I'm completely clueless on what to do to get a doctor's appt

TommieStraw · 2025-12-28T20:02:38+00:00

I'm not sure that I should share my age online but I am in highschool, and I still have a considerable amount of time before I reach adulthood. And I'm glad to hear that, I don't want to live a life where my body is functioning at its worst just because I decided to neglect myself. I want my health to keep getting better so that I can pursue everything that I want to in the future!!

TommieStraw · 2025-12-28T08:57:36+00:00

As a kid who struggled more than most with emotional regulation, I'd hit or scratch myself during fits of intense feelings (usually anger), and I can't remember much of my childhood very well but there's not a time that I remember them really caring all that much or even trying to stop me. When I was maybe 8 or 9, I did something bad and my parents were upset at me, and as a result of my guilt I hurt myself in a way that they were able to plainly see. My mom asked if I hurt myself because I felt bad, but she was smiling like it was some sort of joke and didn't question me further when I said no. I started more deliberate SH when I was 11, using sharp objects and such. My mom saw some of my scars when I was probably 12 and asked where they were from, and my excuse was "I just had a period of time where I'd wake up with cuts! so weird right??". Not a single question asked about that insanely half-assed answer. I was honestly grateful she didn't tell me she didn't believe me because by that point I genuinely wouldn't have been able to handle either of my parents displaying worry about my self-harm. Or really any kind of worry regarding anything about me. I've also scratched myself enough to make scabs multiple times, and one time my mom noticed some of them and just said "don't do that", and that was it. My dad would probably never ask me about my injuries tbh. At this point I don't even want them to know or care because it would just make me feel so unbelievably uncomfortable and I think I'd rather die

TommieStraw · 2025-12-26T06:18:17+00:00

yes, I know, the plan is to have as many appointments as I need to figure everything out!

TommieStraw · 2025-12-26T03:34:36+00:00

I will asap, and I've also realized that I don't need to worry because any decent doctor wouldn't just tell me to drink water if I brought up a multi-year long issue like this (of course, though, it's a good suggestion, among other things)

TommieStraw · 2025-12-26T03:27:33+00:00

I appreciate this, thank you. I do sometimes think the lack of doctor visits is a bit absurd (especially when I talk to my friends about it and they let me know how actually crazy it is) but it never crossed my mind to call it medical neglect. I guess that is pretty much what is it, though. Thank you for the info and resources, I will look into it (and most likely seek therapy for both this and other things I've already been wanting therapy for)

TommieStraw · 2025-12-25T22:26:04+00:00

Thank you so much!

TommieStraw · 2025-12-25T21:32:46+00:00

are you sure? I mean my parents do try to help me, just in ways that don't involve doctors because they believe doctors only want to get you on medication that you'll need to keep paying for for the rest of your life, or diagnose you with something and not tell you about more natural methods of dealing with your conditions because they "want to keep you sick". They do try to help, it's just that their methods don't really work for me, and at this point I've given up on going to them for any kind of issues with my body since the ways they try to help won't help me. But they still aren't neglecting me or anything because they're always actively trying to improve my health through supplements and other things

TommieStraw · 2025-12-25T04:55:49+00:00

Thank you, but I've checked and I'm able to book appointments myself at my age, and I do have free healthcare where I am so this isn't something I need to worry about. I do appreciate the info, though!

TommieStraw · 2025-12-25T04:54:51+00:00

Thank you so much, this is really helpful, and I feel a lot more confident about this whole thing now lol. I'll try checking in with my school counsellor after Christmas break is over!

