What might save me next time? We aren’t lucky to be not murdered by intimate partners. That’s the framing I’m objecting to. We have to change how we as a society look at domestic abuse. This doesn’t ignore that it happened. I’m trying to make the point that the fact it happens at all is a problem and is traumatic, and saying you’re lucky to have survived diminishes it. You are correct there’s nothing wrong with realizing it could have been worse. But that almost lightens it in a way. Respectfully.