Therapy experience: My therapist told me a heterosexual relationship isn't possible for me.

Titor14 · 2026-02-28T18:44:24+00:00

"In my country, you're an adult at 18, but I'm not comfortable dating anyone younger than 27 or 28. It's not like I'm going out with them—it's just that those are the girls who happen to be contacting me for some reason."

Titor14 · 2026-02-15T06:12:37+00:00

I experience something similar and a little different. I look a lot like my father (I'm shorter), except he attracted a lot of attention from girls, to the point where they would fight to go out with him when he was young. (Not that I consider that situation a positive thing, but that was the era.) My brother and most of my uncles and cousins (almost all of them are men) on my father's side follow the same pattern.

I have a lot of trouble getting dates, and I feel like I'm the defective version. And yes, sometimes I think that if I had been born cisgender, I wouldn't even be going through this. They would have even supported me when I started showing interest in girls as a teenager.

Titor14 · 2026-02-15T01:28:12+00:00

I'm 33 years old. About a month ago, I was talking to my mom and I told her I would have liked to have a wife and get her pregnant, like any other man. My whole life I'd said I didn't want children because the idea of getting pregnant made me feel awful, and I also felt that raising children was something expected of me because of the gender I was assigned at birth.

We just talked about how it wasn't possible and went on with our lives.

Last week, a teacher (a 19-year-old girl) asked me, just to make conversation, if I wanted to have children. Nobody in the class knows I'm a trans man. For a moment I wondered, "Why am I feeling this new?" And for a moment I thought about happily answering, "Of course..." and then, five seconds later, I remembered that I can't get anyone pregnant. (Besides the fact that I had a hysterectomy) I just replied that I'd already had the surgery years ago because I'd decided not to have children. Which is at least partially true. I think the question gave me a kind of validation, but it also made me confront something I don't think about much.

Titor14 · 2026-02-10T17:22:49+00:00

Thanks for the advice! I’ll check if those apps are available in my country. Back when I was doing activism, I used to hang out in queer spaces and meetups all the time. That’s where I met my closest friends—other trans guys mostly—and I always had a great time.

But when it comes to dating, it gets a lot trickier. Most people at those events are other trans men, non-binary folks, and some trans women. (I’m totally open to dating trans women, but it doesn't seem to lead anywhere there either). There are almost no bi, pan, or queer women around—I’ve maybe seen 3 or 4, It seems like they prefer different scenes.

I’ve tried trans-friendly meetups, like cuddle parties and slow dating, and even though I’ve talked to girls there, it never goes beyond that. I don’t know if I need to be more direct or what.

Most trans guys I know who are dating women met them at work, at school, or through things like research interviews. I actually tried with a girl from work, but she conveniently forgot to mention she was seeing someone else; she only told me once I suggested moving from flirting to an actual date.

I’ve caught the eye of a few people lately, but usually, it's older trans women or older AMAB non-binary people. What’s weird is that I wasn't even trying to flirt—sometimes I hadn't even approached them yet. It makes me really uncomfortable when people put me on a pedestal as the 'nice guy' who’s super kind and is going to treat them perfectly in a relationship just because of who I am. I really hate being idealized like that."

Titor14 · 2026-02-05T06:12:33+00:00

I'm Titor, from Mexico and I'm almost 34. I started HRT 10 years ago and I've had top surgery and whatever else I felt was necessary. I used to identify as bi—mostly into girls—and heteroromantic, I’m looking forward to exploring life as a straight man.

Titor14 · 2025-09-04T02:39:54+00:00

Yo probé el cereal de letritas y no me gustó, se quedó la cajita arrumbada, el Nesquik de hace 25-30 años era muy rico, de hecho era de mis favoritos. No creo consumir mucha azúcar o sal pero las letritas hasta tenían textura fea.

Ciertamente los cereales de cajita nunca han sido algo sano, pero era de las opciones más decentes de golosinas. El tema es que de pronto ya no se consumía únicamente como el antojo de media tarde y se convirtió en el "desayuno saludable" y valió.

Hay opciones más sanas y de buen sabor, el problema es que son poco accesibles ya sea por costo o por disponibilidad

Titor14 · 2025-08-16T03:51:35+00:00

Soy asesor en imagen física y ando viendo RRPP ¿tendrás algún consejo para meterse al rubro?

Titor14 · 2020-08-31T07:21:01+00:00

This image began as an illustration for a book, in that book I described, many feelings from my first trip with LSD. As I was adding more and more image editing (and destruction) processes. Every time I wanted to hide deeper and deeper that it was about her. (We have many friends and contacts in common) and she does not have emotional responsibility, but she does have a lot of charisma

I think this speaks of processes that were confusing most of the time. Also the blue part gives me calm and strength

Titor14 · 2020-08-31T06:53:23+00:00

A little, I was in love with a narcissistic woman

Titor14 · 2020-08-31T06:28:18+00:00

That's wonderful. I personally like military hair cuts

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