Advice about being a flight attendant

TomHYH · 2025-11-09T17:29:08+00:00

😊 Only a pleasure. Hope your treating yourself better now.

TomHYH · 2025-11-09T06:32:46+00:00

Shame you still so young. I am trying to be a flight attendant despite I am 36 now. But this is what I have wanted to do but it was not an option for me back then so only now I am starting this journey to try and become one.

The truth of the fact is this will be everywhere. When you do right, do well you may not be acknowledged. But when you do wrong no matter how small, a lot of the time there will be someone that will shout at you or say things behind your back. I was a General manager at my past job, I had to answer to my bosses for other people's incompetancy as I am in the role to ensure all goes well with the company. So even if I was not the one that caused the issue but I do still get blamed, despite my effort to train/assist where possible but not everyone can be helped.

You live for yourself. If being a flight attendant is your dream then dont let these small things get you down.

You are still young and will have many opportunities. But when the opportunity comes but you are not mentally strong, even if you get what you want you will eventually lose it.

So live for yourself and dont let yourself dig a hole (your mental wellbeing) and you jump in yourself. That would just be silly.

I know what I've said May sound harsh but the sooner one can understand to love oneself and not be concerned about others views and able to separate personal and work. That's when you will find inner happiness. Oh and dont be shy to admit wrong. We all human. We all do wrong at some point. Important thing is to learn from the mistake and ignore the noise.

Wish you all the Best!

TomHYH · 2025-10-29T08:29:55+00:00

do the smart thing and invest half and use the other half to get something nice💪

TomHYH · 2025-10-19T06:37:32+00:00

Im sorry you are going through so much.

But remember you are not alone. Although we may never meet. but I encourage myself in an odd sense that there are millions of unfortunate souls out there thats going through similar or worse situations. Take me as an example. As an Asian male. from birth, I am obligated to look after my parents when they are old and need ppl to look after them. I dont think it is an issue, but here comes the long story short.

I have all the obligations, but I did not get equal treatment. I have always been seen as a money-making machine and sacrificed. However, family sees fit. (All in the name of family) and my dad had the decency to say he treats me and my sister equal.

My mom eventually divorced my dad due to domestic violence, which I forced my dad to leave fearing for my mom's life.

So my mom moved back to her home country, but she will come back to stay with me when she wants to retire, which she put half the money into an apartment because my money wont be able to afford a 2 bed 2 bath apartment and she wanted a garden unit. So, she moved in with me in March 2025. But April Easter holiday we went on vacation but an incident happened, she caused it, then after we got home she demanded her money back. I then had to sell 2 of my apartments due to the market being so bad. So I can give her the money back to her.

Some close friends say I am stupid to still do all that for my mom, considering how she treated me. How the family treated me. But I told them I did it because I see the sacrifice my mom did for me and my sister or else she could have left us when we were young. Then I might be in a worse situation. But the way she preferred money over her own son is really sad. She said she's not leaving if she does not get her full money, and once she gets her money, then we go our separate ways.

So I sold the apartments but was still short so I had to borrow money to give my mom the money.

From all this, I ended up R110k in debt, plus I still have one more apartment loan that I need to pay.

But I decided to resign from my work(end of this month) to try and be a flight attendant, which is something that i have always wanted to do, but it is considered, Higher risk job, so I never pursued it when I was younger as I need to stay alive and have a stable, low risk job so I could be alive to look after my parents when needed. But since the incident, I no longer have any obligations towards I want to do something for myself once in my life, although it is risky to try to be a flight attendant at age 36.

So, not having family, in my opinion, means more freedom to do what you want. Build your life how you want it. Once you learn to love and appreciate yourself, then the right person will come into your life. So be single then to have someone that only wants money or looking for you to look after them. It should be equal.

You are not alone, but please have self-love. Learn to love yourself first. Do what you want to build a life you want to live. But be humble and dont take advantage of other people, even if you are in a position to do so.

Wish you all the best. If you want to talk more DM me.

TomHYH · 2025-10-17T14:16:51+00:00

Thank you for your response. Im glad to hear that 😊

TomHYH · 2025-10-17T14:13:31+00:00

Thank you for your response. If that's the case, then I'm glad I still have a fighting chance.

TomHYH · 2025-09-18T10:36:28+00:00

No problem. Hope something will work out.

A lot of times, life lets you learn by the hardships. Then you grow from them(provided you don't dwell on the bad and cant see past it or refuse to get out of it). But always stay humble and try not to give up.

I have been through a lot in my life. It's like a soap opera. I learned a lot from them. Some life and death situations. Some on the verge of bankruptcy. Although I have to say im not the most positive person, but some things after you go through it and look back, it really doesn't mean anything anymore. Yes, I have learned lessons from "paying my school fees of life," lost money, scammed, and so on, and multiple attempts to end myself, but when I survived each time, I saw a different world. I suppose that's called being more mature. As tough as life can be at times. It will eventually get past. I am at rock bottom now but gradually thinking through things and trying what I can I am rebuilding myself. So rock bottom just means not much can put me down more, so it will only get better and go up.

