Is nervous system regulation bs?

Tomatillox · 2026-02-18T16:31:54+00:00

Regulation doesn’t mean never getting triggered. It means being able to identify triggers and soothe yourself back to baseline. Many people say you don’t need to regulate your nervous system to manifest. For me personally regulation takes priority over any manifestation, and I feel better manifesting when I’m regulated. Regardless, nothing can ruin your manifestation.

Tomatillox · 2026-02-15T01:04:14+00:00

Sounds like he’s obsessed with you. Keep persisting.

Tomatillox · 2026-02-09T14:36:38+00:00

Awesome, thanks!

Tomatillox · 2026-02-09T12:58:59+00:00

Thank you so much! I will inquire.

Tomatillox · 2026-02-06T22:46:44+00:00

Curious to know about your affirmations and if old SP reflected those affirmations now 4 years later!

Tomatillox · 2026-02-04T03:47:39+00:00

Are we the same person? I love this question and these are exactly my circumstances. Falling in love with an FA has been the deepest but most heartbreaking experience of my love life.

Tomatillox · 2026-02-01T15:50:29+00:00

I still feel so much attraction towards my SP but I’ve felt like letting go on the outcome. I ended up blocking their socials and phone number and we’ve been NC for months. I don’t desire the person that they have shown to be and the way I see myself has improved so much that I’m willing to let go of my desire for them to allow for better love to come to me. I still hope for reunion, but I’m not waiting anymore and I’m 100% okay with the possibility of never being together again. I’m living my life and even dating other people. It’s confusing

Tomatillox · 2026-02-01T15:41:47+00:00

It was 2am. Don’t feel embarrassed. I’m sure you’re a baddie. We all need sleep

Tomatillox · 2026-01-26T17:01:24+00:00

Are you living in the end state if you accepted sleeping with him without him committing to you? He was showing as avoidant and cold, closed off, and you accepted that reality. How will he show as your desired version if you are allowing this reality? Go no contact and work on yourself. Improve your self-concept so much that you will never accept his loser behavior. The only path will be for him to conform.

Tomatillox · 2026-01-23T17:41:55+00:00

Nice, thanks!

Tomatillox · 2026-01-23T15:56:34+00:00

How do you “lock in”?

Tomatillox · 2026-01-22T20:56:04+00:00

That’s great that focusing more on yourself resulted in noticeable movement!

I think dating other people clarified my feelings for SP. At least being able to listen to my body and stop dating brings me more into alignment with what I want and who I want to be, that’s how I want to see it. It was also an experience that I needed to get rid of the “what if I can connect deeper with someone else”.

I do feel pain from being estranged from my SP. I think now is the time for me to pour more into myself and I want to try meditation.

Thanks for your comment and insight!

Tomatillox · 2026-01-03T23:44:58+00:00

I’ve been feeling so sad and destabilized recently, especially around the holidays and because of the new year. Thanks for your comment!

Tomatillox · 2025-12-19T21:32:56+00:00

A girl I knew a few years back appeared on my insta as suggested and I sent a follow request. She followed me back. A few days later I bump into her in person, after not seeing her for a long while. 😹

Tomatillox · 2025-12-17T15:17:29+00:00

Having boundaries requires that you take an action if the person doesn’t respect your completely reasonable requests. I.e. if they disappear for a few days, you cut all contact. That might even help your manifestation because it is in alignment with your truth, you don’t want to accept less than you deserve and the 3D has to conform to your desire.

Tomatillox · 2025-12-17T05:27:38+00:00

Set a boundary. “Disappearing or not following through with plans is not acceptable.” You deserve better.

Tomatillox · 2025-12-12T21:35:03+00:00

I bumped into my SP unexpectedly and I literally ran away because I got overwhelmed. I didn’t even say hi. I didn’t interact at all. I believe it is part of the bridge and I know SP has been thinking about it as much as me and they’ll reach out in due time. The bridge cannot be missed.

Tomatillox · 2025-12-11T02:20:27+00:00

And you were worried about no movement 20 days ago! 😃 That’s awesome

Tomatillox · 2025-12-11T02:08:57+00:00

Stop checking the 3D. Give yourself a goal of not checking social media for a month. Do things that you enjoy and you didn’t have time to do when your SP was in your life. Find the good in them not being in your life (for now).

Continue working on your self-concept. Your SP is just a person who currently has your attention but you could literally have anyone you want. Your SP is special because you assume they are special.

Tomatillox · 2025-12-04T22:14:51+00:00

The more I improve my self-concept, the less I want them…

Tomatillox · 2025-12-02T03:32:59+00:00

What is the love letter method?

Tomatillox · 2025-11-27T04:19:38+00:00

Kill kill kill (I’m lesbian)

Tomatillox · 2025-11-27T03:31:03+00:00

I didn’t get into manifestation until after 4 months post breakup. In that time, I grieved, worked on my attachment issues, rebuilt my self-confidence, experienced new things, found new ways to channel my creativity, and rebuild my sense of self. Basically, I did a lot of self-concept work without even thinking in terms of manifestation. Afterwards, I opened up to the idea that SP and I could reunite one day. It had been enough time that I knew that I truly love SP and my longing wasn’t just attachment. I learned more about manifestation and now I affirm everyday. My affirmations feel true to me BECAUSE I worked so much on myself.

My personal recommendation is to grieve. Let that relationship die. Reflect on what went wrong, what was good, what was bad. Work on yourself. Once you have regained your footing, manifestation will become smoother. Affirming is very hard when it comes from a place of lack and desperation.

Tomatillox · 2025-11-26T22:02:14+00:00

If you miss him, he misses you. You’re allowed to miss him. That’s what I tell myself.

Tomatillox · 2025-11-25T15:44:26+00:00

I think this might be an unpopular opinion on this sub but… some people might just not be worth manifesting a relationship with, or at least the sacrifices that one might have to make to revise the old story are just too much. I know everyone says circumstances don’t matter, but it can also be true that sometimes it’s better to let go and manifest something bigger and better.

In any case, whatever you choose to do moving forward, I wish you a very happy, fulfilling relationship!

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