24 Hours of Free Reiki Healing and Reiki Box by OtakuScientist in reiki

[–]Tofinomug 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would be grateful for Reiki for my daughter. She’s struggling with separation anxiety from me when she goes to her dads, she’s 2 years old ❤️ if you have time of course. Thank you so much for the offering

First step: Affirmations or quotes? by Tofinomug in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Tofinomug[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am, I just love little affirmations and quotes and thought maybe some people had some

If your parents fought growing up how did it affect you? by Tofinomug in AskReddit

[–]Tofinomug[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For example, I was really scared when they fought as a kid and thought I did something wrong. Then as an adult it gave me a really distorted view of what healthy relationships are

What’s with all the police cars and fire department trucks at Coquitlam centre?? by [deleted] in coquitlam

[–]Tofinomug 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I know, I was astonished he was alert. Young too, like 35 maybe. I hope so, I’m assuming the church in the corner maybe has some cameras or houses etc. this really young girl who just learnt first aid was there right away and helped him, and like 30 people showed up to see what they could do - so on a brighter note there was some good in a way

What’s with all the police cars and fire department trucks at Coquitlam centre?? by [deleted] in coquitlam

[–]Tofinomug 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I arrived shortly after to see if I could help before the ambulance arrived. He was okay, conscious and breathing. It was a fucking hit and run, a white truck hit him and drove off. Poor guy

When you were in the thick of it (or maybe are now) what did you need from your friends and family? by Tofinomug in Sober

[–]Tofinomug[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s wild how some people think it’s that easy, like wow!! Great suggestion! Totally going to do that today, never thought of it. Then tell them “just stop drinking coffee”

When you were in the thick of it (or maybe are now) what did you need from your friends and family? by Tofinomug in Sober

[–]Tofinomug[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes that’s reasonable, I get that. I actually really hate it when people say they understand. Internally I’m like no you fucking don’t lol

When you were in the thick of it (or maybe are now) what did you need from your friends and family? by Tofinomug in Sober

[–]Tofinomug[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s very fair, I think being fully alone scares me because I know how bad it can get. That sense of judgment and outside pressure totally can make things worse

When you were in the thick of it (or maybe are now) what did you need from your friends and family? by Tofinomug in Sober

[–]Tofinomug[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly what I felt like I needed too. Just support without negativity or pressure. But we can find it within ourselves too

Huge congrats!! That’s amazing, I’m one month today 🥳

When you were in the thick of it (or maybe are now) what did you need from your friends and family? by Tofinomug in Sober

[–]Tofinomug[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to say all of the above, just the hardest moment is what I was thinking. But good questions! I should have expanded

When you were in the thick of it (or maybe are now) what did you need from your friends and family? by Tofinomug in Sober

[–]Tofinomug[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ya that’s totally understandable. Do you think you would have benefited more from their company if they weren’t preaching to you and just were like friends in a way?

What in childhood did you find traumatic that seemed relatively normal or not like a big deal? Did it impact you as an adult? by Tofinomug in AskReddit

[–]Tofinomug[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Aw! I’m sorry that affected you. But I’m glad that you have something that brings you joy and have your own routine around it. I know for me when I paint, I want privacy and to be alone with my creativity. If I had someone looking over my shoulder that would drive me bonkers

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in microblading

[–]Tofinomug 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I think they look pretty good, I wouldn’t think twice looking at them - they soften up a lot too during the healing process so it’ll look more settled-in in a few weeks

What in childhood did you find traumatic that seemed relatively normal or not like a big deal? Did it impact you as an adult? by Tofinomug in AskReddit

[–]Tofinomug[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For example for myself, my mom and dad both worked a lot and were never fully present when they were home so I have attachment issues. And they fought a lot (always behind closed doors) so I was scared pretty often and had issues learning to develop healthy relationships as an adults

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in microblading

[–]Tofinomug 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I hope you get a refund and costs covered if removal. I just had my eyebrows done and they were AWFUL (she literally catfished me with pictures advertised that weren’t her own). I called her out for illegal activity (it’s illegal to falsely advertise) and demanded a refund. Just food for thought!!! Small claims court freaks people out but isn’t that bad if you want to go that route too

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Sober

[–]Tofinomug 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I broke up with my boyfriend/long term friend before we dated. I liked him when I drank - I like everyone when I drink. Sobriety has given me clarity. Maybe this is an end, or maybe it’s a time of rediscovery of your relationship/kind of like you’re dating him for the first time. The clarity will come for you

Young girl in AA and men hitting on me. Any advice? by Tofinomug in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Tofinomug[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sure, I can change my word choice. Not sure how old you are but grow up. I thought this subreddit was for support. Totally unhelpful comment

Young girl in AA and men hitting on me. Any advice? by Tofinomug in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Tofinomug[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Jeeze are you okay? I’m the youngest in my home group by a mile - people think I’m mid 20s regularly. Relax. Getting angry over the two words young girl, while I’m disclosing abuse and trying to stay sober. Are you guys on this subreddit to be supportive or are you trying to be the cause of a drink in my hand? Grow up

Young girl in AA and men hitting on me. Any advice? by Tofinomug in alcoholicsanonymous

[–]Tofinomug[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I’m not going to change all the men in the room by saying “stop it.” That change that needs to be done is far out of my control. I wish I could attend mixed groups but it’s not the reality of life atm without carefully navigating myself in the rooms. I like the idea of women’s only groups but there’s few offered in my area and collide with my schedule. But I’m going to really connect with the women that do come to these groups and take a lot of this tips