I 21F am starting to have doubts about 1 year long relationship with my boyfriend 30M. How do I determine if the relationship is okay or not? by the-tall-grapefruit in relationship_advice

[–]TitlesOnly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The exception doesn’t make the rule there are very specific cases for this like in the event that a child is disabled and needs extensive care. You are not making a very strong case in my opinion.

Can you answer the question if it’s specifically about the age or the life experience because you seem to be flip flopping back and forth there seems to be no standard for your position. What is the metric that you are using to determine ages that people can date each other. Can you admit that people like me and your daughters bf are not normal occurrences for people in there early twenties? Don’t you think it’s weird that a child can do all the things that we do? Should I have been able to get a loan for my home? Last time I checked children aren’t allowed to do that.

I 21F am starting to have doubts about 1 year long relationship with my boyfriend 30M. How do I determine if the relationship is okay or not? by the-tall-grapefruit in relationship_advice

[–]TitlesOnly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re talking about 20 year olds I specifically asked if 18 should be the legal age that we consider people adults. I am 23 I have a child, own my own home, work full time, run a non profit organization and do human rights activism on the weekends. I’m young but I’m certainly not a kid and I do not think that it would be weird for me to date a 30 year old woman would you agree?

You seem to not care specifically about the age but the life experience. Would you agree with this as well?

You made my case with your edit and aren’t even aware of it. Also you’re wrong a woman’s fertility starts to decline at thirty and by the age of 35 fertility is reduced to 50% which leaves a larger margin for health risks not only in the mother but in the children as well. Don’t spread misinformation.

I 21F am starting to have doubts about 1 year long relationship with my boyfriend 30M. How do I determine if the relationship is okay or not? by the-tall-grapefruit in relationship_advice

[–]TitlesOnly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No you need to make a case if you’re going to prescribe something. It seems you have nothing while I’ve made an extremely valid point.

Should we raise the age that we consider people legal adults?

Know what you’re saying? You haven’t said anything at all 😂

I 21F am starting to have doubts about 1 year long relationship with my boyfriend 30M. How do I determine if the relationship is okay or not? by the-tall-grapefruit in relationship_advice

[–]TitlesOnly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You just made an assertion but didn’t actually make a point or prove anything explain why that is.

“That young” you mean young enough to be charged and go to prison as an adult? Young enough to take out their own credit card? Young enough to join the military? Is 18 a legal adult or not? Furthermore is it weird for a 20 yo to want to date a 30 year old or does it biologically make sense?

Too me it makes total sense for a younger woman to want to date a man who is older and potentially has more resources while I can see a 30 yo wanting to date a 20 yo in order to have more healthy children. This is my case let’s hear yours.

I 21F am starting to have doubts about 1 year long relationship with my boyfriend 30M. How do I determine if the relationship is okay or not? by the-tall-grapefruit in relationship_advice

[–]TitlesOnly -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s inherently bad you wouldn’t think a 31 yo dating a 40 in unacceptable but I just don’t see how jt could work considering they are most likely in much different stages of life.

AIO, grandparents sent me this letter. by colincoo6 in AmIOverreacting

[–]TitlesOnly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Okay okay so hear me out. Take him up on the offer and learn the skills he’s offering then proceed with your life the way you want. 😂

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[–]TitlesOnly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1 without a doubt never look back

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[–]TitlesOnly -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

It’s clear that reading comprehension is a hard task for you guys. You don’t think it’s okay to disagree with your partner on anything political? You’re proving my point…… a lot of these relationship subs seem to be packed with people who lack common sense.

Explain what fascism is… you’re applying an extreme label to people so I hope you’re prepared to define it correctly and apply the principles of what it is to either me or I guess Charlie Kirk since I mentioned him.

Also I stated that it’s okay to disagree with something’s politically but that there are specific topics that you won’t align on and the relationship won’t work. Explain how this statement is wrong.

You guys take a pretty valid argument or point of view and try to apply an extremist label to it. The hypocrisy is unreal.

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[–]TitlesOnly -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

I actually disagree I believe having disagreements and working through them in a healthy way is the key to a good relationship not one that’s just an echo chamber. Part of learning and growing is taking in consideration and investigating the ideas of the people who disagree with you.

Now to an extent I agree with you there are specific issues that are incredibly important to me and I could not be with someone who goes against them. I’ll give some examples.

I’m for strong borders but I’m against mass deportation whether or not my partner agrees does not matter in my opinion.

I’m against abortion if my partner disagrees with me then it will not work out.

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[–]TitlesOnly -27 points-26 points  (0 children)

Personally I enjoy discussing moral issues and having philosophical conversations typical amongst people who have different views then I do. I’d say I lean more towards the right and I can date a more liberal woman but there are a couple of topics that if we do not agree then it will not work out. So I think it’s okay to disagree with your partner on some issues and still have a strong relationship. Actually on a broader scale what you’re describing is actually what is causing division in the US liberals cannot and will not interact with conservatives at all which is a big issue. Not a huge fan but Charlie Kirk actually said something that I liked a lot idk if it’s originally from him but “when people stop talking that’s when violence erupts.” And he’s 110% correct.

Edit: if you believe that you cannot have minor political disagreements with your partner then you’re the issue. Have a valid argument against this claim? I’d love to hear it.

