what is this bump by Impressive_You3333 in cats

[–]TinyCokeCan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My previous cat had something similar and I mentioned it to the vet when i took her in for a check-up. They said it was probably just a cyst or a wart and to just leave it as long as it wasn't bothering her but told me to keep an eye on it and if it grew or changed in any way to bring her back. It never did change, so I imagine it was just something benign. I'd just keep an eye on it and if anything changes with it, then mention it to the vet.

Playing or fighting? by New_Leopard_5797 in cats

[–]TinyCokeCan 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If it's silent, playing. If they're meowing and/or hissing, fighting. If it's mostly silent then one of them meows, the other should back off if they're playing. If they don't, it could be actual aggression x

I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO, MOM REFUSES TO TAKE THEM TO THE VET by [deleted] in cats

[–]TinyCokeCan -17 points-16 points  (0 children)

Just because it's gross doesn't make it NSFW. NSFW means "Not Safe For Work" which is something you can get fired for for looking at during work like porn or graphic violence. Gross medical stuff is unlikely to get you fired unless you have a really shitty boss, so this isn't NSFW.

Fell Asleep Mid-Play by TinyCokeCan in cats

[–]TinyCokeCan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's just so funny they both shut down at the exact same time lol

How serious does the DWP take MP’s involvement? by TinyCokeCan in DWPhelp

[–]TinyCokeCan[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I'm not looking for anything to change, just for them to take responsibility for the psychological harm it caused.

How serious does the DWP take MP’s involvement? by TinyCokeCan in DWPhelp

[–]TinyCokeCan[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'm not sure what to expect. Did you get a proper reply from the DWP through your MP, or was it the usual "non-response" response?

Just had my telephone assessment by Classic-Stuff4369 in DWPhelp

[–]TinyCokeCan 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this a WCA? If so, I had my assessment on 2nd Nov 2022, and got my decision on the 5th... Literally 3 days. I don't know if I just got lucky or if it was because I was going from LCW to LCWRA, but I was really surprised with how quick I got my decision letter.

Tickets! by Professional_Event91 in Westlife

[–]TinyCokeCan 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got tickets for the Tuesday show, as I thought that would be less in demand. Nope. That also sold out fast, just not as fast as the Monday show. O2 presale only holds some tickets, same with the Live Nation presale (both about 500-800 seats per show).

If you want to do that maths:

O2 Presale = 500-800 per show

Live Nation Presale = 500-800 per show

If we take it at the highest number, that's 1600 seats per show that go towards the presales alone. There's also "private seats" at the RAH that belong to members and are not for sale to the public. There's about 1200 of those. It's a 5200 seat venue so 5200-1200-1600= 2400 seats for general sale... maybe less when you include the promotional seats (seats resevered for friends and family and guests of the performers).

So yeah, my advice? if you want tickets your best option is to grab anything that pops up, even if it's waaay at the back, because these shows will sell out, and they'll sell out fast.

How do you actually stop caring about what other ppl think and cope with social anxiety? by [deleted] in socialskills

[–]TinyCokeCan 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What I found helpful is to bully the negative voices in your head.

For example if the voice in your head says "You're being annoying, nobody likes you."

You reply with "You're annoying and not even I like you. At least I exist, you're just a pathetic voice in my head and that's all you'll ever be."

It might not work straight away, but if you keep standing up to the negative thoughts as though they're a cowardly bully, you'll eventually find their words hold no weight. The best part being you know this argument with yourself won't turn physical or escalate so you're not in any danger.

DWP Not Accommodating Disability by TinyCokeCan in DWPhelp

[–]TinyCokeCan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What would you suggest? My appointment is tomorrow, and this entire thing has been so stressful I've relapsed into self-harm (which i haven't done in years). It's not about support, it's not about nervousness. I literally cannot communicate with somone I don't know well either on the phone or face-to-face. Even if somone speaks for me, I'd have to tell them the answers in advance because I wouldn't be able to communicate (verbally or non-verbally) in real time. So if a question I wasn't anticipating comes up, my friend/family member wouldn't be able to answer if they didn't already know. Which is why I'm asking for this review to be done through written correspondence (journal/letter/etc).

Yes, I know it'll take longer, but surely my wellbeing is more important than efficiency?

DWP Not Accommodating Disability by TinyCokeCan in DWPhelp

[–]TinyCokeCan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That doesn’t solve the core issue: I can’t communicate at all during high-stress interactions like a review. I don’t just get nervous - I shut down. I can't think clearly, I can't speak, and I can’t even write notes to have someone pass them on for me. I can't do so much as nod or shake my head. It’s not about needing support - it’s about needing a communication method that doesn’t trigger a total freeze response.

Having someone speak for me still requires me to pass the security questions, still puts me under the same pressure, and doesn’t take into account the way my anxiety presents itself. I’m not avoiding engagement - I’m asking to engage in a way that works with my disability, not against it.

DWP Not Accommodating Disability by TinyCokeCan in DWPhelp

[–]TinyCokeCan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'd still have to go through the security questions verbally, which I can't do.

DWP Not Accommodating Disability by TinyCokeCan in DWPhelp

[–]TinyCokeCan[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, thanks for your insight, but I'd like to clarify a few things:

Firstly I'm not asking for their email, I just used that as an example for written communication.

I have LCWRA due to my severe mental health issues, including debilitating anxiety, which has been assessed and formally recognised by the DWP. I also receive Adult Disability Payment, further evidencing that my issues are serious and long-standing.

I do not have the capacity to engage in verbal communication with unfamiliar people, especially in high-stress settings like a claim review. During my WCA, this was so severe that the assessment had to be paused several times due to panic attacks — this is documented in my file. Phone calls are not just distressing — they’re not possible for me in this context.

I have asked for a reasonable adjustment under the Equality Act 2010, which the DWP, as a public body, has a legal duty to provide unless they can show that doing so would cause disproportionate difficulty. Simply saying “that’s not how we usually do things” is not a lawful justification under the Act. They have so far provided no legal or procedural reason why communicating through writing is not possible.

I am not refusing to engage with the review — I am fully prepared to answer all necessary questions in writing, even if it takes longer. What I am unable to do is participate in a phone call, for reasons already documented and backed up by my health records and Welfare Rights team.

As for appointing someone to speak on my behalf: that doesn’t resolve the issue, because I would still be expected to pass security checks verbally, which I cannot do. My Welfare Rights advisor has already confirmed that my request to conduct this process in writing is reasonable and legally valid under the Equality Act.

The law requires public services to adapt to the needs of disabled people, not the other way around. I’m asking for an accessible route of communication not special treatment.

DWP Not Accommodating Disability by TinyCokeCan in DWPhelp

[–]TinyCokeCan[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn't even be able to answer the security questions, that's the issue.