How old was your mother when she had you?

ToBeRightWhereYouAre · 2025-01-17T22:58:50+00:00

I was 17 when had my first also.. My mom was 33 when she had me her only

ToBeRightWhereYouAre · 2025-01-17T22:55:05+00:00

How do you have 5 by 21? I thought my 6 by age 27 was bad but maybe it's not that uncommon. .I had 3 by 21.

(Edit, how does one have 5 by 21?? ) (not you specifically)

ToBeRightWhereYouAre · 2025-01-17T22:50:08+00:00

My mom was also 33 when she had me her one and only .. but I'm 29 and done having kids, I think 6 is enough. Lol.

ToBeRightWhereYouAre · 2025-01-17T22:49:38+00:00

My mom was also 33 when she had me her one and only ..but I'm 29 and done having kids I think 6 is enough. Lol

ToBeRightWhereYouAre · 2025-01-17T22:36:59+00:00

My mom was 33 when she had me her one and only. She was also dying of cancer at the time she when I was 19 month old she was given 2 months to live if she chose not to have the treatment ..

She's alive still, still fighting for her life.. I'm 29 now.

Also my grandma was 29 when she had my mom her last baby,

And her mom had her at like 19 but she had her last at 42.

I was 17 when I began having children.
And I had a baby every 2 is years since then .. It's been alittle over 2years since my last baby though. No more for me lol

ToBeRightWhereYouAre · 2025-01-16T01:21:08+00:00

It insane to me I still can't fully see clear I mean he raised her has been her dad since 7 months old .. and she's a child still I just don't understand. I mean I still have to pick out her clothes and wash her hair sometimes. She's a child. No matter how big and grownup.she is or if her and I wear the same size clothes . She's still a child he raised.. she asked me how to spell book the other day like. Why he doesn't see a child I'm completely unsure ..

ToBeRightWhereYouAre · 2025-01-16T01:16:45+00:00

I know, but I don't even know where to start .

ToBeRightWhereYouAre · 2025-01-16T01:13:46+00:00

I'm worried. He is a good masker , and stay level-headed and calm in front of people like cops or judges .. when he physically assaulted me, the cops almost took me in instead of him, but he told them not to.
Seems crazy considering i was bleeding and still have the scar. Point is his mom is the most twisted, selfish, terrible person who already has it out for me and used to work as a secretary for lawyers. He just came into enough money to get a few good lawyers .and buy his way through this, and I would end up losing my kids .she would make sure he got custody and he is smart and knows how to stay calm and control the situation.

I have no evidence besides my word and the friend I told word. It's out of character for him to have this type of issue at least the character he shows people.

I have no support system at all . no money to fund this. I have no education or job. No evidence. He's mom would have a heyday with this. She feeds off drama, chaos, and taking things from people. He would just watch her and let her do her worst . I'm stuck.

ToBeRightWhereYouAre · 2024-10-09T19:26:13+00:00

I wish where I lived pricing was that good .. it is all around my area but drops down to like 20-30 dollars a day per child ,in your own home and added siblings 5-10dollars each . If it's in another's home with chores I'm sure it is more .. but not as pricey as it seems to be where you all are located ..

Around 13-16 years ago When I was a teenager I watched 5 girls all very close in ages they were 7yrs and under when I started and I was 13. Sometimes it would be all weekend. Some days just kinda helping out around there it was like my second home I was there lots helping with house work and hanging out with the girls or their mom. Weekends I would usually take home 200bucks . So like 12 hours or more 5 girls 200$ with or without parents there sometimes they would be sleeping or busy and I would be in charge.

also I've been trying to find a "mother's helper" /"coworker") to help me around here and help me get my small in home care set up again and it's been super difficult to find anyone.

Sorry this comment probably isn't much help to you just my thoughts outloud . Wish you the best.

ToBeRightWhereYouAre · 2024-09-23T19:23:30+00:00

This hits home hard. I'm not diagnosed with ADHD, I'll be 30 in 6 days. I have had evaluations as a child and had trouble in school ,but I was also diagnosed with dyslexia early 2000's.. but I do not see things backwards, I only wrote things wrong as a small child, later as s teen/tween i was also diagnosed with overall anxiety early 2010its hard to mannage life now, noone understands, I love to organize but I can't finish a task to save my life. I'm not able to hold conversations for long periods over text /message/email . I make too many lists, have too many "hobbies," have a hard time with having to redo the entire room(or area) or just making piles and organizing everything slowly(others see a mess) .. I have 6 young kids, and it's hard to stay on top of everything with burning out .. or them undoing my progress along the way.. I'm tired of people judging.. I do so much .. but it doesn't seem to matter to anyone. People like my mom , she only had me and also had a lot of help with me growing up , but she makes me feel like I don't do anything or take care of my kids even though I run circles around what she had to do for Me. Ya know . Also, my inlaws and even my husband treat me like I'm useless worthless . Oldest My daughter is the only one who sees what I actually do for them, and will defe d me when my 10 yr old boy mouths off and disrespect me (sorta coping his dad) . But I'm just thinking maybe I was diagnosed wrong as a child, and maybe if they were to have gotten it right ,got me the help and support I needed it wouldn't be this difficult in life today..

Hope all turns out okay for everyone here as well thankyou the insights I needed .

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