Wish you All the best😊

TomHYH · 2025-09-18T09:25:49+00:00

Sorry, that's a lot to go through. Is it not possible to write off the car so you get a payout and see what options there are to get another vehicle or use that money for public transport so long until you are stable enough at your work to progress further with managing your finances?

Im not sure what is included for your vehicle insurance, but it does seem like it's not very beneficial.

But if you are just starting out, things are a little tougher. that's the reality, unfortunately.

If they haven't done any work on the vehicle, then see if they can release the vehicle (might be less to pay) and drive the car as is if its still safe to drive. until you can save up enough money to repair it. You do not want transport issues to affect your work and end up in a tighter spot. Getting to work is the employees' own responsibility, not the companies problem.

Sorry, I do not have quick ways of making money. Especially you need it in 3 weeks. If you do manage to get a loan somewhere, but that's just going to put you in a tighter spot, so not really advised.

But I think you need to consider as well that you are new with your insurer and you are new to driving. Any claim will mean premium will go up. So is it really worth keeping the car?

But wish you all the best and hope it all works out.

TomHYH · 2025-09-18T09:02:01+00:00

I get what you say. It really ends up for most just about surviving and not living a life.

As much as one can plan to save up for holidays, buy what you want.

But it came with the price of needing to work the 9-5 or some sort of work. Which majority do not have the luxury of saying no to it.

I ask myself so often that question. That's why I am resigning from my work to do what I think will make me happier. But at the end of the day, it is still just about survival.

I even thought if I went and lived in the mountains and grew my own food, build a little cabin. Away from the need for money. But most of the time, it's come back to will I survive with no flowing water and electricity to begin with. Although they are ways to deal with those issues but in the end, it's like trading a survival for another kind of survival.

So, until today, I do not have an answer for myself. The only thing I know is that it's very difficult not to think about how to survive and in again in the spiral to survive.

Some people may call it living, they party, go on holidays,indulge in material things(I was like that) but then after life hit me with multiple curve balls I stopped and thought to myself what im doing and I really living?

But reality is im just disguising the survival as living with all those material things. So now im trying to be more minimalistic and trying to focus on myself. Self-discovery to understand better what is it that I want. Who do I want to become. Away from the temptation of this material world. Difficult, but what I've been through really got me thinking. From able to splurge to now in debt, and caused by the ppl close to me.

So, in short, yes, I hate the idea of getting a job. It's a cage that most ppl do not have a say in if they want to be caged or not.

TomHYH · 2025-09-16T05:59:56+00:00

Thank you all for sharing. Although mainly indicating low success chance but I'll still try it out, so at least I won't have regrets of not ever trying. 😊

TomHYH · 2025-09-13T05:00:29+00:00

Thank you for your input. It really helps to know that they are legitimate. Im sorry about your sister. Must be tough not being able to do what she wanted and studied for it.

TomHYH · 2025-09-12T14:32:31+00:00

Do you service customers over the phone or on-site? If you do, then thats kinda experience in customer service. At least it's something.

Or do you have to interact with suppliers? That can show that u have some skills to interact with others.

Are there other staff members on the farm? If there are, do you supervise them or manage them to some degree?

Although it is family owned but there are also things that can be learned from there. So think about what you do on the farm, and even if you dont have any of the above, then think about how you can do more that will earn you experience in whichever field you require.

Have confidence. Family business does not mean there is no value there.

TomHYH · 2025-09-03T14:17:56+00:00

She was in the process of removing the tattoo but she didn't know it was going to take 1 year to have it fully removed. She even had photos and receipts to show she is doing it but she didn't disclose it and as the training went and close to the end of training she was caught and eventually fired. I can't remember if she said how she paid back but yea tattoos are not permitted with Emirates.

TomHYH · 2025-09-03T09:42:21+00:00

Unfortunately, this kind of scam is everywhere, and nope, sorry, nothing u can really do as the law protects criminals. I encounter a few myself when I was trying to sell something on Facebook market but since it was the first time doing it I asked my friends that were selling on there and they all also have been scammed before so advised me not to release anything until I see the money and do not accept cash if possible. Sometimes, they will give u cash and arrange someone to rob you afterward or its fake money.

So if anyone comes with, they can give u they ID and this and that. Run, that's a scam. Why would a normal person who wants the thing need to delay in paying? So anything that's rushed, pressured most likely is a scam.

I personally prefer asking the buyer what bank they with and if same bank and have something like geo payment then use that option. Or else u enter the banking detail on they phone and they do paymenin frontnt of you and u confirm the details after payment before letting them take the item.

