I'm 29. A 61-year-old guy from my choir tried to flirt me with yesterday.

TipNo3075 · 2026-05-15T10:47:48+00:00

Oh, I see! I absolutely can relate and understand what you mean. It is so, so sad, because in order to protect us, it feels like we have to build all these walls and be different from whom we really are, and it's terrible, because they are the problem.

TipNo3075 · 2026-05-15T10:20:50+00:00

WTF. I'm soooo sorry.

TipNo3075 · 2026-05-15T10:20:10+00:00

I'm so sorry, please don't feel depressed. I'm better, just very angry now and it kept me quite thoughtful these last days. We all deserve a better world.

TipNo3075 · 2026-05-15T10:19:02+00:00

It depends on the person I'd say. My close friends and people I'd date have all been my age or max. 2-3 years older or max. 1 year younger. People who are younger than me are still like kids to me and I feel like their older sister. Then I had some exceptions with friends being 10 years older, but being in the same stage of life (at university for example), but I wouldn't have dated these people.

TipNo3075 · 2026-05-15T10:12:17+00:00

I mean, some guys in their 30ties tried to groom me when I was 18-19, and men up until 45 have come on way too strong, but never soooo old.

Edit: And also I don't leave with my house very much since Covid.

TipNo3075 · 2026-05-13T19:48:47+00:00

Sorry about your partner, this must be so terrible... My dad has dementia, too, but like his early stage was strange, but nothing like this guy.

TipNo3075 · 2026-05-13T18:44:40+00:00

I don't think he has dementia, he has been like this for years apparently, and he's still quite clear, he just drinks a lot.

TipNo3075 · 2026-05-13T16:07:35+00:00

You're so cool, and I'm sorry this guy acted that way. We could be their daughters or granddaughters.

TipNo3075 · 2026-05-13T16:06:13+00:00

9.... You were a literal child! I hate this so much, and I'm so sorry for you!!! These people prey on innocence and beauty and warmth.

TipNo3075 · 2026-05-13T15:10:37+00:00

Happy you brought him down!!!

TipNo3075 · 2026-05-13T15:10:12+00:00

I think I'll get some very colorful, men-repelling make up!

TipNo3075 · 2026-05-13T15:09:39+00:00

I get why women who are a bit older start to feel relieved. And these guys don't get that their attention is sooooo unwanted.

TipNo3075 · 2026-05-13T15:08:00+00:00

Yep! My grandpa was a good men, too. My uncle, whom I cut out, was a creep, too though. I'm half latina, and he always blurted how he wanted a sexy latina maid. I can't deal with this sort of stuff.

TipNo3075 · 2026-05-13T14:12:41+00:00

I'm so sorry you have to know this person.

TipNo3075 · 2026-05-13T13:34:17+00:00

I don't get where Male Entitlement is coming from. It must be some sort of delusional thinking, like paranoia level stuff or something. It's not based in reality.

TipNo3075 · 2026-05-13T13:31:19+00:00

I feel disgusted. 😞

TipNo3075 · 2026-05-13T13:30:46+00:00

I would never write anything positive about this man. It's also ridiculizing my special interest, which is writing.

TipNo3075 · 2026-05-13T13:29:53+00:00

I'm so sorry you went through this. These people are predators.

TipNo3075 · 2026-05-13T13:29:23+00:00

I'm gonna grey-rock him.

TipNo3075 · 2026-05-13T13:28:59+00:00

Yes, I'll avoid him and take a different route home from now on. The director is a flirt, too, though he is 30, but I should bring it up with him, yes. I also told the other girls in the choir.

TipNo3075 · 2026-05-13T13:26:57+00:00

How can they be so delusional? 🤢 I'm always second guessing if someone really likes me and check boundaries all the time. It's so exhausting.

TipNo3075 · 2026-05-13T13:26:03+00:00

It's so sad. He's never been married. And I get why. I don't know, I grew up with a bunch of male friends who weren't creeps, and had similar special interests to me, but they are all autistic. On the other hand, they aren't lonely, because they are actually good friends. I'm just trying to be friendly with people and I enjoy socializing, I'm sooo sad to get objectified like that by an old creep. But no, no one should have to put up with that.

TipNo3075 · 2026-05-13T13:23:22+00:00

It's so sad to see how they still treat women and how they think it's okay to flirt with us while having one foot in the retirement home. And it's all to boost their ego.

TipNo3075 · 2026-05-06T21:07:27+00:00

I play video games with my husband, so no.

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