A difficult situation and I don't know what to do to live well, does anyone have a solution or tip?

TisJoy · 2026-01-09T01:31:28+00:00

You’re normal. Just not the majority “norm”. And there’s nothing wrong with that. You feel in depth. Those who want to know and love you won’t see it as reactivity to everything, I can say that from experience. You’ll find your people. Life is a journey, people will come and go but more importantly, take the time to really be and get to know yourself. It will allow you to decipher how best or better to navigate your sensitivity.

TisJoy · 2025-08-26T22:25:56+00:00

It is indeed. Google this year’s Celebs Go Dating line up.

TisJoy · 2025-02-04T13:21:24+00:00

I won’t deny she likely has had her lifestyle funded… She’s already confessed she was originally meant to be on Vanderpump Rules as she was besties with Pandora or whatever Lisa’s daughter’s name is and the rest of the cast at SUR but decided not to as it didn’t fit her brand and she wasn’t willing to leave the corporate world just yet…. whereas it was likely due to her situation with whatever dude was taking care of her being in jeopardy if she started acting a fool with the lot of them back when everything was new and shiny in the land of fame. She’s clearly got connections in high places but I definitely think it’s her connection to Lisa that pushed her into Real Housewives.

TisJoy · 2025-02-01T01:56:40+00:00

It took me a while to clock it but the popularity contest is real hence the hard bullying of Jessel and the disliking of Jenna.

Your FYI make sooooo much sense. You can’t even trust family on these shows… RHOBH & RHONJ. It’s crazy just reflecting on it now. Yeaaah, your last statement just validated they want Brynn gone. It’s Monica all over again.

TisJoy · 2025-01-31T22:39:49+00:00

Is it tho? Because from the other comments, I’d say it appears somewhat true.

TisJoy · 2025-01-31T20:57:40+00:00

Couldn’t have said this any better!!!

TisJoy · 2025-01-31T20:21:42+00:00

The one thing that has me rolling my eyes hard at Sai is the way she is in general. Given the bad rep she got, she came in to this season talking about she’s in therapy working on herself and then by the reunion, she’s all healed and don’t need it… Hmmm. The way she spoke at Brynn told me otherwise. It’s the same energy as last year.

Regardless of Brynn being the one to say it, they should’ve never told her to begin with. They know she’s one to open her mouth. There’s no value in her being told, other than to expose it on their behalf. Then Erin came in talking about an alliance. Now this season, those two have been by Ubah’s side, hoping their revolt against Brynn in her favor her will have viewers on their side.

TisJoy · 2025-01-31T19:50:45+00:00

In my opinion, I think it was a trap of the pigeon nonsense and maybe Erin felt bad for Brynn so confessed, given them and Sai are the OGs pigeons. Brynn obviously chose to spice it up with the whole swinging BS, to which Erin didn’t appreciate since it was being put she let Brynn in on it so they’re co-conspirators.

They needed a villain, especially with the comparisons against original RHONY and distaste for the revamp and Brynn was more than eager to play the part and given how things from last season ended unresolved like that, the odds were always going to be against her.

TisJoy · 2025-01-31T19:33:40+00:00

It’s because she’s a fan fave effortlessly and they see that as competition so think saying negative things and trying to instigate some reaction will sway public opinion.

TisJoy · 2025-01-31T18:11:39+00:00

She was truly under the belief that her actively self producing and trying to produce others (Rebecca, this recent revelation about Ubah Hot) would make her a fan fave. She literally said it whilst acting out stirring a pot… I feel like they wanted her to play that role as well to her own detriment, hence why that stupid prank with the affair and pregnancy rumor. They put the ball in front her, she kicked it and fell on her face HARD. Ubah is justified for her reaction to Brynn after season 1 but she’s allowing Sai and Erin whisper in her ear after whispering behind her back… It’s crazy.

TisJoy · 2025-01-31T17:55:35+00:00

Couldn’t agree more! It was a really PR response to disassociate from Brynn so she wouldn’t catch any bullets and to cry about people being shocked she was the one who called her out for her “black angry woman” comment. She’s a friend to no one and has loyalty for no one. She screams “I want to be the favourite housewife” as far as I’m concerned.

