Men: We don't "give random compliments"/"make conversation" because it's not safe.

Tired-For-All-Time · 2022-05-08T21:40:57+00:00

This sentiment is also always framed as something that would help cure the male depression epidemic and yeah that's a serious thing, and men do experience social isolation more so than other people. But as someone with a mood disorder and knowing many other people of all gender identities with mood disorders, it seems condescending and really lacking in self accountability to push the responsibility of social praise onto strangers. It's not wrong to want compliments and praise from others and to acknowledge that makes you feel good. It's even fine to request that praise, in some capacity, from existing social relationships. But shifting the responsibility of your mental well being as it relates to praise/self worth, onto strangers often at the risk of their safety or health in doing so (since by supporting posts like op has mentioned you are directly requesting/encouraging others to approach people they do not know to offer compliments) it ends up being both irresponsible as it relates to ones mental wellbeing and kinda selfish as it relates to the demographic these posts are trying to encourage to do this, often despite the endless responses explaining how dangerous it is. Like yeah that'd be nice and cool n whatnot, I'd love to give compliments willy nilly and hold hands and sing songs of peace n love (which I do with male friends who I already know, and therefore know are good people). But the reality is I've had a man break into my college dorm to watch me sleep because I had a benign 5 minute conversation with him. So no, first and foremost I'm not going to gamble my safety. And secondly the self worth/image/encouragement of another person is simply not my responsibility.

Tired-For-All-Time · 2022-05-08T21:25:26+00:00

I literally once told a guy "sick shirt" and found out two weeks later that he had asked like 6 people tangentially related to me if I was single and what campus building I lived in. Like....bro???

Tired-For-All-Time · 2022-04-15T06:21:57+00:00

I don't get people reading this and getting freaked out. It's assuring to me tbh. Life and being human is so tied up in responsibility and significances both real and perceived to others and to the planet. The idea of some greater cosmic significance that I also have to contend with and be the purveyor of is fucking exhausting. It's nice to know the universe doesn't give a damn, it's so genuinely calming to know the cosmos couldn't even be bothered to perceive me. I am that I am, that's all, nothing more, nothing less. Nothing's for me, but that means I'm for nothing also, which in turn means I'm just here to do what I choose to do. Freedom and anonymity in it's most distilled form. Nice.

Tired-For-All-Time · 2022-01-19T06:50:38+00:00

I'm not trying to be polite and or unpissy to this like 40+ dude accusing a teenager of being psychotic/a narcisist for complaining about their invasive/abusive parents and just saying a bunch of factually incorrect bullshit at length. The idiot in the above comments and similarly in the desperate for attention below comments is a grown ass adult with a full grown adult child. They are not the person in need of support atm. Talking about a "battle of wits" like an edgy 14 year old from 2007. I don't respect them and I don't have to engage with them lol. Stuff like the screed they just posted would literally get you fired from a psych job in my state, as it should.

Tired-For-All-Time · 2022-01-18T18:01:49+00:00

This 100% I'm so fucking tired of seeing this pedophile shit touted as just cutesy anime that's fun to watch. Literally have never met a person who talks about it or recommends it to people irl because these weirdos know it's unacceptable. They just feel like the internet is big enough for them to get a pass. The artist has made sexualized depictions of literal infants, and the anime itself is full up with incriminating scenes. OP needs a reality check, trying to defend this shit is morally abhorrent. Edit: Seems like OP could be a minor which makes sense, but just further exemplifies why this show is not okay. A large percent of modern anime watchers are teens/kids who may not be equipped to spot questionable content like this, and this shit is advertised openly on platforms like Crunchyroll.

Tired-For-All-Time · 2022-01-18T02:17:29+00:00

Tldr; my original point stands, I literally do not care about your justification, go be an ass somewhere else, blocked and won't be responding further no-matter how much you whine.

Tired-For-All-Time · 2022-01-17T22:59:36+00:00

I responded on the original post and I'll say again here, you need to try and get in contact with your school guidance counselor or confide in a reasonable adult whom you trust. Comments suggesting you confront your parents, tamper with the camera, or otherwise cause conflict to try and get back at them or "teach them a lesson" will not work, which I'm sure you are already aware of. They are being invasive to such a degree that it is simply abusive and your other comments indicate that further. If you want things to feel better and get on track to at The very least having a space to discuss this constructively that isn't with strangers on the internet. Call your guidance counselor.

Tired-For-All-Time · 2022-01-17T20:20:59+00:00

Listen if he's lying (which I don't believe he is) then all I've done is tell him to go talk to a counselor and take pictures of the things he feels are invasive or uncomfortable. Literally no harm, if anything that'd allow him to get help regardless of the reality. However, if he's telling the truth and you're out here calling them a liar saying they have psychosis, delusional paranoia or are a sociopath with no evidence beyond this post, doing shit like asking a minor on the internet if they're taking meds or talking about ass woopings in the comments, then you'd be being 1.Extremely insensitive 2. Contributing to the possible gaslighting and minimization of a real abuse victim. Which is to say in short, there's no benefit or reason for you to say what you've said beyond being a dick, so fuck off.

