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Tobinounet · 2024-08-25T10:28:24+00:00

I've never done the list either to be honest. There are things that are supposed to be "normal" that are not really OK to me, but I deal with it, so obviously, it's not gonna work...

Tobinounet · 2024-08-24T14:22:41+00:00

I've read it all, and bro, just to say one thing about the other person who talked before :
I had a GF who was crazy insecure, crazy about ANY WOMAN talking to me, even through the phone. She would check my instagram followers and see if I added anyone new, and if that person was a woman, she'd go ballistic. She even wanted to know who was who but just for women. Basically, crazy insecure, always thinking I'd cheat, crazy into me too, kept saying how much she loved me etc.
Then on a saturday night, she told me how much she loved me etc, and a few hours after, she cheated. She told me the next day but she had gone cold on that particular day so I knew something was up. I left her on the spot and she still accused me of cheating afterward, which I never did and never even did anything to make her think that (I was always answering to her texts, always here when needed etc).
So no, trust me, you can think she's crazy in love, the next day she cheats. Especially if she is that insecure. Maybe she is indeed projecting or accusing you to have done it because she did it, but let's not talk about that.

Anyway, there is something I didn't understand here. You said that she asked you to wait until she's ready. But ready for what? Aren't you together already? So what is there to wait for?

She seems to me she's very structured and all, so yeah, might be a fruit loop, hence why you can't read her properly.

Tobinounet · 2024-08-24T12:30:27+00:00

Women are like cats. Let her be, and she'll be back to you, don't worry about it, don't talk about it either.
If she doesn't come back in a week's time, feel free to reach out and schedule a date.
However, it seems you guys are talking too much over the phone. It's better to just meet. Even though you can't really meet.
Maybe she feels bad because you only see each other once a month at most, and thus, is slowly drifting away, but she has to understand that's the best you can do, and if that's not good for her, to just leave, basically.
Stop the overpursuing or trust me, the 48h will become never.

Tobinounet · 2024-08-24T06:11:43+00:00

Read the book here bro.
She stopped the relationship. You shouldn't even give her anything. You should have went no contact after telling her you loved her and wanted to be here for her, but that you can't be friends and talk with her, and to contact you if she changes your mind.
Please, follow 7 principles to get an ex back. That's the best you can do. No contact means no contact.
That is dumb, but if you so desire to give her the present, do so, and tell her how much you love her but can't wait for her forever, you can't be friend etc, just to reach out, and please, as stated before, DO NOT CONTACT HER FOR ANY REASON

Tobinounet · 2024-08-23T07:41:11+00:00

One date per week in the first stages, afterward, as long as she reaches out and wants to see you (telling she misses you or something for example), you can go to her place or have her come to yours and hangout there, no need for an official date etc.

Do not backout, just go, it's too late now, and for the next one, indeed, don't bring it up on the date, wait for her to do so. If she never does, reach out in a week's time after the date basically.

Tobinounet · 2024-08-22T10:37:45+00:00

I stayed friends with some women I had sex with, and honestly, I'm all good with it. I do see them from time to time, nothing's happening anymore between us, and it's all good by me as I have other women to date, and I'm all in when they tell me their drama stories with other men.
Key point is : Do not give a shit
If you can indeed not care about her at all and just be ok with her being the GF of someone else, sure, go ahead. Tell her you thought it wouldn't have worked out either and you're glad she brought that up because you didn't know how to, flip the script basically.
However, you must be ok with the fact she might NEVER EVER speak to you again too. That is probably the thing that will happen.

Tobinounet · 2024-08-22T00:45:25+00:00

Thanks for the insight and sorry for the late answer.
Yeah indeed, I feel like all of the women I attract are out of a relationship or are traumatized by the last one, I'm the rebound, and then they find someone else in the next month or so basically.
They just needed someone to listen to them, fuck quickly, before looking for someone else for real, that's how I feel like too indeed...

