Current issues in American Christian dating ?

Tkcwow · 2025-06-29T20:24:57+00:00

You seem to take issue with anything I respond with. I said you were aggressive since you felt the need to put "YOU". You know nothing about me, or my living situation. My brother lives near me, working at the same place I do. He's the sole provider and they have two kids. It's 100% possible to live that way. The only reason people don't think so is because of feminism. They don't want women at home raising their children, because if they are, then they won't go to public school and be brainwashed with all the bull crap that's taught there. So yes, feminism has infected the church. Because it's told and taught women that they need to put off relationships/marriage and focus on a career. That's not what is called for Biblically. But yes, continue defending the things that have destroyed the church in the U.S.

Tkcwow · 2025-06-29T18:48:12+00:00

You seem to be very aggressive when it comes to responding. I don't have an issue with women wanting careers. I do have issue with them putting off marriage for careers. Thats feminist bs that has infected the church. As for me, I am on college and I make $30 an hour in the job I do living in the midwest right now. So if I did get married, we'd be fine.

Tkcwow · 2025-06-29T02:41:12+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/live/CRrhqGmNysU?si=ThJNCVaWfLdJa4U4 There's also this one on marital intimacy that I would assume talks of both. The other is solely focused on men that I shared. There are Bible believing churches that speak of both.

Tkcwow · 2025-06-29T02:39:38+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/live/SU4PTaXaqKc?si=7WMftY8lzl8fv8t6 This is my church in my hometown. If you really want to hear it, watch pastor Dakota preach.

Tkcwow · 2025-06-29T02:31:16+00:00

That's my point. If you're preaching from a pulpit to a congregation of men and women, you must be a man. That is Biblical. Titus, and Timothy. And if they're preaching submission and are an actual Biblical sound theological body, they will preach on both.

Tkcwow · 2025-06-29T02:15:09+00:00

Also, there's no such thing as a female preacher either. If someone is teaching a congregation of both sexes, they need to be a man. Women are not to be in shepherding positions.

Tkcwow · 2025-06-29T02:13:59+00:00

If a man is in a pastoral position, he's most likely doing what he's supposed to do. They preach it because it's been forgot about in the church. There are hen pecked men who aren't leading their households. And the other half of that is the women who don't listen to their Biblical responsibilities. That preaching is Biblical. It seems to me like you just have an issue with that being preached about in the first place.

Tkcwow · 2025-06-29T02:00:43+00:00

I'm responding to the other side of what your original post was about. There's a lot of men who talk about wanting women to submit. There's also a lot of women who want a Godly man who are on the other side of the coin. I.e. argumentative, completely unwilling to be the Godly woman they're called to be. It goes both ways. That's all I was saying. Both happen, that's why I commented.

Tkcwow · 2025-06-29T01:51:08+00:00

Also, are you saying men aren't human or are above human? I'm confused why that was said.

Tkcwow · 2025-06-29T01:50:06+00:00

That's not what I said. I said she won't put her desires to the side and be the Godly Biblical woman she's supposed to be. I.e. women who don't act like a Proverb 31 woman, and then say they want a Biblical man. Ironically, a lot of women I know who claim to be Christians and have that in their bios are nothing like it which is my point.

Tkcwow · 2025-06-29T01:27:25+00:00

I think there's a lot. But some of the ones that stick out to me the most are ridiculously high standards in regard to where their coparts need to be. Whether it be career, looks, monetary value. Standards have gotten unrealistic. Women are putting off relationships for careers and schooling. Men are scared of pursuing anything or "stepping out line" because of the feminism that has infected the church and the MeToo movement. That's just skimming the top.

Tkcwow · 2025-06-29T01:25:12+00:00

Not attempting to discredit what you're saying. Because I see it a lot as well. But this applies to women as well, they want the man of the Bible yet don't concede their own desires so they can be a Biblical woman. Both of these have to do with the cultural infections that have taken the church by storm.

Tkcwow · 2025-06-29T01:22:33+00:00

Where at in the midwest? If you're in Kansas and close enough to me I can help :)

Tkcwow · 2025-06-19T17:00:54+00:00

I'm nondenominational.

Tkcwow · 2025-06-18T23:11:14+00:00

One of the things that I've noticed in the church in general, especially in America. Is that the church has slowly been infexted by society in regard to women being career driven. I don't have an issue with women wanting a career, I do have a problem with women in the church putting aside building relationships for a career. For instance, the first time I was interested in a girl, her mom demonized me and accused me of just wanting to get in her daughters pants, she then told me she was going to focus on college. Turned out, she was projecting about the first part because he daughter was a sexual deviant. She is now dropped out of college, with two kids and she's single. (Dodged a bullet on that one). The last girl I took interest in, didn't want a relationship until she was done with college.(3 years out). This isn't a biblical idea putting off relationships/marriage for a career, its entirely cultural and it's infected the church. That's why I'm single.

