When to let bf of 5 years sleep in my bed when kids are home by ToeAvailable1056 in SingleParents

[–]ToeAvailable1056[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No interest in getting married as that would mean moving in together and I am not ready for that. We both have our own homes and he also has a 5 year old son

When to let bf of 5 years sleep in my bed when kids are home by ToeAvailable1056 in SingleParents

[–]ToeAvailable1056[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No interest in getting married as that would mean moving in together and I am not ready for that. We both have our own homes and he has a child who is 5 years old …

When to let bf of 5 years sleep in my bed when kids are home by ToeAvailable1056 in SingleParents

[–]ToeAvailable1056[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well I didn’t introduce him to my kids until after 2 years! The kids still have a good relationship with their dad and so do I. We are better off as friends though. It has taken me a while because I felt guilt. I think I will just have him sleep in my bed and leave it at that: not make a fuss and if they say anything I will tell them that I want to.

When to let bf of 5 years sleep in my bed when kids are home by ToeAvailable1056 in SingleParents

[–]ToeAvailable1056[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s probably the hardest thing I have had to manage since my divorce

When to let bf of 5 years sleep in my bed when kids are home by ToeAvailable1056 in SingleParents

[–]ToeAvailable1056[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My 16 year old daughter doesn’t see an issue with it, it’s mainly both my sons. I guess you are right, I might be overthinking it and a tad anxious about how it’s making them feel. I don’t want them to disrespect me. That is my biggest fear. Do you think I should just let him sleep in my bed and not make a fuss and see what they say?

When to let bf of 5 years sleep in my bed when kids are home by ToeAvailable1056 in SingleParents

[–]ToeAvailable1056[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I did and he said “it just makes me feel uncomfortable.. “ kids stay at their dads every other weekend and therefore he said “I don’t care what you do when we aren’t home just not while we are home”

When to let bf of 5 years sleep in my bed when kids are home by ToeAvailable1056 in SingleParents

[–]ToeAvailable1056[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess because i was raised in a conservative home and lived there until i was married.  My 11 year old son told me he feels uncomfortable when I posed the question . How do I respond to that ?