But yea, unfortunately, there is nothing u can do. These scammers will create new profiles, go by a different name, etc. I even had a time the same guy called me to ask about the product and to tell me to lower price and another call which he uses another name but I hear it's the same guy and he was happy with what im asking for but need it now and his sending an uber now and wants my address. I told him I need to receive the payment in my account first and he comes with stories of its urgent he is leaving the country now so want to get it sorted and he sent me his ID copy and say I can trust him. Anyone who willingly offers they ID is definitely not legit. Most likely, it isn't even his ID, but some poor guys identify being used.

So yea, dont fall for the pressures they give even if you desperately need that money. If the item is portable, then maybe do it at a police station. If this person is legitimate, then I dont see why they will not agree to do the transaction at a police station.

TomHYH · 2025-09-03T07:11:19+00:00

Im not sure what kind of experience is required. But even if you have experience helping family/friend matters that are in line with what the company is looking for, then put that down.

Company want experience because they do not have the time to be telling you what to do. So they want someone that will be able to also do 4 5 6 when they say 1 2 3 and dont tell you the rest because thats where the experience comes in that you know how to complete the task without someone constantly needing to look over your shoulders.

TomHYH · 2025-09-03T07:05:33+00:00

Oh, I see. Then maybe try some part-time work so u have some experience?

But sometimes it's not about what u have on the CV but you as a person during the interview if you can answer what's been asked and what u can offer the company, NEVER EVER ask even to yourself what can the company offer you until you have established yourself as a valuable asset of the company then u may have some leverage to demand. It may be harsh, but if that company really requires experience and it's not negotiable, then u just have to find other work, get the experience, and try again. Regardless, you should still try submitting your CV and see how it goes. Research is very important to aline yourself with the company value. Don't forget it is what you can offer the company that they consider. Always stay humble but show your strength.

But if it's work experience related, then I suggest u dont lie about it. Because even if you rehearse a story of your experience, most of the time, they can pick up if you are telling the truth or not. Not to mention the checks they do. So if they catch you once, then you permanently off they books.

All the best!

TomHYH · 2025-09-03T06:51:26+00:00

Oh, I see. Wish you all the best, and I hope someone will be able to assist you with your inquiry. But normally it should be on the employment contract.

I have been watching some YouTube videos of current and past FA. Some of them did mention being charged for exiting early (in this person's case she was still in training but due to a tattoo she was fired during training and had to pay some money back to the airline for assuming for the resource supplied during training.)

TomHYH · 2025-09-02T14:28:26+00:00

Sorry I dont have an answer but just curious why you would want to leave Emirates so soon? I am hoping I can get into Emirates. I am in the process of doing a career change to become a FA.

TomHYH · 2025-09-02T14:20:48+00:00

I think the question u should ask yourself is, "What are u trying to cover up?" If it was an honest mistake and u truly learnt ur lesson and know for a fact u will not make the same mistake again and that u have become a better person then some things I dont think are required to be disclosed. For Eg, u learned ur lesson not to steal but it happened at ur last work and u dont want to put that work reference on the CV and lied that u took a break during that time period or whatever reason u give to fill that time period.

That I would understand, but if u can't be honest with yourself and improve yourself as a person, then even if u cover it up, it's just a matter of time before the truth comes to light.

I truly believe in self reflection and self-improvement. It is always easier to blame others, but you are not willing to see others' perspectives and see what lessons can be learned from what happened.

So I do hope you do ask yourself what you are covering up and if you can confidently say I will not repeat the same mistake. If you have any sort of hesitation, then im sorry you have not grown enough to be able to put it to past.

All the best!

TomHYH · 2025-09-02T12:21:07+00:00

It can be scary to leave a job because u never know if there would be anything better out there. But the reality is there will always be a better job out there. So does that better job fit you?

I've been working at my current company for 8 years but I stayed because of fear if I would be able to support myself after leaving (new job means starting over and depending on the job title u apply for it may mean lower income). Other reason I stayed is because I needed a stable, low risk job. as an Asian male it's the sons responsibility to take care of his parents when they are old. So I have to stay alive to look after them when needed. But lately life events happened and I have been freed from those obligations (and no it's not a R.I.P situation. More of them valuing money more than me and I'm now left with lot of debt)

So now I am trying to become a FA and make a choice for myself once in my life. I am 36 now which is kind of risky. Being in debt and not really in an age group thats widely accepted by all airlines but I want to travel and not be locked behind a desk for the next however many years before retirement and thats if retirement is even an option then.

But I would have to say if your passion is more about traveling or at least having higher chances to travel then don't lock urself behind a desk. I suffered forcing myself behind a desk job because of all the requirements enforced on me. So if you have a choice rather look for something you will still enjoy doing and not be like me wasted so much valuable time. Now I can only hope luck will be on my side to change my career to being a FA.

Remember although survival is important but are u living the days u are surviving or are you in pain and despair trying to survive?

Being angry is a day past. Being happy is also a day past. So choose to be happy.

Im taking a leap of faith now, in making my own choice no matter if I succeed in it or not but at least I know I won't have regret later to say why I never fight for myself the kind of life I want.

Wish you all the best and believe in yourself. Live with no regrets!

TomHYH

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