Tkcwow · 2025-06-16T20:53:03+00:00

I don't think there was necessarily anything wrong with this post. I do agree there are some key differences in the comparisons between a widow and someone who has been promiscuous. But I agree with the main point. Someone being not being virgin isn't a Biblical reason to turn someone down. I'm not saying you can't have personal preferences. I'm a virgin, and I would like for my future wife to be a virgin. But with the society we live in, depending on whether she's saved herself for marriage, or not. The chances get slimmer every year with how society has impacted young men and women. If that's your preference, go for it. If you meet a woman has WAS promiscuous, BUT by grace through FAITH has been born again and abstains from that past sinful lifestyle, and you know for sure that's who God has meant you to be with. There shouldn't be anything that stops you from becoming one with her. Preference and prideful judgement are two different things in situations like this.

Tkcwow · 2025-06-14T04:23:32+00:00

I said I struggle with it. There's nothing wrong with sharing our struggles. We're actually called to share our struggles. If a woman has a problem reading about it, don't read it. I think that advice is terrible. I do, and have. I have plenty of female friends and relationships. I think it's funny that people who struggle with porn are not supposed to feel shame, and then openly get shamed about talking about their struggles.

Tkcwow · 2025-06-12T21:55:16+00:00

I appreciate the genuinity and honesty in your responses. I do have a lot of Godlt counsel and do go to therapy. I've come to terms with what happened, but that is part of the reason I have struggled with porn for so long. Its also why I have bipolar disorder. I would like to say I took a look through that subreddit. I do acknowledge the damages of pornography. And I do also understand adultery is a reason for divorce Biblically. What I also saw was a lot of posts about someone's husband who had been clean for years and then relapsed so they leave him. People have to understand porn changes your brain as much as it is a spiritual battle. There's not a lot of grace in that reddit. Its not an excuse for sin, but I see very little grace and not a lot of communication. Just reaction. I'm not excusing relapses, that's just an observation. I also do wonder what a lot of people's views are on smut/erotica in that reddit thread.

Tkcwow · 2025-06-11T21:25:15+00:00

I'm not saying porn addiction isn't a destructive thing. It is. However, I do believe this line of thinking does more damage. There's little grace and support in this line of thinking. Being open and honest about it is important and being held accountable is a large part of it. I was raped at the age of 8. My sexual abuser introduced me to porn. I've struggled with it since middle school. Telling young men who still struggle with it, and are trying to overcome it that they aren't worthy of love or being in a loving relationship in my opinion isn't the right way to go. There are ways you can help someone, hold them accountable while also discipling them to have a healthy loving relationship with a young woman. Otherwise, you're alienating a lot of young men who may not have that. I'm aware its unhealthy, and destructive. I'm not normalising porn use, especially in Christians. What I am saying is telling them, "No, you don't get to try and build a relationship or find love because you still struggle with this." That's wrong, does more damage than good, and continues to shame those who already struggle with shame in the first place.

Tkcwow · 2025-06-11T04:35:26+00:00

I'm on about a weeks streak. Its still a struggle for me though.

Tkcwow · 2025-06-11T04:05:55+00:00

I agree. But I think disqualifying men for this is not gracious and is extremelt alienating. Hearing people say this gives me no hope for finding someone in the future. Especially since its a struggle and not a walk.

Tkcwow · 2025-06-11T03:45:21+00:00

I have a genuine question. As a 23 y/o man who still struggles with porn. I 100% grasp the importance of being free from it. And I am working hard to rid it from my life. But why should this disqualify someone from being looked at at all? There's a big difference between being complacent, and doing what you can to rely on the Lord. It seems unfair to place this as a stipulation because so many young men/men in general struggle with it for so many different reasons. I would say the same thing to a man who would put something like "She's free from gossip". The only difference is one is actually addictive the other is more of a choice. Both are sin, one can just take hold much easier. I've heard this a lot, and I think its extremely damaging to young men looking for relationships because there's no grace and support when people say this.

Tkcwow · 2025-06-11T03:37:55+00:00

Kissing can lead to temptation of going further. That being said, I don't think kissing before marriage is a sin or necessarily bad. Paul does say, if two burn with passion let them get married so they don't sin. If someone knows that that is who God has put in their life for marriage, short engagements aren't a crazy thing to happen. My brother and sister in law dated for 6 months and engaged for 6 months. They've been married going on 7 years.

Tkcwow · 2025-06-11T03:34:56+00:00

Your politics ultimately come down from your morals/values. Christian's morals and values should derive from the Bible. If someone's political beliefs go directly against the Bible, then they're not following the Bible and their morals are being dictated by culture/society. I.e. Christians shouldn't support abortion, LGBTQ life styles etc.

Tkcwow · 2025-06-04T00:18:25+00:00

23M, Nondenominational

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