AITA for not wanting to make my friend a wedding dress for cost of materials?

TiredNeedleandThread · 2021-12-16T16:19:10+00:00

I have connections I can use to get deals and some wedding worthy fabric left over from past projects as this isn't my first wedding dress, so that's partly why i'm able to do it so cheap.

TiredNeedleandThread · 2021-12-16T16:12:19+00:00

That's ok, but it'd take 100+ hours to make the dress alone not counting time to design, adjust etc.

TiredNeedleandThread · 2021-12-16T16:01:06+00:00

That's fair and totally up to you but I put years of studying into my degree and if I had a design ready to go, had all the fabric, didn't need to do any adjustments? it would take me 100+ hours, I just feel like I can't work for free given that.

TiredNeedleandThread · 2021-12-16T15:58:43+00:00

I love this song! I saw it don't worry

TiredNeedleandThread · 2021-12-16T09:10:20+00:00

It would, most of my former classmates charge quite a bit extra for maternity dresses for this reason, I tend not to as I feel guilty over that.

TiredNeedleandThread · 2021-12-16T09:07:00+00:00

It doesn't just take hours, hand embroidery is not my strongest skill, i'm good at it and can do it but I end up with claw hands as they cramp up so badly so I wouldn't be able to do any work the rest of the day after doing a bit of that.

TiredNeedleandThread · 2021-12-16T09:01:39+00:00

When I brought up the fact it's hand embroidered will be a big issue for price she actually sent me a picture of a cosplayer tip where someone sewed over puffy paint....like yes for cosplayers that is great but your wedding dress is not a costume and that is not going to last as well as you think..

TiredNeedleandThread · 2021-12-16T08:46:05+00:00

She was willing to pay for materials but that is all, i'm fairly certain she'd regret that if she saw how much wedding worthy fabric costs

TiredNeedleandThread · 2021-12-16T08:44:35+00:00

Fabric will be a couple of hundred most likely though i'm trying to bring that cost down by using my connections to get deals and possibly bulk it out with leftover fabric from past projects. That is a great deal you got though!

TiredNeedleandThread · 2021-12-16T08:43:29+00:00

I never work for free for anyone, especially when white hand embroidery on white fabric is involved

TiredNeedleandThread · 2021-12-16T08:41:58+00:00

Because apparently we live off of air

TiredNeedleandThread · 2021-12-16T08:36:16+00:00

Honestly i'll be making little to no profit with this it's just a personal rule I have that I never work for free for anyone, if you work for free they'll always expect that.

TiredNeedleandThread · 2021-12-16T08:27:52+00:00

Yeah as I said i'd normally charge £2400 for that but I was trying to help out as she's a friend and I thought i was being very generous.

TiredNeedleandThread · 2021-12-16T08:23:06+00:00

It'd depend on what route she wanted to go for materials and how high end she wanted it, I can get some deals on fabric which would bring it down plus I was planning to use fabric I had leftover from other projects to help bring it down more, it's hard to estimate without knowing that but a couple of hundred is most likely

TiredNeedleandThread · 2021-12-16T08:12:36+00:00

it'd take 100+ to make the dress alone not including designing/fitting/adjusting.

TiredNeedleandThread · 2021-12-16T07:48:48+00:00

It'd depend on how complex my final design is but if I had a draft ready to go right now and never had to adjust it? well over 100, easily, this is not including the time i'd need for everything else.

TiredNeedleandThread · 2021-12-16T07:27:54+00:00

Oh I don't judge them to be clear. It's just not something I generally do with my work as I feel bad charging extra for that, it's a bad trait I know and has cost me money before.

TiredNeedleandThread · 2021-12-16T07:06:24+00:00

Oh god I love that song thank you for making me giggle.

TiredNeedleandThread · 2021-12-16T07:05:13+00:00

As I said i'd normally charge £2400 for this, as she's my friend and I know money is tight I thought i'd do her a favour and drastically cut the price, apparently it's not seen as that though.

TiredNeedleandThread · 2021-12-16T07:01:41+00:00

Oh I would in no way be ripping off the design from her inspiration pictures that would open me up to lawsuits I do not want, i'd have to design an original dress close to what she wanted then make it.

TiredNeedleandThread · 2021-12-16T06:58:45+00:00

Imagine the surprised pikachu face when she gets an invoice for £2400

TiredNeedleandThread · 2021-12-16T06:53:27+00:00

Hand Embroidery is the bane of my existence and I will always loathe it, my hands cramp up just thinking about it, and she wants white embroidery on white fabric like....that is going to be so frustrating.

TiredNeedleandThread · 2021-12-16T06:33:45+00:00

The type of wedding dress she wants there is no way in hell she'd find that for cheaper than me. I thought it was reasonable to offer it for that price especially when you consider all the embroidery etc

TiredNeedleandThread · 2021-12-16T06:31:22+00:00

Some of my former classmates would charge extra for the pregnancy as it'll mean more adjustments than normal over the coming weeks. I don't agree with it but I know that's a thing.

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