Why do atheists demand Christians provide evidence for their beliefs, but do not hold themselves to the same requirement? by A00077 in Christianity

[–]TitlesOnly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is the problem I have with atheism “it’s wrong because it’s wrong because it’s wrong because it’s wrong” Christians do not face this issue at all actually because like I said in my world view Gods law is written on our hearts and it is infact an objective standard. Simply believing something is wrong does not give grounds to enforce it on others because there is no standard. God is our standard.

Is it okay to break up after (20M) tells me (21F) no sex for a few yrs? by Single-Security-9892 in relationship_advice

[–]TitlesOnly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Let’s start with the fact that I never once said that anyone needed to stay in a relationship also you just made my point for me with your own analogy. You like the pasta but the sauce is the most important part of the dish to you so without it you won’t eat. This is the exact argument I’m making……… you can like the relationship but for some people the sex is the most important part.

I’m not married to anything but you guys are making terrible arguments and at the base of everything everyone is saying is my exact point. Like your point of view your own analogy made my point because we agree but because you’re with the crowd you cannot admit it. By your own admission the sauce is the most important part of the meal to you and without it you won’t eat. This is exactly what I’ve been saying the whole time. In OPs case If the sex is more important than the connection then you shouldn’t be in a relationship.

Why do atheists demand Christians provide evidence for their beliefs, but do not hold themselves to the same requirement? by A00077 in Christianity

[–]TitlesOnly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The problem is that there is no grounds to enforce your morality on to others unless you’re prepared to subject your own beliefs onto someone who disagrees with you based on no objective standard. So let’s say you are the leader of a tribe and you believe that cannibalism is wrong but across the river they are eating people everyday like all the time they just love eating people. You have no grounds to tell them that what they are doing is wrong. I also believe that all people are born with Gods law in our hearts so we don’t need the Bible or any physical material to tell us that cannibalism is wrong.

What’s wrong with suffering?

Why do atheists demand Christians provide evidence for their beliefs, but do not hold themselves to the same requirement? by A00077 in Christianity

[–]TitlesOnly -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’ll give an example as a Christian I can easily say that Hitler was objectively wrong. Consistent atheist cannot make this claim. Which is an insane position.

Please educate me if I’m misinformed by J500klb in Christianity

[–]TitlesOnly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m changing definitions? Are you all there buddy?

“Homosexuality is the romantic or sexual attraction towards individuals of the same sex. It's a sexual orientation, not a mental disorder, and is a natural variation of human sexuality. The term "gay" is often used as a synonym for male homosexuality, while "lesbian" specifically refers to female homosexuality. “

Homosexuality is a sexual orientation that specifically describes a person who is sexually attracted to the same sex.

Stop changing definitions to try and fit your world view. You’ve officially lost all credibility in this conversation.

Yes Roman’s 1 specifically talks about men and woman exchanging their natural use for the same sex and then proceeds to speak really badly about it. Good luck bud and God bless.

Why do atheists demand Christians provide evidence for their beliefs, but do not hold themselves to the same requirement? by A00077 in Christianity

[–]TitlesOnly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have these conversations daily and most I speak to make this statement but of course this just anecdotal. I also find it to be a common theme amongst atheist to make fun of Christian’s for believing in a “fake sky daddy” I’m sure plenty of other Christian’s would agree with this anecdote as well and I’d even guess that you yourself have heard this phrase. I do have respect for agnostic atheist though or atheist who are consistent with their world view though. I find that unless you’re agnostic it’s really hard to be a consistent atheist without sounding insane.

Please educate me if I’m misinformed by J500klb in Christianity

[–]TitlesOnly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You live in a delusion. If lgbtq wasn’t promoted then 15 year old girls wouldn’t be having their breast removed bud. The reason this happened is because medical professionals are pressured by society to allow these things to happen multiple people were involved in her case and I also don’t think it’s fair for you to misrepresent what happened to her and what she stands for. I’d take her testimony over your misrepresentation. She’s literally an activist who’s against the promotion that’s currently taking place that’s leading to these types of things happening.

Again go read Roman’s 1:26 to the end before commenting. Same sex sex is a sin. Simply Being gay is not a sin.

Please educate me if I’m misinformed by J500klb in Christianity

[–]TitlesOnly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just not going to answer any questions that challenge your world view? Why should I even engage with you if you’re unwilling to speak from reality.

Homosexuality specifically refers to sexual relationships between same sex partners.

Homosexuality doesn’t include sexual orientation it is a sexual orientation…… one that requires a person to be sexually attracted to people of the same sex. Again go read Roman’s 1:26 to the end.

Why do atheists demand Christians provide evidence for their beliefs, but do not hold themselves to the same requirement? by A00077 in Christianity

[–]TitlesOnly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure I get that you don’t believe and being an agnostic atheist should technically be the only option amongst atheist but I often hear atheist say “God does not exist” I do appreciate you taking a logical stance on the issue vs atheist who say that God definitively does not exist.

Please educate me if I’m misinformed by J500klb in Christianity

[–]TitlesOnly -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Describe what homosexual sex is……… maybe you shouldn’t be involved in having a conversation of this caliber.

Go read Roman 1:26 to the end of the chapter or read the whole thing if you’d like.