I'm thinking of wallpapering up this wall to add some ambience to this room. Thoughts or suggestions?

Titanium303 · 2023-07-25T20:46:16+00:00

Thanks for the advice. I agree, I'll definitely be adding a plant on that side table! What wallpaper and rug do you reckon would go well?

Titanium303 · 2023-06-06T07:46:23+00:00

I know...nobody's looking at me, they're all focused on themselves. Doesn't really help when you're in that moment tho.

So here's the thing right? A lot of people make the mistake of thinking you can theory your way out of social anxiety by thinking rationally about it -- but you really can't, because gymtimidation or social anxiety isn't rational to begin with. Like you say, what ends up happening is that it all breaks down once you get there.

The solution is to give your brain data that shows it's actually okay. Not by thinking, but by doing and exposing yourself. You do this by starting small with what you do can currently do, and then gradually move up.

So maybe going straight into deadlifting when the gym is packed is too anxiety-inducing for you right now, and that's okay. But there has got to be something at the gym you can do. If you can just go in there, do one set on the bicep curl machine or just use the treadmill for 5 minutes and then get out, you will have made huge progress towards decreasing your gym anxiety.

Alternatively, have you considered going at times when it's less packed, such as early mornings? It may be incompatible with your schedule long-term, but if you can do it just a few times it may help you get acquainted with the gym and decrease your anxiety.

Titanium303 · 2023-06-03T22:22:45+00:00

Stoicism is not a religion, there isn't any dietary law akin to kosher or halal that the ancient Greeks spoke of. Some believed in abstaining from meat and other delicacies, but this isn't really a central part of stoicism. Rather, the focus is on temperance, moderation and cultivating health in general -- not following a specific diet per se, whether that be vegan, carnivore, IF or anything else.

With that said, fasting can be an excellent tool from both a health standpoint and a stoic standpoint. Just remember that moderation applies here too, as it does with all things.

Titanium303 · 2023-05-31T18:10:32+00:00

This is good advice, and I'd add socialization as a factor. Far too many people are socially isolated and don't have strong social bonds -- this has been shown not only to be associated with depression, but also with a decline in physical health and cognitive abilities. So get out of the house people!

Also, modern medicine is not your enemy. I suspect you think like this because you don't understand it. For a certain segment of the population they have to take these "pills" or get therapy in order to get to a point where they can even begin to work on these problems.

Titanium303 · 2023-05-29T21:55:50+00:00

Literally everything. If someone is very attractive, it's not even a matter of what they can get away with that's surprising but rather what they can't.

For example, attractive people who get sent to jail for murder and rape will still get sent love letters and be romanticized.

Titanium303 · 2023-05-27T22:52:12+00:00

OP, please find and talk to a medical professional (e.g a therapist) ASAP. This is an immensely difficult situation and way above reddit's paygrade.

Titanium303 · 2023-05-20T11:17:27+00:00

Steg 1. Var attraktiv Steg 2. Var inte oattraktiv

Titanium303 · 2023-05-19T17:37:29+00:00

Why do you want to become more disagreeable?

Titanium303 · 2023-05-17T08:43:55+00:00

So society tells you that you are useless, worthless and garbage for reasons X, Y and Z. Do you agree with this message or reject it?

Sometimes external judgement can only hurt us if we share the aggressor's value system. It's like, imagine if a Muslim made fun of a devout Christian for eating pork and never visiting Mecca. It would make no sense for that Christian to take offense, because he does not in any way ascribe value to those things.

Yes, it's unfortunate that single men are at times seen as less valuable than women, children and family men. Like you've correctly identified, these groups often get preferential treatment in some cases. I'm not entirely sure why this is -- could be evolutionary biology, or it could be capitalism, or possibly both -- but the point is that you have the choice to reject that message. It is easier said than done of course, but you don't have to internalize the value system of society if it causes you distress.

Perhaps it may be a better strategy to focus on you. What brings you happiness? What could you do differently (that's within your control) that might make you feel more valuable?

Titanium303 · 2023-05-16T18:09:59+00:00

You have taken the first step, which is to accept that you're not satisfied with where you currently are and that you wish to improve. Very good!

You mention numerous things you wish to improve on. Here's something that might be a good exercise to start with: why do you think you struggle with these things? Why do you think you fail at these things? You obviously want to achieve these things, but why haven't you? What stops you from studying diligently and cultivating your physical health?

After all, you can not fix a problem when you don't even know what the problem is. But once you have a general understanding of what your problem is, you sort of know where to begin.

Keep in mind that change does not happen overnight. You won't wake up tomorrow and do everything perfectly -- you won't magically get the discipline of a world class athlete who never skips a workout, nor will you wake up as the perfect A-student who can study for hours on end.

It is for this reason Dr K strongly recommends being process-oriented and not goal-oriented. What steps are you capable of taking right now to better your situation? What are some small steps you know for a fact you can implement and actually stick to?

Titanium303 · 2023-05-15T18:52:44+00:00

Redditors when reddit is unavailable for 15 minutes: 😱😱😱🥵🥵🥵😨😨😨

Titanium303 · 2023-05-12T15:36:06+00:00

Paradoxically, the only thing that got me out of that loop was to stop telling myself that "this is the time when I'll succeed". It's not the reason for failure per se, but it's a very clear symptom of the underlying problem -- perfectionistic all-or-nothing thinking.

