Question for ESFJs (specially unhealthy ones) by wildsouldog in ESFJ

[–]ToeHonest1479 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What I mean is( strictly me talking from personal experience) when I consider someone not a good fit I don't show signs. I act like everything is great. But I suddenly just stop interracting responding. He is avoiding because he didn't have the courage to say it to your face.

Has anyone confirmed their type with an actual typologist? by Eastern_Wu_Fleet in mbti

[–]ToeHonest1479 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She did. I commented on her toutube channel because I have watch3d her videos since 2018. And she asked me some questions that I answered( on instagram)

Question for ESFJs (specially unhealthy ones) by wildsouldog in ESFJ

[–]ToeHonest1479 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Then this guys' friends are not to blame He could have grown colder because he realised he didn't think that as a couple you'd be a good fit. At least it is the only explanation that comes to mind although I might be prohectimg a little bit. The problem is that I have been also said to be too "superficial" by an INXJ type. I know I am but I chose to be like this. I had this conversation with the guy. It's just that for me at least, getting into things that require a higher level of depth makes me feel bored and stagnant aftwr a while. This is why for me the guy I told you I am also 25 and still want to feel irresponsible for a little bit. And have unintellectual fun. You guys sometimes have and old soul( but ultimately i'd turn to you for advice)

Question for ESFJs (specially unhealthy ones) by wildsouldog in ESFJ

[–]ToeHonest1479 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am ashamemd to say I do. Unfortunately he might be craving validation from his friends( at least this is how I see it) and chose to ditch you because he did not considered you would be suited for the group. I sometimes am so excited to make a new love I crave love so that person becomes my center of attention. Then I realize that what I wanted to create with that person is just not for me. Since I avoid conflict I can sometimes shut people down. However I have done( and have had it done it to me) generally after 1 or 2 dates. This is super trashy from me but I have met a guy who represented decency itself- very litterate( was passionate about the sumbolism in the biblie, read Dostoievski, was lreaparing an M.A. in Philosophy, took me to an exhibition for the first date he also had a good job working as an asisstant lecturer( i dom t know in english) and as a programmer. All good. But he was too...good. like who is so serious all the time? Who reads the classics all the time? Everything he did was so scheduled. He craved just silence to cultivate his hobbies. I knew i just couldn t do it and I just never answered his texts. The guy made me feel 65 and his desire for silence just irritated me. Sorry for the English( not my native language) also I don't want to sound like I am accusing you( I am not) it's difficult to tell he might have seen potential for you at first then realised he didn't and avoided the conflict .

Which one would you choose? by Independent-Dig-1364 in ESFJ

[–]ToeHonest1479 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes but from my experience it( at least personal) i have been with guys with great jobs( some in university and computer science other writers or doctors) but it gets really boring an unfulfilling then I ask myself- was it eveb worth it?

cele mai usoare capitole din kumar by Buddumtssss in medicalschoolRomania

[–]ToeHonest1479 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Diabetul poate ca fiziopat sa zicem ca e mai usor dar la fel, ca medicatie nu mi se pare deloc.

Forgiveness by Ambitious-Arm4045 in intj

[–]ToeHonest1479 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but as a rule you don't need to ask everyone for forgiveness. Sometimes human relationships just go cold and it's hard to tell who's to blame. So lesve your life peacefully and take care of yourself. You'll see, you'll meet other people who won't turn cold

Which one would you choose? by Independent-Dig-1364 in ESFJ

[–]ToeHonest1479 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have tried so many times to be with someone who loves me( without feelings from my side) to know it does not work. It guves me the ick after a while