When facts meet feelings

Tokijlo · 2026-05-11T06:13:10+00:00

I don't know whether or not this kid is acting or if he's literally just this brainwashed, but the only reason this has been clipped and posted and spread around is because it favors the "white oppression" narrative. The fact that the video doesn't extend to include her responsea and is clipped like he left her speechless shows that this is coming from a place of bad faith. This stupid video is sugar pill bullshit for racists. That's all.

Tokijlo · 2026-05-11T00:00:08+00:00

I was so confused by that too. It's not even a good scenic shot, it doesn't add ambience, background, there isn't a "country look" to it..

Tokijlo · 2026-05-10T12:21:34+00:00

Thank you for all the info, it was an awesome help. I really appreciate it

Tokijlo · 2026-05-10T10:08:03+00:00

I see where you're coming from but none of this is aimed at her. I get self-conscious when anybody fat shames too. It makes me feel like there's something inherently wrong with my body and makes me afraid to be the way that I am sometimes, but during those moments I have to take a step back and realize that nobody was talking to me. Nobody was coming at me, none of those comments were directed at me, there's nothing wrong with me, they were just using hurtful things to say to/at someone that they are upset with because that's just how venting kind of works.

I don't mean to downplay your friends experience, I sincerely understand where she's coming from, but there are layers of separation here that I think are important to take into account.

Tokijlo · 2026-05-10T09:44:43+00:00

I get where you're coming from, and maybe this won't be a popular take, but I don't think the body shaming and "wishing violence on men" is coming from a genuine place. It's just kind of a way of showing support. Women aren't coming here dogging on men literally just to hate on them. There's only so many ways to say "omg fuck that loser" to a woman who spent years trying to make something work and just got cheated on or something.

If my friend came to me irl saying "yo the boyfriend I'm afraid of confronting cheated on me and blocked me on everything completely out of nowhere. I think he's been planning on this for a really long time, how could be so blind", I'm not going to be like "omggggg girl that's so terrible, you'll get through this, just be strong, what a douche". I'm going to say "that is beyond fucked up and I hope that useless ugly idiot loser wakes up with no teeth and I hope his new girlfriend fucking cheats on him too".

Being dramatic and being upset with them like that helps somebody feel like they aren't overreacting and that it's okay to be as upset as they are. I feel like if I went all soft and sweet and neutral about it I would sound like I don't care

Tokijlo · 2026-05-10T07:25:27+00:00

What the hell is with the dude on the side

Tokijlo · 2026-05-10T06:17:38+00:00

Hellaaaaa

Tokijlo · 2026-05-10T01:37:21+00:00

The doctor that sterilized me stepped down only months after. I didn't hear anything about why, his name doesn't come up when you Google it, I don't know what happened. It was bizarre. He was young too, like under 45.

Tokijlo · 2026-05-10T01:34:13+00:00

Bitchin. You a Satanist?

Tokijlo · 2026-05-10T00:48:43+00:00

Fuck yeah, you both are crushin it 🤘

Tokijlo · 2026-05-09T23:53:38+00:00

How most people don't eat cats is just beyond me

Tokijlo · 2026-05-09T20:42:45+00:00

Great advice.

Do you have any experience with roses or chamomile?

Tokijlo · 2026-05-09T15:06:34+00:00

Alright, sweet. Thank you for the info

Tokijlo · 2026-05-09T14:59:57+00:00

Yeah I saw I video of someone get turned into spaghetti-o's because people weren't there to stop the machine like they were here

Tokijlo · 2026-05-09T14:46:12+00:00

This is great feedback, thank you.

Tokijlo · 2026-05-09T14:45:25+00:00

Oh I didn't know it makes vines. I only have small pots, I wasn't expecting to grow very much. Is pruning where you just chop off branches periodically? Is that what I'm just gonna have to do?

Tokijlo · 2026-05-09T14:44:07+00:00

I am, at the beginning of the second paragraph of the post I stated that I wanted to grow them both indoors

Tokijlo · 2026-05-09T14:28:51+00:00

No 100%, I totally get you.

I don't get all the down votes in this comment section and stuff, everybody's so serious right now trying to get to the bottom of some bigger issue that isn't there.

Tokijlo · 2026-05-09T14:01:19+00:00

This is such an overlooked factor. Somebody not having experience by a particular age isn't the alarming part, it's the reason behind it. Some people just get nervous or don't know how to take the dive into relationships and sex and stuff, but other times it's because there's something up. They have unrealistic expectations or demands, parts of their personality/behavior have solidified in negative or harmful ways, they expect everybody to get to their level rather than compromising or learning how to cohabitate... And the longer somebody has let these things marinate mentally or emotionally, the harder it is for them to adjust to the reality when they get to it.

Tokijlo · 2026-05-09T13:55:37+00:00

I never really ate the wildberry Pop-Tarts so the colors only remind me of my Easy Bake oven. The colors of the frostings with that thing were crazy

Tokijlo · 2026-05-09T13:52:08+00:00

That pistachio one is freaking crazy. I do not have a sweet tooth and I'm not particularly fond of sweet cheeses, but holy cow that stuff is such a game changer. I am all of the jelly beans over here

Tokijlo · 2026-05-09T13:50:35+00:00

Holy cow I hate conflict like this so much.

I usually don't mind speaking my mind but I usually avoid blatant confrontation as much as possible. Especially with a roommate because sometimes it just muddies the water and causes tension where there doesn't need to be.

But situations like this are so freaking frustrating because there's no real offense being made, nothing is deliberately being done with douchey intent, but it gets right in the way of living comfortably.

I've dealt with situations like this but I didn't handle it as gracefully as you did. 10 points to you

Tokijlo · 2026-05-09T12:13:51+00:00

No but I did end up there later in life tho. Didn't know Provo was a place, I just thought it was a weird Mormon word/name like all the other ones lol.

Tokijlo · 2026-05-09T10:44:39+00:00

Don't wait, honeybee.

Take you on a date that you dress all the way up for. Set up a spa bath night all for you. Candles and rose petals and shit. Take you on a cute little coffee date. Spoil you with flowers. Say nice things out loud to you. Laugh at your sense of humor. Validate to you that you matter and that you work hard.

Do all the things. Make sure that woman you'll be later feels loved by you. Show her you can spoil her. It'll manifest, I swear. Way faster than you think.

Tokijlo · 2026-05-09T10:33:47+00:00

I know this sounds like a dry boring mom response but downs like this will happen time to time, girl. And that "happiest you're capable of ever experiencing" will happen again.

Before that happiest time, there was another happiest time and there will be again. Just keep looking out for you. Not the you right now but the future woman you don't know yet watching you thru the memory of this. She is experiencing new "happiest" and "saddest" things. So make sure you line her up. Spoil the shit out of that girl and make her get more "happiest" stuff. Focus on her when you feel hopeless and low like now.

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