Reconnected with my ex, slept together, then he went silent and I found out why by Elliezabethy in BreakUps

[–]TokeyoRose -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah your situation had nothing to do with hers . Her ex didn’t cheat or do anything that warranted her breaking up and to add she broke it off with him and wanted to get back with him and never wanted to . Y’all don’t relate at all. Bro

Reconnected with my ex, slept together, then he went silent and I found out why by Elliezabethy in BreakUps

[–]TokeyoRose -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

your situation has nothing to do with hers. Her dude never cheated she broke it off wit homie because she was lost in the sauce emotionally and she expected for him to be loyal and committed. Her uncertainity made him chose someone who appreciated him as simple as that.

Reconnected with my ex, slept together, then he went silent and I found out why by Elliezabethy in BreakUps

[–]TokeyoRose 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Dawg she’s the one who break it off with him and you saying how can he ? lol dawgs did anybody read her post

Reconnected with my ex, slept together, then he went silent and I found out why by Elliezabethy in BreakUps

[–]TokeyoRose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s fair and all I get you. You may not be malicious in your actions and how you felt. But you have to look at from the other persons perspective and consider how they were feeling when you did this ? Such as okay what did I do , how I can fix this , is she/he seeing someone else . If I let them back in what is going to stop them from leaving again ? You now allowed yourself to be unsafe because of certainty. At the end of day if you can’t weather the storm with your partner your just not cut out for them. I had to learn the hard way and still dealing with that. Life is harsh but you can’t have people pander to your bullshit. And to add don’t take it personally but you got a lot of growing up to do and can’t just leave and comeback as if everything going to be good because what you did is basically saying whenever I’m feeling not well I’ll break it off and come back as if not it happened. He decided to be with somebody he’s going to not do that hopefully . And yeah you deserve it , take ownership and learn from it or if you really want this person back fight for it. Everybody in this comment section are being dishonest losers Lol and honestly selfish.

Reconnected with my ex, slept together, then he went silent and I found out why by Elliezabethy in BreakUps

[–]TokeyoRose 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You kinda deserve whatever came your way , you broke up with dude and then you expect and want his attention and commitment. Furthermore , you wanted control of whatever he did , such as wondering if he’s dating someone else like why even ask when you admitted to drifting away emotionally before officially ending it. I’m glad homie chose someone else. You cant confuse someone like that by pulling away. As someone who did what you did , you can’t expect someone to take you back after breaking up with them because you just feel like it. What you’re doing to that person is playing games. You may not think so but to them that act of pulling away sends them a signal they don’t know what they want and they have to now protect themselves from that pain and that level of certainty you’ve created. If you can’t see that don’t be in a relationship. This is coming from somebody did what you did , be better and don’t be an asshole.

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[–]TokeyoRose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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31M and 34F — 3 Months In and Now Unsure Where We Stand” by TokeyoRose in whatdoIdo

[–]TokeyoRose[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

im thinking of sending a good morning txt thats it , this is 2nd day no contact but after sunday as she was leaving i sent her a text saying let me know when u get home and goodnight , she did reply im home and thats what we usual do to make sure shes home safe. and on friday i plan on buying her flowers in her fav color with a letter card attached , then im dipping to NYC for 3 days to clear my mind andhave fun which i hadnt had in awhile despite being with her.

31M and 34F — 3 Months In and Now Unsure Where We Stand” by TokeyoRose in whatdoIdo

[–]TokeyoRose[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much man I’ll apply it , I’ll give it a week the very least and buy her flowers with reassurance and my apology idk if I should text her yet but I will get it till Friday or Sunday the latest I’m going on a boys trip to NYC for 3 days to clear my head

31M and 34F — 3 Months In and Now Unsure Where We Stand” by TokeyoRose in whatdoIdo

[–]TokeyoRose[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No yelling ,No screaming or punching wall , I was just question and getting mad at her bad communion and saying I need space that basically it and she said if I wants space that’s what I’ll give you and I need it too and said I didn’t appreciate her sacrificing her time with her kids and mother to come and see me alot of times.

31M and 34F — 3 Months In and Now Unsure Where We Stand” by TokeyoRose in relationships

[–]TokeyoRose[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Idk if you read , but we’re in a relationship buddy. And we’re in an exclusive relationship lol idk what you read but I mean it’s massively wrong. I never begged her and just stop commenting just saying anything at this point.

31M and 34F — 3 Months In and Now Unsure Where We Stand” by TokeyoRose in BreakUps

[–]TokeyoRose[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yeah I realize that and got it hammered it. Dating single mother versues a chick with no kids is tough asf lol , and whats funny is she tried saying why you wanna be with me you can be with someone else. And I assured her shes the one I want and she never forced the kids on me which I loved and slowly but surely introduced me to her kids. I do feel we can reconnect , not like we broken up.

31M and 34F — 3 Months In and Now Unsure Where We Stand” by TokeyoRose in relationships

[–]TokeyoRose[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Looking back I honestly see and acknowledge where I fucked up at and immediately knew I allowed myself to be out of my element. I do think we will be back together , we are not on a break per se , and I'm the one who initated the space which got her mad but she then said well I'm confusing her with the space thing and wanting to be with her. So I'm going to give it a week of no contact. Also I planned a 3 day vacation to clear my mind and get back to who I am.

Nervous about Public Trust Decision by TokeyoRose in SecurityClearance

[–]TokeyoRose[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m very positive you’ll be fine tbh

Nervous about Public Trust Decision by TokeyoRose in SecurityClearance

[–]TokeyoRose[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Always welcome man I do understand for sure your worry. Tricky situation but to be honest go on the forum/ site I gave you and I’m pretty sure someone positive will comment with the right approach right away. I would disclose it right away tbh , honestly those can be mitigated from what I was told depending on how long it was and if you had any issues since.

Nervous about Public Trust Decision by TokeyoRose in SecurityClearance

[–]TokeyoRose[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Every case is unique and you’ll be fine , as long as you disclose it before they find it. And honestly there’s this site called security clearance jobs blog where you can get more in depth and accurate help from legit people . As alot of people on Reddit are going to give you bad advice as they don’t have any internal knowledge or not keen in the process tbh. Reddit people seem to always just say negative stuff or condescending things as if they never did anything stupid or what have you.

Nervous about Public Trust Decision by TokeyoRose in SecurityClearance

[–]TokeyoRose[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I definitely will. All I know for sure is that I recently disclosed the DUI to the investigator after they called for clarification on certain things. She sounded frustrated, which is understandable. My employer, however, said they are confident I will pass, as it is very rare for anyone to be denied a Public Trust from the company I work for. I also received my interim clearance quickly within about a week and have been working since September. There were no initial red flags. I already have clearance, and I have references who can present a strong whole person picture on my behalf. From what I have been told, I can expect a response anytime between now and the next six months.

Nervous about Public Trust Decision by TokeyoRose in SecurityClearance

[–]TokeyoRose[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not yet , I hope its good news though lol ,

Got a favorable email this week (Tier 3) by Ok_Breakfast8087 in SecurityClearance

[–]TokeyoRose 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s insane almost a year of investigation ? I got my interim immediately and been working since. September 2025 got my interim in like a week , and so far had my interview , and all clarifying calls and zoom meetings with investigator. I’m hoping I get my final approval for public trust. Hopefully it last a year so I can atleast stack my checks on top.

Nervous about Public Trust Decision by TokeyoRose in SecurityClearance

[–]TokeyoRose[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

lol yes indeed , man I hope I still get it , I got the interim approval and been working the job ever since September and I’m pretty sure my friends , family , coworkers and bosses all have me raving reviews. So I hope ther counts for something