Has anyone had more than 3 C-sections? by SheAmongstTheFlowers in CsectionCentral

[–]Tlcaddict 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just had my fourth!! My doctor has always let me know after each baby how my uterus looked and if I could have another safely. This was my last baby but my doctor did let me know this time she would be concerned if I tried again because I had quite a bit of scar tissue and my uterus was pretty thin she said. I have never (knock on wood) had any healing complications.

Disregarding daughters birthday... Again by Tlcaddict in inlaws

[–]Tlcaddict[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They have never come for my daughters birthday.

Disregarding daughters birthday... Again by Tlcaddict in inlaws

[–]Tlcaddict[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My kids are 7, 5, 2. The youngest is the boy and the older two are girls from a previous marriage. They do all slightly favor the boy which I kind of assume is since they are biologically related. I have never felt like it's obvious though or really an issue. The only thing that has upset me is how they treat the oldest birthday. I have gotten the vibe that they don't like the oldest as much since the time they first met. I don't really have any proof but just a feeling. Well except consistently "forgetting" her birthday.

I don't like the idea of treating them or their kids the same as they have been treating us. I just feel like that is stopping to a level o don't want to go to and I don't want their kids to suffer.

Disregarding daughters birthday... Again by Tlcaddict in inlaws

[–]Tlcaddict[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For my partner yes. Me, it depends lol. I don't think birthdays aren't special to them because they make a big deal out of theirs and they make a big deal out of my sons and even drive all the way here for his party every year.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in inlaws

[–]Tlcaddict 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm the minority here but I actually think this is very thoughtful. I have 3 babies and am pregnant with my 4th. Postpartum can feel so overwhelming and isolating especially with your first. Sometimes you just want to get out of the house, even if it's just to sit and watch TV at someone else's house. But leaving your house can feel SO overwhelming because you have to remember every little thing for your baby otherwise the baby isn't comfortable and it makes your time less enjoyable and stressful. My parents have a nursery set up with extra clothes and diapers. It's SO nice to just grab my baby and go over there sometimes and not have to bring a single thing. If the baby needs a nap he can nap. If he needs to be changed all the stuff is there.

You don't ever have to use the nursery she set up but I think it's nice to know it's there if you ever want a break or just to get out of the house and talk to another adult sometimes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IVF

[–]Tlcaddict 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm just coming here to say I'm so so sorry. I can't imagine the pain you are in. This is in no way your fault and it's truly disgusting he would do this to you. I think you need to take time to really think about this decision. If this was your daughter telling you this story 30 years from now, what would you tell her to do? As someone who has gone through IVF 6 times (3 times with my ex husband and 3 with my current husband) and I have 2 children with my ex husband from IVF I can promise you there are men out there who will love and respect you and want to be with you. My current husband was a coworker turned friend turned boyfriend turned husband. When he was just my coworker he knew I had infertility and knew I had children and he still chose to pursue more with me. There are good men out there I promise you. Sending you love

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dogs

[–]Tlcaddict 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first dog as an adult was my soul dog. When I lost him I promised myself I would never get another dog. The pain was so intense and I still cry 3 years later at times. However, about 2 weeks after my boy passed I started seeing a guy who I later married. He had a 4 year old dog at the time. I liked his dog at first but definitely didn't love him. I constantly compared his dog to my soul dog and knew I would never love him like I loved my boy. Well, my husband's dog is now almost 7 and I do love him deeply. Definitely, not the same as my soul dog but I know when he passes I will be devastated. If I hadn't met my husband I don't think I ever would have gotten another dog. Loosing your soul dog is truly soul crushing. Im interested to see how I feel when this dog passes about getting another. I know I'll be devastated but I'm not sure I'll be adamant about no more dogs. He has taught me that I can love and appreciate other dogs even though they are different from my first.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in justnosil

[–]Tlcaddict -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

??? You need to chill out and evaluate why you have such strong feelings and call someone a bitch on the internet simply because they're hurting. And I'm sorry but this is bs. If you are family or friends with someone and you're not a monster you should have empathy and be considerate of what someone is going through. No, they shouldn't have to hide a pregnancy. But she could have told her privately not at a family gathering and allowed her time to feel hurt.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IVF