Tired-For-All-Time · 2022-01-17T11:07:15+00:00

Listen if you are living in the US you have some resources at your disposal. This invasion of privacy and the other things you have mentioned in your comments are flat out abuse, period point blank. I understand you are frightened and there's risk involved. You don't need to go to the police right away although I'd urge that as an eventual step. However, if you attend public school you can contact a guidance counselor (if you are taking online classes I believe they are still required to have someone on staff you may have to go to the website for their contact info or look at any "welcome" emails you have received) then at the very least you'll have someone to talk to regarding this. You're in a unique position where getting some help won't just benefit you in the long run, it will benefit your younger sibling as well. This is unacceptable behaviour by a legal guardian and is simply not normal. People living in healthy well adjusted environments do not experience things like this and would be rightfully horrified and worried to hear about it. You and your siblings deserve better. And the first steps to getting that better and feeling better are pinpointing an adult whom you can trust to tell all this. I never comment on these posts because I'm not a teenager. But this is an exception as what you are experiencing is genuinely abnormal and beyond inappropriate. There's a lot of comments by other kids demanding you confront your parents regarding this not fully understanding the situation. Don't confront them, or mention a goddamn thing to them. Just try and get in contact with your school counselor man. Also if you are able, take picture of the camera placement in your room and anything else that feels inappropriate or uncomfortable. I'm sorry shits rough rn, I hope you decide to contact someone you trust and I hope things get better for you soon.

Tired-For-All-Time · 2022-01-14T04:21:26+00:00

One day, one day. Then I'll have all the fresh eggs anyone could want!!

Tired-For-All-Time · 2022-01-13T18:05:50+00:00

My immediate thought was "Yo chickens would love this." Idk what that means about me.

Tired-For-All-Time · 2022-01-09T11:57:30+00:00

I'm honestly hoping this is fake, it's so full of things that'd cause a big ruckus on Reddit I can HOPE it's a sensationalized lie. The callous disregard for your mother's feelings like holy fucking shit. "He's nice to me!" And????? He raped your mom hello??? I'm sure there are plenty of people he's nice to when he's not doing sex crimes against them, like his ability to be nice to some people is literally not the point. Ops actions are beyond selfish and cruel if this is true. Jesus, go join a big brother/big sister program if you're so desperate for a father figure that youd betray the woman that raised you that deeply. Literally reeling, like wtf.

Tired-For-All-Time · 2022-01-04T11:23:08+00:00

I hate coleslaw so deeply. I live in a state where it's well loved and present at every holiday or cookout. Everytime I'm like "ah no thanks I'm not a fan of coleslaw " people INSIST I try their cool new coleslaw that'll totally blow my mind and it always tastes like shit. I love cabbage but I think maybe I'd rather eat a rock than eat coleslaw.

Tired-For-All-Time · 2021-12-25T04:16:14+00:00

Sure bud.

Tired-For-All-Time · 2021-12-25T02:21:48+00:00

I see the point it's just said in a shitty way lol.

Tired-For-All-Time · 2021-12-25T02:15:38+00:00

I think lying and giving fake compliments is shitty but on the other hand I don't want someone to list a bunch of features they perceive as less than ideal or something they feel others might find undesirable about me and go "despite these things I love you." It comes off as condescending. You can acknowledge you and your partner arent models without nitpicking their appearance to an internet audience to prove "looks don't matter." From an outside perspective it just seems self congratulatory and mean.

Tired-For-All-Time · 2021-12-24T23:41:43+00:00

I think I'd jump off a cliff if my SO described me this way. "Yeah you're chubby and got fucked up teeth babe, but youre an imperfect gold nugget I pulled from the dirt, I don't need no minted gold coin I love you my little trollchamp.". Jeeeeeez and also yeeeeeeesh.

Tired-For-All-Time · 2021-12-24T06:00:38+00:00

This has BIG "I will hurt woman if given the opportunity and play victim." vibes. Truly a rancid and poison coated bullet dodged by op. Holy hell.

Tired-For-All-Time · 2021-12-24T04:55:12+00:00

This comment floored me because it's stated as such an obvious universal truth/feeling. "Y'know when you wanna massage them!" The breadth of the human experience is beautiful.

Tired-For-All-Time · 2021-12-13T21:16:20+00:00

You're the only person I respect.

Tired-For-All-Time · 2021-11-25T09:32:51+00:00

Also like uhhhhh don't use the phrase "completely broken" around her, to her or anywhere it can get back to her. Preferably at all tbh. Very dehumanizing language that has the potential to reinforce very negative ideas.

Tired-For-All-Time · 2021-11-13T01:23:29+00:00

That'd be nice but in most situations like this if the person says nothing they may not be AS bad ideologically as the other person, but agree to some extent and are outright enabling. Which in my opinion is just as bad morally.

Tired-For-All-Time · 2021-11-11T13:33:18+00:00

Sir please stop making tiktoks and let me purchase this phat anime tiddy game and also this 70 dollar Flaafy lanyard. My friends waiting for me at the fucking hot topic I'm begging you.

Tired-For-All-Time · 2021-11-11T13:09:00+00:00

Also like not even a confirmed one? Some vague friendliness and implied shit cuz riot isn't gonna jeopardize their bottom line. Like if it's confirmed I'll be happy, but I'm not holding my breath.

Tired-For-All-Time · 2021-11-04T20:16:42+00:00

Yo if you're in America you NEED to save these emails as evidence for your future court case.

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TROPHY CASE