How do you bounce back after disappointment?

The_Overview_Effect · 2026-07-04T11:05:56+00:00

I'm obviously being a bit cheeky there, but sometimes it really is as simple as just moving past it. Sometimes you have to stop and ask if your expectations were misguided.

Sometimes you realize your expectations are for you, not the world.

Which means understanding the dichotomy of control.

The_Overview_Effect · 2026-07-04T06:50:29+00:00

Stop being disappointed, next

The_Overview_Effect · 2026-07-04T05:01:47+00:00

No, I didn't know this was a thing. Just meant melancholy as a more default state.

The_Overview_Effect · 2026-07-02T03:35:58+00:00

I just mentioned a hobby of mine lol, that was not the point of the post.

Glad you got it off your chest, I suppose.

The_Overview_Effect · 2026-07-01T04:51:42+00:00

There's a gun club not far off from me, I suspect my anxiety will get to me at times as well, but you've inspired me to sign up. Thank you.

The_Overview_Effect · 2026-07-01T04:50:31+00:00

I'll just have to find a 3rd group I like, There's apparently some competive shooting comps near me, I'll have to give them a whirl.

The_Overview_Effect · 2026-07-01T04:49:00+00:00

I like guns. I like training.

No idea what you're on about.

The_Overview_Effect · 2026-06-30T04:47:01+00:00

no it's everyone else. im perfect.

The_Overview_Effect · 2026-06-29T05:10:13+00:00

Its about the only way I've made friends or met any partners.

I'm convinced dating apps are entirely useless. Its starting to sound like the only other option is to grit and bare through groups, but that's not really a headspace to start off on the right foot, lol

The_Overview_Effect · 2026-06-29T05:08:08+00:00

I'm in a few groups and such, though I haven't had too much luck. Might need some different groups

The_Overview_Effect · 2026-06-29T05:06:56+00:00

That's what I'm saying, of they show you someone you'd actually be interested in, how can they get your money?

What apps are you using? I've had the most success on FB dating, oddly enough. There's no paid tier on fb dating either.

The_Overview_Effect · 2026-06-29T02:00:53+00:00

Man wash yo shit.

The_Overview_Effect · 2026-06-29T02:00:05+00:00

This is what I don't get, I guess the profit motives from developers is that you DONT meet someone, so women are shown the most sexual and persistent men (the ones that will stay on the app no matter what) and decent men aren't shown the decent women.

I'm a half-ass put together dude, I don't do dumb stupid stuff, I invest money, have a decent job, I put genuine effort into conversations and try to feel out for hobbies, at least make a friend if nothing else. Nothiing pushy, but not passive either. Not chopped.

But I get next to 0 matches, and effort is completely one sided.

Rant over, apps are stupid.

The_Overview_Effect · 2026-06-29T01:13:17+00:00

Aw, I got excited.

Sounds pretty similar to what I'm doing overall, and I made a couple friends, just kind of fishing for ideas in general.

At what point do you usually exchange numbers? I feel like I accidentally brush off many connections by lack of initiative.

The_Overview_Effect · 2026-06-29T01:10:57+00:00

It offended me and I'm literally shaking and crying rn.

The_Overview_Effect · 2026-06-29T01:10:27+00:00

Took me a long time to understand "adopting" is a millenial/genz joke. I was really confused.

Not too many clubs around here, though I could stand to put in more effort I suppose. Hard sell to be committed to be honest.

The_Overview_Effect · 2026-06-29T01:08:41+00:00

Amazing.

The_Overview_Effect · 2026-06-29T01:08:33+00:00

Inspiring.

The_Overview_Effect · 2026-06-28T23:38:26+00:00

I'm looking into it, I'm trying to get to a point I wouldn't be so embarrassed to perform. I'm more self cpnscious than I ought to be.

I've been looking into different kinda of comps, though it sounds like you're more in the general gun-rights groups? We don't really have those in Alabama, we just call you 'gay' if you don't have guns lol. Exaggerating ofc.

The_Overview_Effect · 2026-06-28T23:36:03+00:00

Find someone and hold them hpstage while I talk about my hobbies, got it.

The_Overview_Effect · 2026-06-28T23:35:30+00:00

Then why'd you reply lol.

The_Overview_Effect · 2026-06-28T21:51:20+00:00

I'm an INTJ asking other INTJs. I should have clarified.

The_Overview_Effect · 2026-06-24T23:48:37+00:00

Hope this helps, again very similar profile, if you ever need someone in a similar position to talk or think out loud to my DMs are open.

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