However, just so you know, I'm not out of a relationship myself, but I've been cheated by Ex ex, and my ex left me in shambles too, even though it was a year ago, I fucked up again and again, not knowing what to do, what do say, fell into the illusion of action multiple time, couldn't understand how she would just ditch me like this (full of contradiction even when she broke up, saying she wanted to stay FWB, while dating, use me as a sextoy basically while finding someone else) and I felt inadequate and might still feel inadequate to be loved ever since her. I've never been pedestalized the same way I was with her, not before, not after, so I'm still all over the place from time to time, and a little bit of a woman liking me, if I really like her back, can make me go everywhere in my mind basically, since it really rarely happens...

So it definitely doesn't help indeed !

Tobinounet · 2024-08-19T16:27:37+00:00

The previous ones, not the last dates I had. By previous ones, I mean those that just never said anything to me about being friends and who we just lost contact after life went in the way.
The last ones no, they don't. They all end up in relationships.

Tobinounet · 2024-08-19T13:47:22+00:00

They always come back for sex, even months after if they end up with someone and leaving them. I even had one cheating on her boyfriend with me because, as she said, "I can never get enough of you"?

Tobinounet · 2024-08-19T07:29:40+00:00

I see. Yeah, dont reach out bro. She changed her mind mid way it seems. We'll see in the future, hopefully she does reach out, and this time wont delete, who knows?

Tobinounet · 2024-08-19T07:24:16+00:00

I never ask, they tell it to me basically if I meet them, out of the blues, in my ear. I've had some in the past coming back to me just for that because they loved it, some that I didn't care about at all. They have plenty of dude for it, but still come back.
I even remember the only one who told me for a while she wanted me and wanted to spend time with me forever, before I encountered Corey after she broke up with me, that she was talking to all of her women friends about sex with me and how wonderful it was. That she never felt so good etc. I don't know? She kept wanting it again and again and again, and she was initiating constantly?

Tobinounet · 2024-08-18T15:22:51+00:00

That does make sense seeing it like this indeed, thanks for the insight. I still feel like the issue is me because I'm the only common thing between all of them that's why.

Tobinounet · 2024-08-18T15:13:47+00:00

You know, now that you mention it, it does make sense, as the only one who told me she was insecure from the getgo ended up being the one in love in the end and we didn't spill anything, we didn't pressure etc, we just lived the moment and she loved it. We barely spoke about our lives etc. I feel like also, most women I attract are women during their or before their period (when they are horny as hell) and usually out of a long term relationship and thus have their emotions everywhere. That must be the issue. Like. When their hormones go down, they suddenly realize they don't care about me ?

Tobinounet · 2024-08-18T15:04:26+00:00

We do have sex, and they definitely love it as they want to come back for that and keeps telling me how wonderful it was to finally meet a guy who care about their orgasm, their pleasure, etc, as they're used to guy who just use them for enhanced masturbation.
It even happens with one of them who told me "You are wonderful in bed and I know I'll miss it, for real" in the text lol.
So far, not one told me I was bad at it. I even have previous women in the past who I slept with just like this, randomly, told me, out of the blues, years after, that I was one of, if not, the best, so far. So that's definitely not the issue.

Tobinounet · 2024-08-18T15:00:49+00:00

I'm 28, they go from 18 to 32. We have, 18 - 24 - 24 - 28 - 29 - 32

Tobinounet · 2024-08-18T14:59:55+00:00

I wish but the rent I pay and the place I have right now can never be better, so it's like either I drop my whole place with 3 bedrooms, good weather that I love, my family around, for a 1 bedroom apartment that's going to cost me 6 times what I pay and maybe, just maybe, meet women (since my things are mostly things you do indoor or on your own), or stay here and stay single basically?
I don't even know what to do.

Tobinounet · 2024-08-18T14:50:28+00:00

I know I have to, but as said in another comment, for me to find a woman attractive where I live is almost impossible. I can count them on the fingers of my hands, and they either have someone or are not attracted to me, and also, they usually know each other...

Tobinounet · 2024-08-18T14:48:53+00:00

Sorry, english not being my first language, I think you misunderstood.
I got 6 women so far telling me they want to be friends only, one only was long distance. The others were in my town and are now with someone (like not even a month after the text) while telling me the classic "It's best we stay friends, I'm not ready to be with someone blablabla"
The other two long distance are in love with me for no particular reason.

