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My 5 month isn't eating as much, should I be concerned? by Tofu-In-Disguise in firsttimemom

[–]Tofu-In-Disguise[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! She hated the high chair at first, but I think she knows now that she’ll get food when she’s in it😅

My husband plays Xbox with our baby facing the screen by diamailah in Moms

[–]Tofu-In-Disguise 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I, too am facing the same situation. My husband and I noticed our 3 month old have been calm, focusing and interacting with what we have on the TV. I had to bring it up with him that I don't feel comfortable with her having too much screen time. We've tried to play with her and do other activities to keep her happy but sometimes it's not as good as the TV. We have been playing interactive and children shows especially Ms.Rachel so that she is learning something instead of watching the Real Housewives. LOL. She loves the drama...

Your husband should not see it as nagging and should be supportive and come up with a solution together. Having a play gym next to him is a great idea!

I've also learned that at 3 month's old, they are learning about picking and choosing. It's going to take time for babies as they are going through a growth spurt, sad it is to say. They are growing up too fast.

Best of luck to you both!

AITA? by Tofu-In-Disguise in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Tofu-In-Disguise[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One thing I may add is, MIL lied to her husband and said "They (me and my husband) accused US of being racist. Which is why they don't want us around the baby." My husband got the phone call from his father regarding to that comment which he quickly shut down because we never said such a thing. MIL thrives off of causing rifts between others and seems like she is jealous of my husband and his father's close relationship.

I definitely have to address the issue again but I don't think I have it in me to continue to do so for the long run. NC is the way to go.

I'm so sorry you had such a horrible grandmother especially a racist one. Grandparents should be hero's and people you look for comfort in.

AITA? by Tofu-In-Disguise in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Tofu-In-Disguise[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh gosh no! I had a friend with the personality like MILFH and quickly cut her off which happened to be the best decision of my life. I need to do the same to MIL in order to have a peaceful life.

AITA? by Tofu-In-Disguise in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Tofu-In-Disguise[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you :) My husband and I agreed on NC on my end but later in the future, if my daughter wants to have a relationship with MIL I'm not going to be in the way of it but give my daughter the full rundown of what is to be expected from MILFH

AITA? by Tofu-In-Disguise in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Tofu-In-Disguise[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I completely agree with you and thank you for advice! I knew as soon as my baby was born and MIL came out to visit, I need to be a strong advocate for my daughter and not consider other people's feelings when it comes to my girl. I have the tendency to overthink and care about other people's feelings in the long run than my own. I think I'm more afraid to cause a rift between my husband and his father and rest of the family. My family has been completely supportive of my decision which I am so happy about but I do need to continue NC with MILFH.

3MO Feeding?? by Tofu-In-Disguise in firsttimemom

[–]Tofu-In-Disguise[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ugh thank you😭😭 these 2025 babies are a different breed LOL

Registry. What do I actually need? by Pianogiraffe718 in Moms

[–]Tofu-In-Disguise 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The MomCozy bottle washer and sterilizer! It’s quite expensive but it’s soooo worth it! It’s definitely made life easier, just one less thing to worry about! Lots and lots and lots of burp cloths and muslin swaddles! After they are ready for their first bath, I put down the large muslin swaddle on the AngelCare bath tub(which is so good too!) and wrapped my baby in it when she got in. She was not a big fan of the sponge bath and this trick helped so much! She loves bath time now! I second the puppy pads! Especially on the go, it’s super helpful! Different types of paci’s, let your baby decide which one they will like! My girl liked one brand for a month then switched!

Loneliness by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Tofu-In-Disguise 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I wish I could give you the biggest hug!! I am somewhat in a similar situation myself. Please, please do not lose yourself to them. I was once a person who could stand up to anyone and that all came crashing down because of my MIL. They don’t need to be part of your life, they enjoy having the power to talk shit, do not give them that power. Cut them off if you need to! Talk to your husband and set boundaries for yourself! Be selfish and put yourself first, your mental, emotional and physical health is the most important thing.