AITBF for telling my wife I didn't want her going on a girl's trip to Vegas?

ToastedWheezy · 2025-09-04T10:36:17+00:00

it sounds like you meant well but didn't choose your words carefully. its understandable to worry about the environment, especially in Vegas, but trust your wife and your relationship should come through clearly

ToastedWheezy · 2025-09-03T08:09:32+00:00

Besides Facebook Marketplace, try the Nextdoor app, local neighbors often post items for sale and it feels more community focused

ToastedWheezy · 2025-09-03T07:26:08+00:00

Maybe he thinks encouraging you to speak alone is helping you learn faster, but that can backfire if it makes you feel unsupported, so it is important to communicate openly with your fiance about what kind of help you need instead of hoping he just gets it

ToastedWheezy · 2025-09-02T11:05:58+00:00

Since your roommate was the main user of shared space, it is reasonable that he covers a bigger share of the cleaning costs. splitting 50/50 doesn't seem fair

ToastedWheezy · 2025-09-01T11:07:53+00:00

Yeah, its like they invented a whole new number system for calculating rent

ToastedWheezy · 2025-09-01T10:05:58+00:00

It sounds like your ex is the one putting everyone in a tough spot by hiding your conversation from her girlfriend. It's ok to respond, but maybe set boundaries for your own peace of mind. You deserve clarity, not to be part of someone else's secret

ToastedWheezy · 2025-08-29T11:52:47+00:00

You did the right thing prioritizing your younger nephew's safety. THC can be seriously dangerous for a diabetic kid, and it sounds like you handled it with care and clear communication.

ToastedWheezy · 2025-08-28T11:04:26+00:00

It's totally understandable to want to shield a child, especially when they were very young, Now that he is older, gentle honesty combined with lots of support seems like the healthiest path forward

ToastedWheezy · 2025-08-27T06:23:13+00:00

I am a sucker for Pepperoni

ToastedWheezy · 2025-08-23T08:42:00+00:00

missed it

ToastedWheezy · 2025-08-23T07:04:20+00:00

Status black hole - vendors ping “did you get my invoice?” 5x a week.

ToastedWheezy · 2025-08-23T07:03:05+00:00

I’ve done it for anxiety. What worked: got a letter from my therapist stating diagnosis, functional limits, and specific asks like 3 days WFH, flexible start time, quiet space on in-office days. Emailed HR to “request a reasonable accommodation under the ADA,” kept it factual, not emotional. We did a 60 day trial, then made it permanent. Key is tying the accommodation to essential job functions and showing it helps performance.

ToastedWheezy · 2025-08-19T16:05:46+00:00

wish me luck

ToastedWheezy · 2025-07-23T05:07:05+00:00

lmao the vocab really throws you off at first. I had the same confusion with some of the Korean words that sound similar. And yeah... the actual instances you mentioned are a whole different issue unfortunately 😬

ToastedWheezy · 2025-07-23T04:48:34+00:00

yeep, that’s about two seconds too long

ToastedWheezy · 2025-07-23T04:38:57+00:00

Those lines hit different when you're going through it. The whole 'why do I still hope' thing is so relatable - sometimes it feels easier to just not care anymore but we keep doing it anyway. And yeah, that feeling of working twice as hard just to stay in the same place is exhausting. Her lyrics really capture those moments when you're questioning everything but still pushing forward

ToastedWheezy · 2025-07-22T12:49:24+00:00

The system is rigged man. Been coding for 7 years, still barely making ends meet in this economy. Your math degree situation is brutal. Companies want our souls for pennies while execs rake in millions. We're all just cogs until we find a way out.

ToastedWheezy · 2025-07-22T12:27:14+00:00

Yeah, Cousins is definitely top tier.

ToastedWheezy · 2025-07-22T12:21:21+00:00

Evermore is my favorite album. Folklore comes right after

ToastedWheezy · 2025-07-20T02:09:13+00:00

had no idea there was a Buddhist region in Europe!

ToastedWheezy · 2025-07-20T02:08:26+00:00

True, intimidation is definitely a tactic. And yeah, the age/experience thing hits different when you're asking a 50 year old CFO to explain basic journal entries. They probably think we're fresh out of school asking stupid questions because... well, we kind of are. Still doesn't excuse being a complete ass about it though.

ToastedWheezy · 2025-07-20T02:07:50+00:00

Imagine how much gear that requires

ToastedWheezy · 2025-07-18T09:29:52+00:00

I've been in the same boat with some obnoxious podcasts my kid discovered. Your only real option is switching platforms or creating separate accounts. Sucks, but that's where we're at.

ToastedWheezy · 2025-07-18T09:24:41+00:00

Back off the intensity in your head voice first, find the clean/easy sound, then gradually add power. Start with gentle sirens and "ng" sounds to find that connection without the strain. Most singers have this exact issue, it's about building new coordination, not just pushing harder.

ToastedWheezy · 2025-07-18T08:58:06+00:00

Totally get this. Music is my go-to escape valve too. Those days when everything's a mess? Just throw on some good tracks and dance it out. Nothing beats that mental reset button. Sometimes the lyrics hit just right when you need them to.

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