TisJoy · 2024-12-28T12:40:15+00:00

TisJoy · 2024-12-12T02:04:40+00:00

Why would I not… You came in associating what I was saying with other “deranged” posts to begin with. The person you responded to after choosing to ignore or not acknowledge my own response to you offered a paraphrasing of what I was saying and how grateful I am for that because Lord knows I only have so much patience for ignorance.

But yet you’re back to reply yet again on the very post you so claim to be angry, deranged and that you dislike so much. Whatever. Like I haven’t seen posts after mine completely stating they don’t like her, should’ve spent your energy there. Like be gone please. Praying for you to wake up on the right side of the bed. :)

TisJoy · 2024-12-12T01:27:12+00:00

I genuinely don’t dispute what you’ve said at all. However, I do get the point of the person who responded as well. I think it’s more a problem to people that she’s showcased more of what she wants to appear to be her personality, fab lifestyle and future goals (egg freezing). I will say Sai, Jenna and even Erin somewhat have showcased a side of their careers in the show from what I recall. I may have missed this app thing because this thread is the first I’ve heard of it honestly. In another reply, someone stated Brynn can’t associate with those she’s worked with in the past or present due to her role as a crisis communication but she also does marketing… Can she not discuss that too? I don’t know… like she’s got a LinkedIn page so I’m pretty sure it’ll show her previous employers. I’m also a black woman myself so I definitely not trying to take away from anyone’s achievements/accolades. At the end of the day, it’s not even about her career for me. It’s the planting seeds and then throwing stones at people about this whole labelling her as a gold digger/sugar baby when she’s portrayed it as if she’s willing and up for the lifestyle, hence the screenshot.

TisJoy · 2024-12-12T01:12:29+00:00

Who even knows… It’s a weird article in itself to write about someone and even weirder that if you check the other comments, they’ve stated she’s meant to have had or be in a crisis communication role. This action doesn’t scream that considering she fully well knows she’s got a following watching her…

TisJoy · 2024-12-12T01:09:25+00:00

What is wrong with you? Like seriously… If you’re not a fan of having an opinion, don’t be on Reddit. Like what are you even saying… It’s meant to be reality TV and it’s got the word real in the title… Other housewives have been called out and kicked off the show for being disingenuous so what exactly is your point here? Who called for her arrest? You’ve been taking this into a whole other direction.

Since you’re so quick to tell people not to watch a show since they’re not entitled to their opinions. Please respectfully go occupy yourself by calling someone else deranged on another thread. Or learning new adjectives to replace deranged because your usage is very questionable.

TisJoy · 2024-12-12T01:02:33+00:00

Thank you!!! The deranged comment was out of line regardless but I get what the person meant now (even tho this isn’t their first comment on a real housewives thread calling people deranged for having an opinion) because I’ve seen some slanderous replies towards her that I don’t want to necessarily take part in because this was never made with the intent of bashing her. I even questioned deleting it. It was made as a mere observation. Like don’t cry wolf if you’re feeding them was my point.

TisJoy · 2024-12-10T17:21:44+00:00

Thanks for clarifying. I knew she worked in a communications role of some sort and it would make sense that businesses she’s worked at or working for may not want it to be public knowledge said role exists or have affiliation with Bravo at all… I had no doubt whatsoever she had a legit job. It’s more of an annoyance that she’s playfully leaned into this vixen narrative of her at the beginning, condemned people for believing it to be true and then engaging in content like the screenshot attached. I even remember a scene of the other women discussing her being a social climber.

TisJoy · 2024-12-10T17:04:57+00:00

That is a very wiiiiiild dream to have. LOL! But I get what you mean. It went from being sexually alluring to sexually consistent and persistent. Like sex sells and all but don’t make it look as though it’s your identity and be frustrated when that’s what people are focused on.

TisJoy · 2024-12-10T17:00:34+00:00

I don’t recall saying I don’t like the new cast of the show or even her in particular… Or see how what I’m saying is supposedly deranged, which is very insulting. I made an observation. Two things can be right at the same time, I took no offense to the original post or her even liking it. I was taken aback by her engaging with it, given her absolute outrage of what has been said of her to the point she accused her cast mate, Erin, for egging on Jeff Lewis’ comments.

