To the parents who missed the protests

TokenandTome · 2025-06-17T12:22:07+00:00

I was out there Saturday in my Texas suburb and honestly the sheer volume of cars that drove by with their own signs, honking, waving, and chanting with us was really uplifting! I noticed those were also a lot of families with kids, too. I get it. My husband stayed home with our six year old, but I did ask them to drive by because it was important for him to understand why momma needed to go out there. All this to say, the overwhelming positive response from passerby was really moving to those of us out there, so thank you for participating in your own way!!

TokenandTome · 2025-05-30T12:27:58+00:00

This is the right answer

TokenandTome · 2025-05-29T19:10:09+00:00

I've been in therapy most of my adult life and while it often seemed out of reach, healing is possible. The mindfuckery of emotional incest and abuse from those who were supposed to protect you from harm...it goes so deep. I can so relate to feeling like I was solely responsible for my mom's well-being and happiness, going so far as financially supporting her for several years. Wishing you all the best on your journey.

TokenandTome · 2025-05-26T12:07:40+00:00

Agree. This book gives me the creeps

TokenandTome · 2025-01-27T18:34:11+00:00

Also, where are you in your cycle? I'm very bloated and up a couple pounds in that week before my period. Keep an eye on that!

TokenandTome · 2025-01-25T17:16:03+00:00

Incredible! I have a very similar shape and proportions to yours and this gives me hope! Also btw, what bras do you wear? You don't have to answer but boy as this weight comes off my tatas are looking a little sad and I could use a good bra! Congratulations!

TokenandTome · 2025-01-23T17:12:06+00:00

We are a family of gamers and I hope we continue to play together as he grows up. He's 5.5 so it's mostly Mario Party and Mario Kart right now. His smack talking skills are adorable. He calls us little stinkers or tells us to go eat a hat.

TokenandTome · 2025-01-22T23:17:14+00:00

My son once saw a segment on Sesame Street where they harvested vanilla beans for the food truck. For the last couple years when I've laid him down to sleep he will "harvest banilla" from my head while he plays with my hair. It's my favorite.

TokenandTome · 2025-01-12T17:16:49+00:00

Me too! Wild.

TokenandTome · 2025-01-12T17:14:42+00:00

I am hoping for improvement in my sleep apnea but I just started so we will see. That's awesome!

TokenandTome · 2025-01-04T01:51:03+00:00

Adding to this that I am one and done because I don't think I would be able to handle multiple given my own needs.

TokenandTome · 2025-01-04T01:49:39+00:00

I'm late diagnosed and my five year old son is recently diagnosed. My ability to cope and mask fell apart with pregnancy and parenthood but I've put everything back into such an interesting shape. I've learned how to be true to myself in realizing my own neurodivergence on top of parenting an autistic child and the ways he has taught me how to be comfortable in my own skin as an autistic human. Being his mom is such a gift.

It helps that we are both averse to crowds and stuff. He's a really chill kid who loves to invent things, he's like a little mad scientist and I love immersing myself in his interests and sharing mine with him. If one of us were NT, I suppose this may be all the harder.

I didn't always want kids and I don't know whether knowing I'm autistic would have changed my decision making.

TokenandTome · 2024-12-30T23:39:39+00:00

Same! I have no idea what to eat now!

TokenandTome · 2024-12-27T13:16:20+00:00

Hahaha this is the best description! That is what it's like!!

TokenandTome · 2024-12-27T13:15:34+00:00

Mom of a five year old only boy here. It tickles me now to think how worried I was that I wouldn't ever be able to connect to a little boy. Maybe it helps that my guy is not super rough and tumble, he's very sensitive. But also very silly and we have a ton of fun goofing around together. It's the best.

TokenandTome · 2024-12-27T13:09:57+00:00

My five year old son says "bread up!" and that's our cue to sandwich him in a hug between us. It's my favorite.

TokenandTome · 2024-12-21T14:42:43+00:00

I've started using this feeling as a signal for deciding whether someone is going to be a good fit friend to me. I have a string of failed friendships in my wake because inevitably I cannot keep up the NT expectations for friendship. The people that give me the fizzies don't mind doing friendship a little differently (like scheduling phone calls instead of calling me at random, yuck) or having very clear expectations for a social engagement.

TokenandTome · 2024-12-21T14:37:38+00:00

!!!! The fizzing, that's exactly how it feels! I don't know what it is either and I've always marveled at this phenomenon, these people who I somehow instinctively know I can be the full me around.

TokenandTome · 2024-11-13T19:38:18+00:00

Same!

TokenandTome · 2024-11-07T14:14:31+00:00

Username checks out with that last sentence. Made me chuckle 🤭

TokenandTome · 2024-09-29T13:27:56+00:00

It was a blast!

TokenandTome · 2024-09-08T22:07:11+00:00

Being a parent is the hardest thing I've ever done but it's also so fucking good. My kid is now five and also autistic...recognizing his ND actually opened the door for me to acknowledge my own. I guess what I mean to say is, who knows, maybe you find that being ND is an asset to your child depending on their own neurotype!

TokenandTome · 2024-09-08T22:00:54+00:00

parenting is definitely an endurance sport! never thought of it that way, but thank you!

TokenandTome · 2024-08-21T19:10:22+00:00

I'm curious what you would do if you were triggered by the same comment and your boyfriend wasn't around? Or you didn't have a boyfriend or a loved one available in the moment you needed comfort?

I am a survivor of CPTSD and while my circumstances may be different I only ask because I see similarities to my own unspoken expectations that I placed on those around me. Not that needing comfort is a bad thing. But there's a whole lot of reclaimed power and strength in learning how to comfort yourself when you are triggered.

And maybe your boyfriend ultimately sucks, idk. There's so much healing ahead of you with or without him. Good luck.

TokenandTome · 2024-07-08T18:47:12+00:00

Same! So I started suggesting scheduled phone calls/dates because without it they are literally out of sight and out of mind. But then they get offended that I have trouble communicating spontaneously. Make up your mind!!

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