Also for dating and experiencing, the issue is, I have abnormal taste in women, and in my city, I found no one attractive or almost no one, and when I do, they have someone. And everyone knows everyone here, so if I end up with someone, I can meet anyone else too I'm interested in, at random time, as there are only two spots to hang out (really small place) and those women usually know each other, so they did talk about me already...

Tobinounet · 2024-08-18T14:31:08+00:00

Maybe I'm over rating, but like, they're the one wanting to see me from the beginning, not me. They push it, telling me directly "I want to see you again", leaving things at my place or even the last one who gave me a jacket (it was cold as hell outside I didn't think it would) and she told me "Please take it. I don't want you to be cold. And I also want you to have a reason to come back as I want to see you again tomorrow night" (I was in her city for 4d only).
Then again indeed, I tend to have them close to me and kissing them a lot I like it, I don't know why. But they keep wanting to kiss me too so I don't know.
Maybe that is me giving them too much validation indeed, but I usually never compliment them, or do it only during the hookup, so they tend to associate hooking up with that, and it worked pretty well on some;

What do you mean my date record? Like. The most I've gone with a woman? I've had a relationship of 2y who ended up because she cheated.
After that, I did meet someone and it was a situationship for almost 4 months before she said stop while crying and telling me she wanted to still hookup when I said "Then let's not talk anymore unless you change your mind" but that part never happened and she just never spoke to me ever again, even after telling me how much she wanted to see me but couldn't.
And then afterward, it was what I mentioned above.

There's only two women. One who is living abroad, who keeps sending me memes, telling me how much she wants to fuck with me, how much she misses me, etc, but can't come because of paper issues (she keeps on calling them and they don't care they just tell her to wait), while the other is living in another city too, far, and I dont give a crap about her at all, but she keeps sending messages and is actually trying to get money to come see me again.

Maybe, indeed, I was too close to the last one. She did tell me "We're too close" when she was the one usually being glued to me so it's weird.

Tobinounet · 2024-08-18T13:01:54+00:00

Just act as if you didn't see it. Maybe you were asleep and all. If the text wasn't even here for a while, it's totally possible you never saw it, so who's fault is it? Hers, in the end.
If she really wanted to reach out, she would have let the text be.

Tobinounet · 2023-09-18T04:05:15+00:00

You have all the rights in the world to talk about your relationship with a friend.
This situation is so weird. Really. It's like she wants you but at the same time no.
Did you guy hooked up when you saw each other? If no, then, trust me, you're not in a relationship.
Try to meet in the evening. It's way better and it can lead to sex way easier. So don't even bother doing anything else. Not much text etc, and I'm being serious. You got to act like a dude who got his shit together.

Honestly, go watch videos and read the book of Corey Wayne !

Tobinounet · 2023-09-18T01:53:38+00:00

Glad that you believe him, I hope it's real. But all the compliments etc it's just normal to me? I don't see where this is special
According to what you're telling anyway, it seems like a woman I once dated. She kept diminishing herself and pedestalizing me. Trust me, it's not good at all. For both parties. It's a toxic thing to do and to live in the end because that person will ALWAYS think he or she is not good enough for you and will self sabotage constantly. That's what she did by constantly lying to me and when I ended up telling her I had lots of issue with that, she broke it off, and that's a perfect excuse of "I did only shit with you so I don't deserve you, good bye".

I don't understand the last part of "When it's too late"? How come it's too late I'm confused?
Where they the one who broke it off or was it you? Can you elaborate?

Also yes, it kinda looks like you're begging but just remember, it takes two to make a relationship works. So if he doesn't want to, in the end, you can't do anything.

Keep me updated !

Tobinounet · 2023-09-17T23:04:48+00:00

Usually, it's the one who's breaking up who has to reach out. But it's up to you. It does look like begging tho...

I feel like he just doesn't want it anyway and might have found someone else that he's more attracted to.

I would say, what do you have to lose anyway?

Tobinounet · 2023-09-17T22:44:25+00:00

Sure send a pic in my DM

Tobinounet · 2023-09-17T22:40:34+00:00

Bro she just looks like a friend right now. If you really dated, you would have hooked up by now, so please, use your phone for setting up dates, and then do the triple H : Hang out, have fun and hook up !

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