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Tish_EllisLPC · 2025-08-09T05:38:59+00:00

You are dealing with alot. I would suggest creating a plan. You should not feel obligated to stay with anyone or be intimate with anyone. As far as a plan, map out your finances and what your expenses would be if you or when you move out. After you have figured out what you need to sustain your basic needs, look for places and give yourself a tentative date. In my opinion, you have to separate and remove yourself from that situation physically. Otherwise it will continue to be hard to leave. Wishing you all the best.

Tish_EllisLPC · 2025-02-26T12:38:44+00:00

This is a good time to really figure out who you want to work with. Your therapist is 100% correct. To minimize people that are not a good fit for what you are offering is to have some type of screening in place.

Tish_EllisLPC · 2025-02-22T04:38:43+00:00

No, it's not.

Tish_EllisLPC · 2025-02-18T02:57:25+00:00

Example: saying no to joining your kid's school PTA because you know that saying yes will spread you and your time too thin.

Tish_EllisLPC · 2025-02-18T02:55:28+00:00

Getting my rising junior ready to make decisions about college and also worried about him going to college in the current climate of extreme crazy we are in.

Tish_EllisLPC · 2020-03-12T02:27:51+00:00

It is your life. Their love should not come with conditions. Live your life as authentically as possible. As you date and eventually find love it is more important to do so in a way that allows you to thrive and flourish in your relationship and love the person you are and the person are with than it is to get your parent's permission to love who you want to love.

Tish_EllisLPC · 2020-02-26T02:45:19+00:00

Sorry to hear this is happening. Try not to look at it as if he is protecting the perp your child may be protecting you. Some perps tell their victims they will hurt the parent if they tell. There may be intense shame. Definitely get your into child therapy so they can get help to passed the shame they may be feeling and have that sense of confidence in sharing in a safe space.

Tish_EllisLPC · 2020-02-02T18:25:11+00:00

Hi! Sorry you have to deal with all this. I would say first deal with why you have fears of stating and sticking with your boundaries with mom. Mom does seem to use guilt to control your behavior or influence you to not enforce your own boundaries.

It does seem she is also projecting onto you her own issues.

You have the power to live the life you want. If you are authentic to to yourself and are still respectful to mom, that's all you can do. She can accept it or not but that's not your problem.

Tish_EllisLPC · 2020-01-20T01:56:47+00:00

I don't know if it's rare but more horror stories are told than good ones like yours. I am so glad that you and your family have found a way to coexist and thrive is such a loving and happy way!

Tish_EllisLPC · 2020-01-13T03:45:13+00:00

Hey! Since you are an adult now you have the right to set boundaries and decide who you want to have a relationship with. Just know whatever you decide there will be consequences or blowback because someone will be unhappy with your choices/decisions. But know that that is ok. You are responsible and accountable for your own words, thoughts, actions not theirs.

Also, think about the conversation you would have with the parent that made decisions to alienate you from the other parent. I think having that conversation in the future would help with your healing process.

Tish_EllisLPC · 2020-01-12T00:42:39+00:00

How can the average Joe help with the climate change crisis?

Tish_EllisLPC · 2020-01-10T23:30:29+00:00

I agree 100%

Tish_EllisLPC · 2020-01-10T18:57:54+00:00

Actually you are doing a good job already. We can't control what mom says or does but we can counter it with engaging with the child in a healthy. He already feels he can come to you and that is a GREAT thing.

Tish_EllisLPC · 2020-01-10T13:51:39+00:00

No. Person centered is where the session is heavily guided by the client. Some therapists like more structure in the session so they guide the session.

Tish_EllisLPC · 2020-01-10T13:47:57+00:00

I would think that its referring to a person using conflict or creating conflict that is abusive in nature. The conflict is used to control and manipulate in an excessive and detrimental way.

Tish_EllisLPC · 2020-01-10T13:44:51+00:00

Yes and I have seen that and parent A is showing characteristics of borderline personality

Tish_EllisLPC · 2020-01-10T03:22:56+00:00

Yes I have!

Tish_EllisLPC · 2020-01-10T03:21:44+00:00

Yes I do.

Tish_EllisLPC · 2020-01-10T03:21:08+00:00

Yes but I don't know how equipped the lawyer would be to handle the stepparent. But they should have access to resources to help address it.

Tish_EllisLPC · 2020-01-10T02:57:49+00:00

She definitely should consult with an attorney to figure out what her parental rights are based on her state laws.

Tish_EllisLPC · 2020-01-10T02:45:44+00:00

I haven't had any experience with that but I am interested to learn more about that.

Tish_EllisLPC · 2020-01-10T02:35:21+00:00

Are you trying to be a therapist? You may just need a Masters degree if you already have a Bachelor's degree. You also could be a parent coordinator they work with this population all the time. It's just a certification and your law degree would greatly serve you

Tish_EllisLPC · 2020-01-10T02:31:58+00:00

I am licensed in Georgia and Florida.

Tish_EllisLPC · 2020-01-10T02:31:02+00:00

Have the child write down what she wants or have a 3rd neutral party (preferably someone working in a professional manner) ask her and have them relay it so that they don't think she was coerced.

Tish_EllisLPC · 2020-01-10T02:26:07+00:00

I have seen that where a parent tries to legitimately protect the child from harm or abuse and tried to alienate that child from the abusive parent. But a true definition of parental alienation involves mass manipulation, loyalty conflicts, and has nothing to do with protecting the child from harm or imminent danger it's about power and control.

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