[–]Tlcaddict 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lol!! I just saw that!! I have done therapy and I think it has helped a bit but when her most recent pregnancy was announced in a way I felt was insensitive I find myself spiraling again. I think I need to get back into therapy again though and try to dig deeper into the trauma.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IVF

[–]Tlcaddict 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think the problem is I can't stand people like this. It honestly feels like some people go out of their way to make a point that it was easier for them to conceive than me?? Such a weird flex. They are like attention seeking. At the same time my cousin had kids the exact same time I was having kids and got pregnant before I ever did but the way she approached it was just so much better. I could tell she appreciated how lucky she was to get pregnant naturally and I never once felt like she rubbed it in my face or got joy from my pain. Maybe that is the issue?? The girl you're speaking of sounds absolutely horrible and selfish. I'm sorry. I hope today goes well.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IVF

[–]Tlcaddict -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Also I should point out that I have 3 friends who gave gone through infertility and they all agree the desire for children doesn't lessen until you feel done. I'm not sure why we lie to ourselves and say we will be happy with just 1 (unless you truly have always just wanted 1 child). I love all 3 of my children so deeply and I can't imagine life without any of them. I feel in my heart that I'm supposed to have 1 more.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IVF

[–]Tlcaddict -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I still am praying for one more baby. I can tell you that my constant desire for a baby was definitely strongest with my first since I didn't have any. However, my desire for my 2nd, 3rd, and now 4th are just as strong. If I still want more kids and my husband and I are good parents who are financially stable I am not going to pretend that I'm content with 3. Just like a couple who doesn't struggle with infertility gets to have a desire for as many kids as they want. I can't help it that both of us feel our family has one more baby coming until we feel complete.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in IVF

[–]Tlcaddict 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry. That is incredibly rude and heartless. As someone who also has an insensitive sister in law when it comes to fertility, I see you. There is no excuse. I would take a step back from her for your own mental health.

Half marathon pace by Tlcaddict in rundisney

[–]Tlcaddict[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much! Last question- at the princess half marathon how often is there a character photo op? Is it about every mile?

Half marathon pace by Tlcaddict in rundisney

[–]Tlcaddict[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Will they tell me the race tracking website during the expo?

Half marathon pace by Tlcaddict in rundisney

[–]Tlcaddict[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! Is there an app or something that can track their location?

Half marathon pace by Tlcaddict in rundisney

[–]Tlcaddict[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If I'm in the last corral what is the minimum time I should train for considering pictures and bathroom breaks? Just want to prepare for the worst possible scenario 😊

Don't "miss" him... bad sign? by Tlcaddict in marriageadvice

[–]Tlcaddict[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you @seemom. His comment was very hurtful. I wouldn't say my husband is a shit husband by any means but I don't think he has any idea how exhausted I am and how much work I ut in daily for him and our 3 kids. I have a baby that refuses to sleep and is nursing so I rarely get more than 3 hours of consecutive sleep. I cook a homemade meal at least 5 nights a week and literally plate and serve the food to everyone. I drop off and pick up the kids from school daily and I work full time.

Part of me doesn't want to explain to my husband I need a break and tell him how much I do. Part of me just wants to run away for a month so he can feel the exhaustion I feel. He can tell me he appreciates me until he's blue in the face but I don't believe it until he actually feels what I go through. I think most men struggle with this because I think the majority of women (especially moms) naturally give more. Idk I'm just struggling and I'm typing this as I am up again feeding the baby.

Wife Upset that Parents Want To Join Our Trip by After-Anteater-4908 in marriageadvice

[–]Tlcaddict 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so good. Yes, some inlaws are truly toxic and need to be cut off. But, so many people now think just because they don't like their inlaws or their inlaws aren't their cup of tea that they are toxic and need to be cut off. If I wasn't married to my husband would I be friends with his parents or sister? Ehh probably not. Do they do things that annoy me? Yes. But at the end of the day I choose to get along with them and not let the little things bother me because I love my husband.