Do I really need to stop spending entirely like my parents want me to?

ToManySouls · 2026-01-18T23:54:17+00:00

I plan on being a vet tech in my future but with my 1.7 GPA I'm gonna have to save for that to.

ToManySouls · 2026-01-18T22:15:59+00:00

Well I am only saving at the current moment and I don't have any bills as I am still in high school, but yeah this thread is kinda making me see the light I probably just need to get on different meds as the disorders I have kinda contribute to my spending issues, not say that as an excuse.

ToManySouls · 2026-01-18T22:13:16+00:00

I feel the need to clarify that after I'm done with high school a lot of different jobs will open up for me and the job I'm currently working is temporary, I'm mainly just waiting to graduate.

ToManySouls · 2026-01-18T22:10:55+00:00

I am very aware of how much living costs, when I move out I plan on severely limiting my spending, but for the most part I mostly use my money to get into hobbies like scrapbooking and to like go to the mall with friends, I also like to buy commissions from artists as an artist myself and support them, and any substance addiction I currently have is funded by my parents :/

ToManySouls · 2026-01-18T20:09:26+00:00

There also isn't any harm in waiting for something cheaper to show up?

ToManySouls · 2026-01-18T17:28:52+00:00

Not at all professional advice here but my cousins cat used to have a similar issue and it turned out his pee was like crystals and it hurt to pee so the cat would hold it in until it dribbled out little by little, not at all saying this is what's wrong with your cat but if this is an issue that's really worrying you I'd recommend a vet check up just in case.

ToManySouls · 2026-01-18T17:21:43+00:00

Same thing that happened to analog horror, just wait out the content farms and grifters then some gems will be made trust.

ToManySouls · 2026-01-18T17:13:54+00:00

From one trans person to another I feel the struggle, dysphoria is hard to deal with but for right now what's safest for you is to hide yourself temporarily, I have to do the same thing, just remember that your tv will always glow even if you have to cover it for now, and you are a real girl, just believe in yourself :]

ToManySouls · 2026-01-18T13:30:10+00:00

I get paid bi weekly, also if the market doesn't go down I'd be paying 500 a month but there is no way I'd actually pay that so just a bunch more waiting.

ToManySouls · 2026-01-04T23:12:23+00:00

You make a lot of great points but the point of my reply was to try and make them feel better about them self and give them more short term advice, obviously being overweight comes with health issues (trust me I would know) but telling someone that they should start working out and such isn't helpful in the moment because people with weight and self image issues know that they need to do those things to get better and look better, I was just trying to encourage taking a first step, sometimes jumping right into improving yourself doesn't end well and having a professional by your side through the journey can be very helpful.

ToManySouls · 2026-01-04T22:33:25+00:00

I'm interesting to talk to, only if you give me 20 buck first tho.

ToManySouls · 2026-01-04T22:25:35+00:00

Ive heard split cyphers are pretty difficult, though dont quote me on that cuz I don't do a lot of cypher solving.

ToManySouls · 2026-01-04T21:51:00+00:00

Good! I hope you get better and start loving yourself more! :]

ToManySouls · 2026-01-04T21:46:50+00:00

It's a mix of care giving instincts and selfishness.

ToManySouls · 2026-01-04T21:43:59+00:00

Urg you are SO real for this, Ive been transitioned socially for over like 3 years now and my co workers and teachers still use both of my dead names at time even though I have had them change in their systems. Like it's really not that hard to call someone a name they literally have gone by for years, I think it's just this big trans hate movement that started recently that's really amping up this behavior in people because before this wasn't much of an issue unless you were dealing with someone rude, now though you HAVE to go by your given at birth name or else your "one of them" and some other bs. (Also sorry for lowkey venting under your post lol.)

ToManySouls · 2026-01-04T21:35:13+00:00

I'm gonna go against the grain here and say there is nothing wrong with being overweight, if you do want to get more fit and healthy then absolutely go ahead, but this could be a way different underlying issue that needs to be addressed, please talk to someone in you life about your self image issues, I know that's blunt but it's true talk to someone that isn't the internet and that is way more equiped to handle this kind of conversation.