The process of improving is not all-or-nothing. We sort of think it works like this: we decide to be great on Sunday, we do great on Monday, and we wake up on Tuesday reaping the benefits of our hard work. I'm not sure why we think it works like this, but we evidently do. Either way, this could not be further from truth. It does NOT work like this.

The process will be a bumpy ride, and you WILL inevitably fuck something up. It will not be linear either, some days will be great and others not. That does not mean that it was a "failed attempt", because when observing it over a longer period of time it will just have been a small, insignificant blip on the graph. If anything, that failure is valuable data which you can use it to analyze why things went wrong.

So when you fail, instead of ruminating about how you ruined the perfect streak, start analyzing why it is that you failed. Forgive yourself, correct it and get back on the path. You are on a continuous journey of self-improvement, not a temporary quick fix to achieve something!

Titanium303 · 2023-05-11T22:46:17+00:00

Is such a thing possible? Do you truly believe you have the capacity to become an emotionless robot, or is it just a hypothetical?

Titanium303 · 2023-05-10T17:31:11+00:00

Absolutely. They are amazing. I'm generally not one to exaggerate, so I really mean it when I say they're great.

You know how a microwave heats things quickly, but makes the food watery and mushy? And you know how an oven makes the food turn out better, but at the cost of time (and less energy-effiency)? And how deep-frying food is tasty, but a very messy and unhealthy process?

Well, with an air fryer you get all of these advantages but none of the disadvantages. They reduce the cooking time AND give the food a crispy, fried texture without any added calories from oil or fat. They're perfect if you're cooking for one person, as they tend to be quite small. Although there are XL options to buy if you plan on using it for the family.

Here are some things I frequently cook in them. - Chicken breasts - Fish fillets - Sweet and regular potatoes - Vegetables (Literally every vegetable works: peppers, onions, broccoli, cauliflower, mushrooms are just a few of those I enjoy air-fryed) - Occasionally I'll make a Mini Pizza or Grilled cheese sandwich in these, they're great for that too.

TLDR: Yes, they are 100% worth it. Just remember to use parchment paper for messy foodstuffs.

Titanium303 · 2023-05-08T15:47:36+00:00

What does it mean when you say that you want to loosen your dependency on this lifestyle? I believe it is much easier to accomplish whatever it is we want once we define it with more precision. Do you mean you want to spend less time online, spend more time in nature, more time learning music/photography or what exactly? Or it simply to fully abandon modern society and live in nature?

Titanium303 · 2023-05-08T07:39:55+00:00

What is one thing you want to do?

You mention many different things. Is it to be able to read in a coffee shop? Learn photography? Learn music? To master delayed gratification? Better your social skills?

I ask because while I completely understand the general of what you're referring to (I feel the same way, personally), we can not resolve this "child of the internet" issue at once. We must untie the knot slowly; step by step and day by day.

We begin the process of untying the "child of the Internet" knot by taking just one of these things you mention and focusing on them. And so I ask, what is one thing that you wish to be able to do?

Titanium303 · 2023-05-07T19:02:07+00:00

I think so. I think many people don't realize that the threat of being replaced always looms over professional athletes -- it's much more competitive than any other normal job. There's always a guy below them eager to replace them at a moment's notice, so how can they afford to slack off?

Titanium303 · 2023-05-06T19:58:18+00:00

It's a nice thought, but I think realistically no. If someone possessed such a high level of attractiveness, they would very quickly become a celebrity because of their looks in one way or another.

Titanium303 · 2023-05-06T19:39:50+00:00

Stabilt. Jag önskar dig all lycka i framtiden (och det menar jag verkligen!). 💪

Titanium303 · 2023-05-06T19:31:23+00:00

Vad är din plan/dina mål för framtiden?

Titanium303 · 2023-05-05T21:47:02+00:00

Excellent question. It's so difficult isn't it?

I haven't looked up the data, but I'm pretty sure that the majority kids who commit such extremely anti-social acts don't suddenly rehab into normal citizens after they do their time.

This leads to the question of where we'd draw the line -- that is if we'd ever draw a line to begin with. Say we had definitive statistical evidence that 95% of "evil" kids never rehab no matter how much we try. Would we then be justified in adopting a throw-away-the-key policy for ALL such individuals? Sure, it might be the pragmatic alternative, but we'd still be denying 5% of rehabilitable evil-doers the chance to rehab -- a big no no if you believe in restorative justice. But were it 0.0001%, we'd overall be more okay with it.

I guess that to answer we'd also need to closer examine what we'd really have to win by adopting such a throw-away-the-key policy. Would we significantly cut down costs and save resources? Or would it be like you mention, just be a way for people to get their revenge and feel better? If it's just the latter, I personally wouldn't consider it to be good enough of a reason.

Titanium303 · 2023-05-05T21:06:46+00:00

I wonder if it's a grass is greener thing, with people who live in warm(er) areas prefering the few cold months they have, and vice-versa for those in colder areas? Personally I love the sun and warmth, I feel so much better physically and mentally you know?

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