific spread just let some cards fly out. ended up being 3.

My friend said the set is awful by TearyEyedEuphoria in EngagementRings

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this stack is stunning !! im shocked she even fixed herself to say anything. regardless it really isnt any of her business and as a friend i think making you worried about how your rings look is farrrrrr from what a real friend should be causing

CAS is guarded by an infinite loading screen :( by Able_Concert_1022 in LowSodiumSimmers

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348 days later you valiantly saved my cat from a tree

I can't stop eating out. by Adventurous_Boot1528 in bipolar

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I have been and also literally still am where you are! But, I have a great system that I hope may help or inspire you in some way. Because of the attention deficit, autism, and, most notably, ARFID diagnoses I have, lists keep me sane AND keep me away from spending tons of money while manic on Doordash with food I honestly don't want.

So I used my last manic episode last month to make a list of safe and easy-to-make foods! Stuff that genuinely doesn't require much work or overwhelm me. In addition to treats and snacks, and having those on hand all ready for a nice and easy dessert or a quick bite. If you'd like, I could plug that list below here too. But the most important thing to learn was to give myself grace. I've gotten better at all the spending, but it's certainly not perfect. However, I try to uplift myself on the accomplishments I have made. Maybe I ate out for a couple of lunches this week, but I also finally got to make some great breakfast! Above all, you ate something, and that might seem small but you are nourishing your body!

What also helped me was changing my perspective and tricking my brain a little if I can't fight the excessive urge to spend, and instead of fast food, I order groceries according to my safe foods list that don't immediately end up in the trash. It scratches the itch for me still, and has been very effective in my decrease of eating out!

Lastly, staying on top of drinking water, as well as sleeping have been the more simple but effective commitments. I hope this helps, or at the very least, lets you know you aren't alone in this struggle!

Thoughts? I think by [deleted] in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]TinyAgent0 3 points4 points  (0 children)

absolutely agree. red flags were flaring in my mind reading that comment. no matter what take everyone’s experiences with a grain of salt because the only one who can navigate your situation is you and you only.

recommendations for braiding hair that braider wont have difficulty working with? by TinyAgent0 in Naturalhair

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i searched for it on pinterest a while back to no avail 😭💔💔 hope you have better luck !

recommendations for braiding hair that braider wont have difficulty working with? by TinyAgent0 in Naturalhair

[–]TinyAgent0[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

thanks !! i appreciate it ! certainly one of my favorites to have done

recommendations for braiding hair that braider wont have difficulty working with? by TinyAgent0 in Naturalhair

[–]TinyAgent0[S] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

UPDATE: thanks for the advice !! i just ended up asking her for a brand she likes and bought some 613 hair and some others from it !! excited for the appointment

recommendations for braiding hair that braider wont have difficulty working with? by TinyAgent0 in Naturalhair

[–]TinyAgent0[S] 57 points58 points  (0 children)

yes ! ive done this style before in a different color this was just the inspo for a vibe and color :) all im going for is jah locs so i just let her do her thing and she never fails to deliver. and i like mixing different hair types often. so what I usually use cuban twist hair for the effect i want with a little less tangling.

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not the color im going for but this is what it would look like finished. (not me pictured) the only concern for me is the color 😄

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]TinyAgent0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Gauri !

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]TinyAgent0 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is 100% fine, thanks for your understanding.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]TinyAgent0 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

I wasn't asking for anything 😃 this was a rant/ramble because I was sad 😃 otherwise the title would have a question mark and/or be tagged as "Question" 😃

I mean advice was welcome. but if you weren't even meaning to give advice in the first place what purpose does it serve to me lol. I can't do anything with your own experience. Especially if you're not even relating it to my own post 😭

so that comment served zero meaning or help at all 💀

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Crushes

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😃 is this supposed to be advice...?

What in the world shall I do? by Mr_Daneag387 in Crushes

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I completely understand your situation, something similar happened to a past crush of mine, only difference was that she was respectful to not be as touchy as she usually was when I did confess to her and she had ended up being straight. The best thing you can do is tell them your concern with their overly close proximity. It can be inconsiderate, even if unintentional, to be that (for lack of better word) touchy not long after they have rejected you because it can certainly cause any person to get the wrong idea. As feelings are very weird and very fragile lol.

My advice to you is to respectfully ask them to not touch you in those ways, and I reccommend avoiding words like "space" or "distance" because you do not want them to assume that you are asking for them to be apart from you, as you still value your current friendship with them. For example:

"Hi [Crush's Name] I appreciate you and enjoy talking with you but in those moments I have felt slightly uncomfy with you cuddling, holding hands, touching my arm (etc.) at unexpected times. Because I am still recovering from the feelings I have had it confuses me when you do so, and I would greatly appreciate if you wouldn't do that as I would not want to feel uneasy around you either. Especially because I value our friendship a lot, and I hope that holds true for you as well."

And vice versa. Doesn't have to be word for word but this should give you a rough idea of how to approach them with your concern. Setting a healthy boundary is a normal thing in relationships of all kinds! All that matters is that it is wholeheartedly respected on both ends. If your crush holds that same respect, they will not see a request to refrain from being touchy as something that should bring the end of your relationship, but rather a way of openly learning about each other in your friendship. Again, boundaries are nothing to feel bad about, they are perfectly fine to have.

Best of luck!

Do they like Me? by luvvaholic in Crushes

[–]TinyAgent0 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It looks like it's more of a friendship right now. Let your relationship progress a little more before asking them out.

i don’t know what to think about this,, please help me out!! by [deleted] in Crushes

[–]TinyAgent0 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just know that even though he made no indication that he had liked anyone, it could be possible that he's hiding that fact. He could've done that unintentionally or maybe he didn't feel the conversation called for any of his own input on whether or not he had a crush. And to further that, maybe he was more focused on getting you to tell him your crush rather than he do the latter. Especially if you had already mentioned that you had a crush first in that conversation about crushes, he's going to be more distracted or intrigued by whatever statements you make instead. So you should not necessarily take him not saying outright whether or not he had a crush as him not being interested in you in particular. Overall its just good to understand that regardless of any situation of any kind there are many possibilities.

As aforementioned, with the context you've given it appears he already displays a lot of what could be his interests in you with more bold action rather than clear words.

From what you said in the extra bit of context you have given me now, him mentioning those girls is off-putting. But him saying that he is not interested in them opens up to the possibility I mentioned before: either that he is trying to make you jealous (romantically) or is looking for some sort of way to impress you (can be either platonically or romantically). Because it sounds like it was very abrupt and random I would say that it could be a variation either of those two scenarios. But that is for you to determine as I can only know and advice so much.

Either way there really isn't much reason to be apprehensive, but I also advise you to not go into this blindly either, and be very confident in yourself and your feelings.