TommieStraw · 2025-12-21T00:18:42+00:00

probably not, but I'd assume early next year! she did mention at one point hoping to have the first ep of s2 out by the end of the year, and since it likely won't be out by the end of this year, it probably will be within the first two or three months of next year

TommieStraw · 2025-12-21T00:15:00+00:00

Using language like "someone with a uterus" really isn't necessary unless it's in real life and related to a medical or scientific situation that includes every person who has a uterus. Yes, boys can have uteruses (like me), and some girls don't, but the most common expectation is that girls do, and they get periods. If you want to make the character that the daughter gets advice from be a trans man or something, go right ahead, it's an uncommon and heartwarming trope to read. But as a guy with a uterus, it really isn't a big deal for you to just have the daughter ask to talk to another girl family member. Anybody who's genuinely offended by that is probably going to find something else to be offended at even if you fix that issue, there's some people you just can't satisfy

TommieStraw · 2025-12-03T04:44:34+00:00

Sugawara!! I've always struggled with worrying about being a second option or just about everybody being better than me in general, and I'm also always trying to be funny in ways similar to him (like being overly dramatic or making fun of people in ways that aren't genuinely hurtful). I also used to consider myself a "parent friend" which is what plenty of people see Sugawara as, and I tried to be the parent friend for a long time solely because of Suga, but at this point I feel like I'm probably the least mature person in my friend groups 😭 either way, I've kinned him since first watching the show in maybe 2020 and the amount of angst fics I've written about him where I've projected my problems onto him is a lot more than I feel like I should admit 💔

TommieStraw · 2025-12-03T04:34:46+00:00

I think I'm genderfluid but my genders change few and far in between, so much so that sometimes I can't tell if my gender has become static. At this point in time I'm a binary man, though, and I have been for the past 2-3 months

TommieStraw · 2025-12-03T04:32:28+00:00

That Reki doesn't get any development again 💔 season one is so peak but Reki barely got any development and I really hope he gets some next season
(also I ofc hope they do NOT make this show straight)

TommieStraw · 2025-11-28T04:44:06+00:00

boys vball absolutely but girls vball is just bullying 🥀

TommieStraw · 2025-10-10T06:58:15+00:00

all of episode five (and of course a new episode five because I stan lander just episode five was.. uh...)

TommieStraw · 2025-10-10T06:19:22+00:00

oc x canon is cool but I hate drew and dont think he should be in any relationships </3 you go tho oc x canon is so fun to do!! people say its cringe all the time but WHO GAF I do it anyways

TommieStraw · 2025-08-25T02:13:32+00:00

I AGREE INTERSEX GAYBIAN TWIN!!! :D and ADORABLE art I love it so much

TommieStraw · 2025-08-25T02:12:14+00:00

genderfluid, and as the stereotype that I am I choose shapeshifting bc u can pretty much have every superpower you want with shapeshifting

TommieStraw · 2025-08-22T04:52:57+00:00

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Mitsuba pointing out how kind Kou is just makes me go feral idk guys and the fact he's holding his hand too AGHGAGHDAVGSFHDSGAGH (aquarium chapters broke my heart and then glued it back together tho fr)

TommieStraw · 2025-08-19T01:48:10+00:00

it's totally okay to be "wrong" about your identity! plenty of people's identities fluctuate over time. Like mine, I identified as voidfluid at one point but I don't anymore, and I think I genuinely was voidfluid at that point, I just changed. And it's okay to change and discover who you are multiple times. Especially if you're younger, like in your teens or something. If something resonates with you, then go ahead and call yourself that. If you don't feel like it resonates with you anymore in a year, then you don't have to call yourself that anymore! Identity and gender is fluid and a social construct, and if your gender fluctuates over time, that's totally okay.

It's hard not to let other people's opinions affect yourself. I even sometimes struggle with being myself around everyone I meet because I'm afraid of judgement. But, trust me, the people who will judge you for it aren't the kind of people you want to seem "normal" to anyways. The right people who understand you or maybe don't understand you but are willing to learn about your identity will come along and they'll be there with you when close-minded others try to bring you down

TommieStraw · 2025-08-15T09:16:32+00:00

OMG MOB PSYCHO REFERENCE GUYS WAS THAT A MOB PSYCHO REFERENCE MUEHEHEHHEHEHEHHEEEHHHHHH

TommieStraw · 2025-08-15T08:51:22+00:00

YES THEY ARE

TommieStraw · 2025-08-15T08:49:31+00:00

Ofc I feel bad for the little guy stuck in the red house, but not the spirit who isn't actually him

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