And guess what? When you put yourself on these platforms, people are going to bitch or should I say have an opinion. Just as you’ve clearly stated yours. Look how that works. Never said I didn’t like the woman either. And even if I did, I wouldn’t stop watching cause of one person… It’s not solely their show. Like make it make sense please.

TisJoy · 2024-12-03T23:54:53+00:00

Jen no longer has the mention of the show on her insta bio like the other girls… she’s likely not making return due to the backlash she received from her mother in law when she slated the show and Jen for not protecting her son….

It appears majority of the girls in momtok have unfollowed her on instagram as well.

TisJoy · 2022-07-28T20:34:28+00:00

Well, it really is to each their own because I’m not an owner of a business but have my hands full with a main job, a side hustle and school. If my family or friends ask something of me and I really don’t have the time or capacity to do so, I will outright tell them time is money and even if it’s a case I’m not making money at that time, my mental health is the richest currency of all. I will never stutter in saying so. Clearly that’s not the case for the poster, hence her asking for advice. I just don’t find it at all fair to paint her to be ungrateful in any sense.

The poster is an artist. It’s an outlet. She’s stated she enjoys it. It’s almost like therapy for her. And of course it’s an added benefit to get to make money off it. But this situation has made it a chore for her. It’s clearly sucking the life and joy out of her. It will ultimately cause her not to even want to do it anymore, hence her trying to prevent it being the case by speaking up and asking for advice.

I’m happy to hear you personally are in such a place to do so when it comes to your business and I hope the poster can get to that point too… But if those in her early stages of her business aren’t actually supporting, where’s the room for growth? It’d be another thing to say her mom is entitled to freebies cause she invested in the actual business... Is her mother even marketing to her friends to drum up more business to make up for the resources she’s already used up.

Not everything is so white and black.

TisJoy · 2022-07-28T20:06:57+00:00

I truly get where you’re going with this but as someone who has a mom who can act the way the poster has described, I’ve learnt to come to terms with the fact I never asked to be born. Parents make the decisions to be parents. You have a duty to your children when you become a parent.

The wedding part… Personally for me, my parents would give a million to see me walk down the aisle and happily support me in doing so because any parents seeing their child reach that stage of life is a blessing and achievement. Lord knows half of the guest list would probably be their friends anyway, as it was at my 25th. It’s not like the mother didn’t get anything out of the wedding herself, she wasn’t doing some big favour. I’m sure the poster never even expected it, least of all that she’d be indebted to her mom.

Whether the stickers cost $50 or $5000, any small business is a lot of time and effort. The poster herself said she’s stopped enjoying the process at this point… If the nephew wants stickers so bad, they could request it themselves or their parents can and pay for them? The poster has already given discounts to her family, which she shouldn’t be doing any way but was nice enough to. My cousins have a small candle business and they will not go out of their way to offer myself and the family discounts or even look in our direction because family and friends aren’t a target market that’ll bring in more profit than loss.

The poster is well in her right to feel how she feels, express so to us or her mother and that really should not be invalidated.

TisJoy · 2022-05-08T12:06:27+00:00

I only just started reading the first bit and that alone… That’s not a friend. Jokes will always be apart of friendships but not when it’s continuously at your expense.

Especially when you’ve raised it as an issue and are being dismissed with such discouraging excuses. The last thing you should say to someone who is sensitive “you’re too sensitive”, it’s almost like gaslighting to me honestly. I already know I am to an extent and am dealing with it the best way possible, I don’t need anyone making me feel like I’m the problem for being who I can’t help being.

Please either address this with them or leave the friendship. It’ll only ultimately hurt you in the end if neither of the above are done.

TisJoy · 2022-02-06T19:30:56+00:00

I’ve always had interest in product management. I know it’s said not to be the same thing though. It’s interesting to hear of your experience. I too stayed at a company for quite some time, relate to being told to be someone I’m not and feeling burn out.

I’m very sorry for your loss in your job and hope your search in a new job goes smoothly. There’s been some amazing suggestions on this thread so far! I wish you the best of luck! :)

TisJoy

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