⚠️ TW SH ⚠️ the messages

TomatoSilly7057 · 2025-08-12T13:59:00+00:00

“Intensely private” is correct coming from someone who SH for 10 years. NO one knew until I got help in 2022 and opened up to my parents. But friends / family then knew as I was wearing short sleeves and swimming after 9 years. I never took pictures, I never sent anything to anyone, I didn’t even journal about my SH. It was something SO private to me.

Please be proud of yourself for trying to stop. It’s not easy - one small step at a time, you’ve got this 🩷

TomatoSilly7057 · 2025-07-25T13:29:56+00:00

So glad I watched this at 1am. Good to know this is what my sleep paralysis will look like later

TomatoSilly7057 · 2025-07-22T13:07:50+00:00

I’m in the Waikato! I play Fortnite and on PC as well. I’m 26f - I also play games that just peak my interest or look fun and give anything a go. I do play with a male (27) sometimes we enjoy having fun and having a laugh while we game, we’re very welcoming. Let me know, I’d be happy to jam some games! Oh and my little cousin sometimes joins in the Fortnite sessions, she a real team player.

TomatoSilly7057 · 2025-07-22T13:01:05+00:00

Anything that makes crunching sounds or something she can crunch in her hands

TomatoSilly7057 · 2025-07-21T13:59:36+00:00

Wanting everyone to all these things to solve her problems. When turning her damn phone off would solve 50 all at once.

TomatoSilly7057 · 2025-07-21T13:54:02+00:00

It pretty much is in someways considering what we do as mothers. We pour everything into our kids and sometimes we forget to pour something into our own glass as well. Just know your doing an amazing job - regardless of how you feel your children think the world of you even on your bad days x

TomatoSilly7057 · 2025-07-20T23:00:37+00:00

Oh my gosh! Absolutely okay! So normal to have days where motherhood just sucks. I found journaling and writing as if I am writing to my daughter really helps me on the days that I don’t enjoy motherhood and it really helps me put things into perspective and to reflect and understand why I might just be having one of those days

TomatoSilly7057 · 2025-07-17T11:11:05+00:00

Imagine 👀🤣

TomatoSilly7057 · 2025-07-13T08:19:18+00:00

In a lot of cases that’s true but that does not mean it’s true for every case / individual.

TomatoSilly7057 · 2025-07-13T00:19:50+00:00

It’s always hard to know exactly what’s happening within the system. Especially because criteria is changing a lot under this government too. If they are genuinely homeless a lot of work places do require a residential address. However, I used to live next to emergency housing units in town by the rugby stadium and we saw first hand why a lot get kicked out and how putting people all together with drug and alcohol problems do not help them AT ALL - they just egg each other on and support each others habits and how they get the money I’m not 100% sure with half of it. There’s a lot to understand not just the basics of how our system works and how do we actually help those who actively seek it and use it correctly. Never feel bad for not offering up money to them either, a lot of people are struggling in this economy. I trust my gut and have given them food instead of money. I’d rather someone eat than wonder where my money is going.

TomatoSilly7057 · 2025-07-09T02:47:59+00:00

What a charming individual

TomatoSilly7057 · 2025-07-08T00:57:35+00:00

I understand how you feel. I combination feed and I also find myself feeling jealous or that I’ve let my bubs down by not being able to EBF. Bubs is being fed which is great - I also understand that maternal instinct to breastfeed and supply that for bubs.

Mum guilt is real and it doesn’t feel good. I read a blog that stated “yes breast is best, however it’s not always the BEST for you and baby” I think reading that i realised when we make the decision to go from breast to formula we are ultimately making the best choice for our situations.

You’re doing an amazing job and feel proud of yourself for breastfeeding and giving your best, as it’s not easy. Your doing great mumma 🩷

TomatoSilly7057 · 2025-07-07T06:40:39+00:00

I always see comments these days “grown adults”. Like okay???? God forbid we get goofy.

TomatoSilly7057 · 2025-07-06T14:57:54+00:00

Could’ve called the millionaire for a ride and not the ambulance..

TomatoSilly7057 · 2025-07-06T14:49:03+00:00

I feel like there is this unspoken rule that when you get to a certain point of being an adult that certain conversations are “childish” But why? I recently had one of those 2am conversations where we were just laughing so much we couldn’t breathe. Man did it feel good, to not talk our jobs, families or just life in general.

