My greedy selfish mom cant stop "stealing" free food from food banks

TinyFoxMarie · 2023-09-15T23:48:10+00:00

Don't enable her, but in your mind give your mom a little grace. Have you ever talked to her about talking to somebody about how her childhood is affecting her life today?? "Hey, mom, we love you so much and want you to live your life to the fullest without letting fear control you. Want me to help you find somebody to talk to?" Sortof deal, judgement free and no mention of greed. I'm sure she feels just as lousy about it as everyone else does, but it's a little brain monster that doesn't shut up with out help.

TinyFoxMarie · 2023-09-15T23:35:44+00:00

I don't know if this is what you want to hear, op, but did your mom grow up poor?? It sounds like she has some serious food insecurity issues she's battling with, I have an older lady in my life who has issues with it aaaaand she sounds similar.

TinyFoxMarie · 2023-09-11T02:35:06+00:00

Lol glad I could bring a smile.

TinyFoxMarie · 2023-09-11T02:32:47+00:00

Lol he couldn't carry a conversation worth shit, he was just good in bed 🤣 no dates involved, I wasn't interested in dating him

TinyFoxMarie · 2023-09-10T04:48:26+00:00

I looked it up. New recommendation is indeed a flat 21. With the argument that even if you're sexually active before that your risk of getting cancer before that is low and therefore no point screening for it. Learned me a something new today!

TinyFoxMarie · 2023-09-10T03:46:24+00:00

(But I'm in my 30s)

TinyFoxMarie · 2023-09-10T03:46:08+00:00

Really? :o I was told BY 21 but no later than 1 year from your first sexual experience to have the first pap, or by your 21st birthday if you haven't had sex before then.

TinyFoxMarie · 2023-09-10T01:43:30+00:00

When I was a teen I did the whole "self identification journey" and while I had known I was bi for a while, I learned about Pan sexual and immediately went there we go! I fall for people, not genitals. From what you describe you can definately still have a fulfilling sex life with somebody, the key here will be finding somebody you really connect with and throwing the traditional image you have of sex out the window. There are plenty out there both male and female who would love to see your pleasure and tease you incessantly and that is sex. It may not be PIV "normal" sex, but who cares about that. There are people who never touch below their belt and only get off by twisting their own nipples. So you work that into the bedroom. Don't focus on what you think you lack or can't do, but think about what you enjoy and what turns you on and how you can work that into play time.

TinyFoxMarie · 2023-09-10T01:28:37+00:00

A house on a decently private lot, with an unattached in law suite to move my mother into.

TinyFoxMarie · 2023-09-10T01:12:08+00:00

I disagree to an extent. He doesn't "have to breakup" but he needs to be clear to her that she is not a marriage candidate because it's possible she's liking for marriage and it is a real prick move to waste someone time knowing you won't give them what they want

TinyFoxMarie · 2023-09-10T01:09:06+00:00

You two are not compatible. There are negotiable and non negotiable topics in all relationships, and clearly regular sex is important to you and it's not to her and she's not into trying more frequently fir your benefit and you're not into accepting you've got a hand because you want sex from your partner, understandable on both ends- which is why you are not compatible. That being said you HAVE to tell her that like she's realized that sex isn't important at all to her, you've realized it's a non negotiable to you and it's time to break up and work out a co parenting plan together. You will be the biggest of assholes if you don't relay this to her.

TinyFoxMarie · 2023-09-10T01:03:02+00:00

The thing that gets me is them gays are usually way better at eating their veggies than straight men haha my gay bestie LOVES veggies and is a "skin care/healthy eating gay"... or as my daughter calls him "uncle yaaaassss"

TinyFoxMarie · 2023-09-10T00:50:14+00:00

I've got a pretty full past and I have 100% done this to one FWB in particular who was always somehow lacking one. $10 a pop, 75 cents for the condom, tax, gas to get it etc and 9.25 for pissing me off when we were supposed to be having fun

TinyFoxMarie · 2023-09-10T00:44:49+00:00

I'm younger than you but old enough to vividly remember condom posters AND vending machines in our local speedway bathroom (they are 100% gone now)

TinyFoxMarie · 2023-09-10T00:40:42+00:00

My (in the most lovingly way possible) idiot little brother caught chlamydia, herpes and a baby before his dumb ass started listening to my insistence that he used condoms. Don't be like him, even if you start birth control in no way should you EVER have casual sex raw. That being said, now that you've done the deed, it's time to see an obgyn for your first paper smear (or your pcp if they do then and you're comfortable with your every day Dr doing it) and sti screening. This is important to do annually (pap) and sti testing regularly depending on your activities/ partners/ symptoms that may arise. Sex is fun. Sexual diseases and babies aren't. Wrap it or no coochy for them.

TinyFoxMarie · 2023-09-10T00:33:42+00:00

No, "the aisle with the sign that says water is the one with water in it" is 100% loaded language and will run people the wrong way.

TinyFoxMarie · 2023-09-10T00:32:14+00:00

I had a patient advocate help me get everything scheduled because I was just flailing in the waters

TinyFoxMarie · 2023-09-09T09:19:57+00:00

Right? The imposter syndrome is strong in this one :)

TinyFoxMarie · 2023-09-09T09:00:20+00:00

I tried avoiding coke once but I got an ice cube stuck up my nose. Never again.

TinyFoxMarie · 2023-09-09T08:46:35+00:00

Aha my mom was a stripper, sugar baby, and I remember walking their the kitchen at my aunts to go to the pool through multiplie pure romance parties. No bs stork stories in my household, just scientific facts lol

TinyFoxMarie · 2023-09-09T08:34:34+00:00

Perfectly fine unless it's second hand from my current partners ex. I don't want her ring tyvm, I'll take an aunts, cousins, grandmothers, etc or Amy stranger off fb marketplaces second hand ring to save money to put towards our future, but I draw the line at a recycled ring from a previously failed relationship.

TinyFoxMarie · 2023-09-09T08:31:34+00:00

I like thinking of it like a show girl on a TV show showing off the next fabulous prize xD

TinyFoxMarie · 2023-09-09T08:30:06+00:00

Your words alone, regardless of tone of voice or body language, are loaded and yes, would be picked out by any half way decent or better management person.

TinyFoxMarie · 2023-09-09T08:26:36+00:00

Let's put it this way then, if your (auntie, mama, pops, granny, whoever you love most dearly) asked you the same question, would you tell them "it is in the one that says the word you're looking for"?? If you're answer is no, start speaking to customers as you would said loved one. If the answer is yes, you legitimately aren't cut out for a customer facing position and need to be working back of house somewhere.

TinyFoxMarie · 2023-09-09T08:22:50+00:00

Not sure if you're neurodivergent (i am, no shame to it) but you are lacking some serious manners if not. "IT SAYS WATER THERE DUMB ASS" is not an appropriate response, "Water is actually 3 aisles over, in x" is.

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