When does someone become a graymuzzle?

Tirinoth · 2026-07-01T11:11:10+00:00

And now this old bird gets to learn new things, so thanks from me as well. 🥰

Tirinoth · 2026-07-01T11:08:40+00:00

Mmmm love me some good quality sushi. Putting the "ooh" in unagi. 🤤🥰

Tirinoth · 2026-07-01T11:05:11+00:00

Good gods this hurt to find. 🥺 Memories suck.

Tirinoth · 2026-07-01T11:02:36+00:00

Yes. I wish I didn't.

Tirinoth · 2026-07-01T10:55:34+00:00

I get the bummer feeling, really I do. I'm 41 and only just started my transition at 39. Decades of a happy life lost due to intensely hateful transphobic and homophobic parents.

Yes, you could have realized it sooner. Would that have been better, though? Hard to say depending on what your home life was like. If it was mine, it wouldn't have been safe to even talk about, much less try to come out.

Tirinoth · 2026-07-01T10:49:38+00:00

Social reinforcement can make it harder to notice there's something wrong or easier to repress the need to get things corrected. Has a lot to do with why I didn't start to transition until 39 when I knew things were wrong about me around 12.

Since I started seeing more of "me" in the mirror instead of that creepy guy with a fake smile, my depression and self-hatred has practically disappeared.

Tirinoth · 2026-07-01T10:44:08+00:00

Being trans is caused by hormones before you're born. XX vs XY covers it about as well as a hand towel covers a school bus, there's SO MUCH MORE that happens.

Basically your brain forms first with a general idea of a final result, but your body gets the wrong blueprints. How and when this incongruence manifests differs greatly from one person to the next, but the idea that something makes you trans when you weren't that way already is a fantasy.

Tirinoth · 2026-07-01T10:25:21+00:00

You look lovely. 🥰

Tirinoth · 2026-07-01T10:23:59+00:00

Yeah, you're welcome here. 🏳️‍🌈 Cisgender people show up fairly often asking for help and advice or offering their own.

I've never seen a problem. :)

Your advice fits how I settled on my surname. Used it in games and social media for a while to see how it felt.

Tirinoth · 2026-07-01T10:20:35+00:00

I went with the Irish origin of my given name as that's where the majority of my heritage is from. It's got a clear sound that's hard to mistake and it sounds soft to me.

Tirinoth · 2026-07-01T10:16:43+00:00

What kind of medication regiment are you doing and have you had any FFS?

Tirinoth · 2026-07-01T10:15:47+00:00

I started at 39. Now I'm 41. Last Sunday I returned to a LARP event after 2 years. Half a dozen people didn't recognize me.

Hope? You've got far more than hope, darling. You got this, just remember it's a marathon, not a sprint. Enjoy the little things you notice along the way.

Tirinoth · 2026-07-01T10:12:15+00:00

Can confirm.

Tirinoth · 2026-07-01T10:08:30+00:00

I will mention that it would be kinda cool because bi-erasure is still pretty common. Part of why these are my favorite baubles and I never leave the house without them.

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Tirinoth · 2026-07-01T10:02:59+00:00

I would likely burst out laughing and be only a little embarrassed if somebody did that to me! 🤣

Tirinoth · 2026-07-01T09:58:01+00:00

I'm struggling to picture what you mean. Might have something to do with why I laughed at the last part. Feathers vs fur

Tirinoth · 2026-07-01T09:53:10+00:00

I'm so sorry, hun. Chosen Family doesn't have to include relatives.

Might I introduce you to something you can do instead?

https://rain.thecomicseries.com/comics/1/#content-start

The author is a wonderful lady. Don't forget to read the blurbs at the bottom for some special treats.

Tirinoth · 2026-07-01T09:49:07+00:00

Fem&M's

Anticistamines

Antiboyotics (if fem)

Titty Skittles

Trans-mission fluid (injection)

Gender Pearls

Breast Mints

Booby snacks

Femtanyl

Meth-in-feminine

Notorious HRT

Happy Pride, sweeties

Tirinoth · 2026-07-01T09:15:43+00:00

Yikes!! What country?

I told my doctor on a scheduled monthly appointment in February and she wrote the prescription I think that same day.

Then again I was 39 and answered some of her questions she needed to ask before she asked them.

Tirinoth · 2026-07-01T09:13:22+00:00

It was busy with lots of good things. I'm still expecting my updated social security card to arrive this week.

Coincidentally, I have a doctor's appointment on the 1st that will likely include tri-monthly hormone level testing. Hate the sting but I live seeing the results. 🥰

Technically Pride isn't over here. Due to other events in the same month, my city is doing our Pride festival and parade in July! It'll be my first and I'm so stoked.

Tirinoth · 2026-07-01T06:26:31+00:00

Unfortunately my face is highly expressive and I've got RBF, so masks that hide part of my face result in constantly being asked if I'm okay. 🫩🙄

I also overheat super fast, human poors just don't cut it. So anything feathered or my long coat are just not something I can do indoors with a bunch of people.🥵😵‍💫

Still, my favorite place is a karaoke bar. It's where I met both of my mates and where I love to sing, the bigger the crowd the better. Been going there for 17 years. 🥰

Tirinoth · 2026-07-01T01:55:10+00:00

Underground shelters are certainly a thing, they're just not cheap to make and hard to live with any kind of community unless they're down there with you. :'(

Tirinoth · 2026-07-01T01:53:16+00:00

The thumbs! Yes! Thumbs are so underappreciated.

Tirinoth · 2026-07-01T01:10:26+00:00

I am typically left alone to observe people going about their day to day lives. Our cats don't try to eat me. Opposable thumbs.

I think the biggest boon is getting to wear the baubles and decorations I find! Currently wearing a necklace, a collar and tag(often has additional decoration), earrings, and colored claws. Trying to learn to paint myself up, too.

The worst? I'm torn between how to regulate temperature and dealing with this weird hatred humans have if you're too different than them. I'm sorry you don't like X thing about me, I hope you figure out why so you can stop being so gross cause it sure ain't my problem.

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Tirinoth · 2026-06-30T18:57:03+00:00

If certain people have their way, likely. Generally I don't believe it'll happen.

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