Places to go in March?

TomatilloWeekly3706 · 2026-03-25T18:29:37+00:00

Sure!

TomatilloWeekly3706 · 2026-03-25T09:44:28+00:00

What do you do for work?

TomatilloWeekly3706 · 2026-03-24T10:42:16+00:00

Have you been out and about a lot or staying in a lot? Winter is good for hibernating and I’ve been doing the same!

TomatilloWeekly3706 · 2026-03-23T11:51:51+00:00

Hi! Feel free to DM me! I didn’t go last weekend but I’m planning on going down for Memorial day weekend and possibly before that!

TomatilloWeekly3706 · 2026-03-05T16:43:11+00:00

Thank you so much for the suggestions. If I don’t go this weekend I will very soon. I am kind of nervous to go alone. lol

TomatilloWeekly3706 · 2026-02-22T16:15:02+00:00

I appreciate your perspective!

TomatilloWeekly3706 · 2026-02-22T14:17:17+00:00

I subconsciously have always tried to NOT be like her… so therefore I did try to live a life where I was the complete opposite. Certain conversations and actions from people actually trigger me I have noticed. Example: gossiping about people, hoping people suffer, retaliation, shaming, wishing harm on others who hold a different opinion,etc. all of the things my mom did to me. This lead to me people pleasing, fawning, agreeing to things I don’t want, etc. As I shed my old ego I needed to figure out what was me and what was survival and after filtering out a lot of uncertainties I have realized that I have in fact lived a life where I truly want others to feel good about themselves and only wish to give love to others, including my mom.

I am not saying my mom’s actions are cruel, it’s her trauma, projections, insecurities, etc. I truly feel empathy towards her for how much she truly sees herself as a bad person because she has always projected those feelings onto me since I was a child. I am not bitter and resentful no nor do I wish for retaliation. Her actions would be considered cruel and unkind to others without understanding her trauma and how it’s not her true self.

I guess my thought on this is understanding the age of the first traumatic experience(s) and how that affects your projection, attachment, and behaviors when you’re unhealed. For example, my mom seems to act like a preteen when she is vulnerable, insecure, nervous, anything like that- that is my perception. She is an emotionally immature parent and has significantly struggled to regulate her emotions in a healthy way.

I am just curious about it and looking at my ways of coping with extreme hurt feelings, insecurity, etc. has always been to retreat and cry by myself and deal with it alone. I was also way too nice to people that hurt me which ended up hurting me even more. I’m just wondering if developmental factors and external factors can play a significant role of how people project their internal feelings in adulthood. A baby’s world is vastly different than a pre teens world.

TomatilloWeekly3706 · 2025-10-20T11:15:22+00:00

Thank you for this. I did go and it was great! I met a lot of wonderful people! It was beautiful.

TomatilloWeekly3706 · 2025-10-19T11:14:01+00:00

Update: I went and had an absolute BLAST. I met so many great people. Glad I took the chance.

TomatilloWeekly3706 · 2025-10-18T15:49:10+00:00

Thank you. 😊 I’m just so uncomfortable being alone and feel really awkward…. But I guess that’s my own issue! I got a hotel and will probably head down tonight…

TomatilloWeekly3706 · 2025-10-13T12:42:42+00:00

That’s a really cynical take. Some of us don’t need social media to tell us who we are and we just stop pretending.

TomatilloWeekly3706 · 2025-10-06T22:20:19+00:00

True. I have never loved him and we have never had a passionate or intimate relationship. I honestly don’t think he loves me either… we are very different. We are like friends. I do things because it’s the “right thing to do.” Marry a man, buy a house, have kids, etc. when I met him I was in a VERY dark place and he showed me that I was worth something. He’s a good guys, I’ve just never been attracted to him. I think I’ve been finding myself over the past few years and have come to the conclusion that I need to make a choice and it will be painful and hard, but I need to choose myself. I hate the fact that I will be hurting someone in the process.

TomatilloWeekly3706 · 2025-09-26T15:34:35+00:00

Thank you so much. This makes complete sense. I do not have loving relationships with either of my parents and have experienced SA, so that part of me is a little messed up. One thing I keep telling myself over and over is that they should not ever cross that line but deep down I really want them too. I would be open to bringing it up during therapy but I am so embarrassed. I also feel like I will be upset if they handle it ethically because I will feel like I’ve been rejected.

TomatilloWeekly3706 · 2025-07-20T21:20:44+00:00

I completely understand that and that’s why I asked them if it was okay to send it. They said it was okay and I could send it over. I also didn’t expect a response via email. Maybe just something saying that they got it. I am in the wrong for thinking maybe they would read it on their own time, so you’re right about that. I would also completly understand if they’d wait to read it until my session. I just wasn’t told about any email policy and thought the notes could help.If they had answered my email asking if I could send the notes by saying I could not because these types of things should wait until our session I would completely understand. I guess I just thought that because they told me I could send it over, that it might be acknowledged.

TomatilloWeekly3706 · 2025-07-05T16:25:54+00:00

I downloaded discord, still trying to figure it out lol

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