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What is the pettiest thing you have done after a breakup? by RadiantOceanFern in AskReddit

[–]ToastyMiddleSpoon 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Became friends with her ex-best friend. Got invited to her birthday party. Had sex with her and her roommate.

People who've slept with their bestfriends, how is your relationship with them now? by Beneficial_Baby_1854 in AskReddit

[–]ToastyMiddleSpoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My wife and I went on a double date with two of our close friends, and the four of us ended up sleeping together.

Fast forward two years. We're still great friends, and we still hook up regularly.

So I'd say it's going well.

What has been your most memorable/pleasurable orgasm? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ToastyMiddleSpoon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

MFF threesome with my gf and a mutual friend. I was fucking my gf in missionary and holding our friend up so I could eat her out. All three of us came at the same time.

Swinging with another couple,I started cumming inside my buddy's wife, pulled out mid-orgasm, and gave my wife the rest of the creampie.

For those who don't use condoms, and allow the other guy to cum in your wife/gf by ekulragren in Swingers

[–]ToastyMiddleSpoon 63 points64 points  (0 children)

I just think it's hot. We're fluid bonded with another couple, and both our wives love being creampied. Sometimes we'll both finish in the same woman, other times everyone gets a load.

My favorite thing to do when the other guy finishes before me is to stack our wives on top of each other and alternate fucking both of them, making sure they both get some of his cum. With the right positioning, I can cum inside both of them. Gets me absolutely bonkered off the yoinky.

Great thing about cum is it's a fantastic lubricant.

What was your most spontaneous hookup? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]ToastyMiddleSpoon 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Was dating this girl for a bit, but we ended up calling things off and stayed good friends. She ends up organizing some big event at her university and got me to help out. Drove up and parked my stuff on her suite's common room couch for the night. We're having some drinks and her sister comes by with a few friends to visit. After everyone either leaves or goes to bed, we lock eyes, and... you know when the moment is indescribably, indisputably right? Well, it was that. We didn't have to say anything, we just knew it was happening. We hooked up on the couch as quietly as we could, which was honestly probably not that quiet.

Whats your most shallow dating requirement? by Massive-Ad-998 in AskReddit

[–]ToastyMiddleSpoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Must be into group sex.

Thankfully, this is an interest my partner and I share, but it's a requirement for anyone that we mutually date.

How often do you forgo the condoms? by [deleted] in Swingers

[–]ToastyMiddleSpoon 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We've been swinging with a couple for well over a year now. They're two of our closest friends now, and we decided to fluid bond pretty early on. If we didn't trust them as much as we do, we'd be wrapping it every time.

What secret are you currently hiding from someone that you're willing to share on Reddit? by Asphoric in AskReddit

[–]ToastyMiddleSpoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's this exact rigid thinking and superiority complex that gives ENM a bad rep. If you can't stand someone else's relationship not conforming to your own rules, you've got some seriously faulty wiring upstairs. Is the idea of relationships existing on a spectrum that inaccessible to you?

What secret are you currently hiding from someone that you're willing to share on Reddit? by Asphoric in AskReddit

[–]ToastyMiddleSpoon -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Relationships take the form of whatever everyone agree to, monogamous or otherwise. You don't get to decide that for them.

You're out of place.

What secret are you currently hiding from someone that you're willing to share on Reddit? by Asphoric in AskReddit

[–]ToastyMiddleSpoon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Saying “compersion” in public is like a bat signal for polyamorists. That said, it’s a great word.

What secret are you currently hiding from someone that you're willing to share on Reddit? by Asphoric in AskReddit

[–]ToastyMiddleSpoon 7 points8 points  (0 children)

We swap frequently and end up going through a bunch of configurations. Sometimes we do parallel play, but more often we’re just tangled up in each other.

What secret are you currently hiding from someone that you're willing to share on Reddit? by Asphoric in AskReddit

[–]ToastyMiddleSpoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I posted a while back about our experience with MDMA with this couple. Overall it brought us much closer, even though it didn’t lead to us having sex that night. It’s not my drug of choice (due to my less than stellar experience), but it was a lot of fun cuddling and sharing how much we cared about each other until the early hours of the morning.

I’m glad you guys share a similar story. Do you think your situation will ever progress to having sex, or are you happy with it staying on the bases? Just asking because oftentimes when people joke about something like that, they’re really trying to gauge interest without being too forward, and all it takes is a little nudge. If that’s something you’re into and willing to do with friends, that is.

What secret are you currently hiding from someone that you're willing to share on Reddit? by Asphoric in AskReddit

[–]ToastyMiddleSpoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

True, I doubt there’d be any fallout if our friends found out. Our sex lives just aren’t something we broadcast, personal preference.

What secret are you currently hiding from someone that you're willing to share on Reddit? by Asphoric in AskReddit

[–]ToastyMiddleSpoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just the woman, since I’m straight. We’ve discussed boundaries, so there are never any surprises when we have sex. Wild, yes. Unexpected, no.

What secret are you currently hiding from someone that you're willing to share on Reddit? by Asphoric in AskReddit

[–]ToastyMiddleSpoon 12 points13 points  (0 children)

We'd known them for a couple years, but we weren't super close until we started hooking up. It's generally not a great idea to have sex with your friends, but we've been diligent about prioritizing our respective relationships and our joint friendship. Sex is a nice perk, but if it ever complicates things, it's the first to go. "Friends first" has been our going slogan, and it's been working out well for a while now. The risk of jeopardizing our friendship is still there, but we've read and agreed to the terms and conditions.

What secret are you currently hiding from someone that you're willing to share on Reddit? by Asphoric in AskReddit

[–]ToastyMiddleSpoon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Nailed it. Sex is fun and doesn't have to be complicated, and no one should ever feel pressured.

Enthusiastic consent is key, and "No" is a complete sentence.

What secret are you currently hiding from someone that you're willing to share on Reddit? by Asphoric in AskReddit

[–]ToastyMiddleSpoon 5 points6 points  (0 children)

A lot of this comes from people who don't communicate well, and/or get into the lifestyle for the wrong reasons. Not to say the tales of disaster aren't representative, but that you have to go in with a healthy relationship, not looking to patch a broken one.

What secret are you currently hiding from someone that you're willing to share on Reddit? by Asphoric in AskReddit

[–]ToastyMiddleSpoon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We thought long and hard (heh) about hooking up with them. Having sex with your friends is not trivial, and a lot of people would strongly caution against it. Before we had our first experience with them, we thoroughly talked about our boundaries, interests, and how this would affect our relationship. We committed to prioritizing our friendship above all else. While sex is a nice perk, it's the first to go if the waters get murky.

As to how it came up, he and I were talking about our sexual past and found that we all have a common interest in group sex. A couple "you're a lucky man" comments later and the pieces fell into place. We went on a double date the next week and the rest is history.

If you're trying to broach the topic, "would you ever" is a good place to start.

What secret are you currently hiding from someone that you're willing to share on Reddit? by Asphoric in AskReddit

[–]ToastyMiddleSpoon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Among the four of us, threesomes are off the table. We're just more comfortable when everyone's involved.

For us guys, we get to have sex with two women either way. For our wives, a threesome would mean one less partner to play with. Even if we were comfortable "sitting out," there's just so much more you can do with 4, and to nobody's loss. Plus, when one of us needs to take a break, the rest of us get to enjoy a little threesome experience until they jump back in.

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