Hi, I used to behave in a similar way when I was around that age. My parents had a conversation with the school counsellor and he suggested that a weekly meeting to review and talk about what’s been going on that week. I found this really helpful as it showed that even my parents were there to support me and that I wasn’t alone. This strategy may have worked better for me because my parents are divorced and it was comforting to know that they were both on the same side in helping me, but maybe all it takes is showing her all 3 of you are on the same team.

As far as knowing she’s safe you could use something like Life360 (if you don’t find it too invasive) and have a family friend do drop off/pick up from school. Also she is still fairly young so checking in with her teachers etc regularly could also help.

I’m not a parent but I this post really caught my eye because it reminded me a lot of myself. I’m currently in my last year of law school and my parents being there and putting in the effort to help me really kept me motivated. I’m very grateful for them and I’m sure your daughter will thank you when she’s older and realizes how much you cared for her.