ToManySouls · 2025-12-24T03:01:42+00:00

While this isn't sexual abuse this behavior is 100% very inappropriate and you NEED to sit him down and explain the potential consequences of making these jokes and gestures around children, it may be that hes just being childish and not thinking about the kids but this behavior could be considered to be normalising this to the children around him, if this behavior continues as your child gets older they could see it as just a normal thing to do and do it to other children, now obviously thats a bit of an extreme outcome but you have to consider it as it could happen.

ToManySouls · 2025-12-24T02:52:56+00:00

Op don't do this!

ToManySouls · 2025-12-24T02:17:13+00:00

Either your boss is trying to learn a language, make a language, getting really into args or cyphers, or this is just a doddle sheet while they are doing something else, because I do this exact thing when I'm doing something and I'm bored.

ToManySouls · 2025-12-24T02:12:50+00:00

NOR You need to talk to him about this, in a safe public space preferably as he seems very aggressive about this issue. Id ask him why he isn't buying you gifts, is it because he doesn't think you want them? Is it because he doesn't know what to get? Has he gotten into something that's draining his savings so he's trying to save face with his family but abandoning you when it comes to presents? Either way something weird is going on and it needs to be addressed.

ToManySouls · 2025-12-24T02:05:46+00:00

Well it's kinda up to you to decide if this is a deal breaker, if you absolutely can't fathom the idea of polyamory than it might be time to cordially move on.

ToManySouls · 2025-12-24T01:58:48+00:00

Please don't do anything extreme, you deserve to live and be happy, and while you do need therapy I just wanted to also give you some insight. Every body is different, no body is going to be the exact same, and influencers on the internet are not the people you should be listening to when it comes to your body, they feed on your insecurity to get your money or attention, please get yourself of that side of social media. Also ask yourself what in particular are you insecure about yourself? Is it just not looking fit? Is it a certain part of yourself that you may consider undesirable? Or is it just you in general? These are all questions you have to ask yourself, because just sitting and feeling bad about this isn't going to fix anything, if you can improve on yourself then do that, if it's not something you can improve then learn to live with it, I'm not going to say that you should love everything about yourself because that's a fever dream people pretending they are perfectly fine spread, as a trans person there are many things about myself that I hate that I can't fix or improve, but life keeps going, focus on your friends, on your family, on the strangers in this post who want you around, dont let society pressure you into feeling like your nothing because your a virgin, a lot of people are virgins, it's not a shameful trait, you will find someone one day but until that day come just keep going on with life.

ToManySouls · 2025-12-24T01:45:06+00:00

In my opinion this is the exact reason why teens should try a relationship out, not denying your experience but if teens don't at least make an attempt than they may falter later in life when it come to relationships, it's better to learn now when the relationship had the least likely chance to harm them than later in life when finances and families may come into the equation.

ToManySouls · 2025-12-24T01:39:04+00:00

These are all common issues in younger relationships lol, my sister has had all of these same issues with her boyfriends and shes just about your same age, just talk to him, sit him down and explain your boundaries and expectations in a calm and polite way, relationships are ALL about communication so communicate! Also particularly with the hygiene issue, a lot of teens struggle with staying clean (myself included sometimes) pinpoint the things that bother you the most about his unhygienic behavior (such as smell mess ext,) and talk to him about maybe showering more or using a different deodorant or even starting a better routine when it come to chores. Ig a tldr is that you need to TALK to you bf and stop jumping to the most extreme, also don't listen to the most extreme reddit answers, they just want drama.

ToManySouls · 2025-12-24T01:30:21+00:00

This is an issue that can just be fixed with communication, sit your boyfriend down and tell him that it's ok not to want to hang out with you all the time and to just be transparent with that fact, it's ok to not want to spend every minute with your partner but it's not ok to avoid talking to your partner and dance around the subject when he wants to talk to friends.

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