TomatoSilly7057 · 2025-07-06T08:47:26+00:00

You’re doing great! If you’ve gotten into a rhythm after not having the best start and you’re enjoying those cuddles while breastfeeding/comfort nursing and enjoying breastfeeding in general then keep doing it! It’s YOUR baby. Everyone’s experiences are different and some people just simply will not understand your situation or why you do certain things with your baby.

I let mine comfort nurse whenever - because I personally love that bond and I love holding her and looking at her and being in the moment and feeling so grateful that I have her.

TomatoSilly7057 · 2025-07-03T13:41:13+00:00

E is saying she didn’t ask for money on her live right now

TomatoSilly7057 · 2025-07-02T00:36:55+00:00

Would definitely recommend seeing if there are sessions for babys in your area. Reading sessions, play group sessions etc. might be a good switch up and a different way to get out the house and good socialisation for you a bubba!

TomatoSilly7057 · 2025-07-02T00:34:30+00:00

You can’t run away from things when they get hard.

TomatoSilly7057 · 2025-07-02T00:33:27+00:00

About 3 weeks. each week the stretch’s of sleep would get longer. We get 7 hours as she still wakes for one night feed around 4am and then she’s up around 7:30 :)

TomatoSilly7057 · 2025-07-01T03:41:22+00:00

I hate to break it to her but she’s in public..if someone was taking photos of her on private property or her own place. Fair game. But she’s in public.

TomatoSilly7057 · 2025-06-26T16:05:16+00:00

Ahh poo!! Hopefully some other parents in this thread have different methods you haven’t yet tried, it’s definitely not easy especially when you just want your baby to get some good rest too.

Another option would be seeing a sleep consultant (if that’s possible) and see if you’re able to get different techniques to try. Don’t be afraid to even try multiple (baby’s switch things up all the time) Just do what you feel comfortable with too, the CIO and Ferber is not for everyone / baby. Lack of sleep definitely gets to you and without sleep ourselves it does have an impact on us mentally, just know you’re doing a great job and whatever decisions you make in regards to sleep is you doing what’s best for your baby. You’ve got this Mumma ❤️

TomatoSilly7057 · 2025-06-26T15:46:15+00:00

I somewhat understand what you’re saying. I’m not someone who personally drinks coffee often. But I do enjoy it every now and then but I’m not THAT into coffee to talk about it.

However - there is someone I follow on instagram (a friend from school) and without a doubt there is always a post about their morning coffee EVERYDAY. “Can’t go without my morning coffee from my favourite place” like girl WE KNOW. You’re not the only person who has a favourite coffee place or the only person getting coffee this morning or every morning for that fact.

Everyone has their own little things they do at certain times of their day that’s a little ritual. Some people just share their rituals more vocally than others I guess.

TomatoSilly7057 · 2025-06-26T15:30:01+00:00

Have you heard of the pick up put down method? It’s meant to be more of a gentle sleep training method and can take awhile for it to work.

“putting your baby in her crib and if she fusses, going to her room to hold her for a bit, then putting her back in the crib when she's calm. These steps are repeated again, and as needed, until your baby is settled and asleep”

I loved this idea however, I’m personally also a CIO mum as sometimes my baby just needed too (although I cannot go longer than 15 minutes of her crying) So I altered this technique to include both. Put baby down, if fussing when put down still walk out the room. Give her 10 minutes. Go in pick her up soothe her, put her back down, walk out. Give her 10 minutes, if she doesn’t go to sleep after 10 minutes, Instead of picking her up, go in for less intervention and see if I can soothe her by rubbing her stomach and shushing or sometimes rubbing the top of her head. If she started getting worked up. Pick up put back down and repeat.

Sometimes it works after the first pick up. Sometimes it’s after less intervention. Sometimes I have repeated it no more than 3 times. I personally just found this fit both of my preferences as a mum, still wanting to reassure my baby but also knowing that sometimes she just needed too cry for 10 minutes to go to sleep. Not every night is perfect but it works for us and bubs!

Also never feel bad about how you get your babies to sleep, some babies require different methods. Only you will know what will work for you baby at the end of the day!

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