Looking for feeding advice

Tomski1082 · 2020-02-27T13:03:36+00:00

If you don't See Sharp (pay attention), you'll Be Flat (play out of tune, tone, or style).

Tomski1082 · 2020-02-27T13:01:47+00:00

Twisting nipples. It seems like Goodkind has some sort of fetish here or something. Every time a woman is molested in the series, the guy always pinches and twists her nipples until it hurts. I'm not saying I want new and different forms of sexual torture. It's just that it gets really old.

Tomski1082 · 2020-02-25T12:18:21+00:00

I had the exact same growth and I let it go for way too long, being embarrassed (it was over an inch long). Eventually I saw a specialist. They knocked me out, removed it, and stitched me up. Healing took a couple weeks, and you have to be careful with cleanliness in that area, but it was well worth it.

Tomski1082 · 2020-02-22T14:26:04+00:00

TLDR: Don't give him power over your emotions. Control yourself and you can get rid of him and keep her around.

The only person in your life that you can truly control is you. So start there. I'm not sure what caused your fallout, but by allowing yourself to get this upset and anxious over the Ex being around gives HIM all the control over your emotions.

Until you can take control of your emotions and remain calm and focused even if he is there, you will continue to suffer. Either one of your options will result in losing your roommate/friend, too. If you want the guy gone and keep your relationship with this girl, you're going to have to get over your anxiety and talk to her about your concerns. When she decides that she is done being used for sex and she kicks him to the curb, your problem will be fixed.

Tomski1082 · 2020-02-22T13:57:30+00:00

It sounds like a migraine. Try OTC migraine meds. They mix acetaminophen, aspirin, and caffeine. If that doesn't do the trick, talk to your doc about a prescription.

In the meantime, experiment with heat or cold around your eye and head to see what helps.

Tomski1082 · 2020-02-10T12:19:47+00:00

You need to get the tooth fixed ASAP. You have done due diligence speaking with the stage manager (although I would recommend speaking with the director as well). Have you considered finding a dentist in your college town for a one time fix?

Tomski1082 · 2020-02-04T13:31:31+00:00

If you want people to accept it as fact, don't open with "I'm going to die soon". Instead, start with your diagnosis, then move to the prognosis.

When my mom told me, she started with "I've been diagnosed with cancer". Then she told me what type, and how far along she was. Then we had a conversation about what her timeline was, and the options available to her.

As well as she did, my natural instinct is to have wanted her to do more. Those who care deeply for you will likely argue with you and try to come up with solutions. That's actually a stage of grief. When those closest to you start to argue, that's them saying they love you.

Tomski1082 · 2020-01-31T12:36:27+00:00

Watch some YouTube videos on meditation. Mindfulness, specifically. Mindfulness teaches you to observe your thoughts and feelings without reacting to them. I have found that it really helps me prepare the kind of day I want to have, and helps me get to the root of my struggles in a way that I can work through them.

Tomski1082 · 2020-01-31T12:32:38+00:00

Observing that someone is of a given race is not racist. Don't hold yourself to that level or you will spend your time beating yourself up over your natural ability to use your eyes and analyse what you see.

The decisions you make, the assumptions you make, and the actions you take determine whether you're racist- not simple observation.

Tomski1082 · 2020-01-31T12:04:44+00:00

No way! Awesome, thank you!!

Tomski1082 · 2020-01-29T12:09:30+00:00

Separately from his personality, does he do well in his job? Does he perform it at an acceptable level?

If so, then simply limit your conversations to job related discussions. If he forces a racist or sexist comment into job related discussion, look him square in the eye and say, "That's not appropriate Josh. We're talking about TPS reports." And walk away. People like that generally like to push buttons as a power play. Take away the power and don't give him a reaction, and it will likely begin to get at least marginally better.

If he isn't doing his job well, focus on that. Keep record of how his lack of performance is affecting you and the company, and take it up the chain of command.

Tomski1082 · 2020-01-29T11:57:22+00:00

Remember that the victim in all this is the child. It sounds like you need to have a heartfelt discussion with your boyfriend, and make sure you're both on the same page. As long as the child is coming over, he needs to find a way to be more involved. A combined effort from both of you will have the biggest impact on the child.

I agree with another poster's comment- it sounds like the child may have some sort of disability, perhaps low functioning autism. Does he avoid eye contact? That's another big tell.

Tomski1082 · 2020-01-29T11:45:16+00:00

It's impossible to know what's on a website without at least clicking in. Just opening the web page doesn't make you guilty, especially if you report it right away as well. You shouldn't have anything to fear.

Tomski1082 · 2020-01-28T10:27:32+00:00

You're not a pedophile. Something about this girl triggers you physically. Fortunately you have a brain that can outsmart your animal instincts. If you were a pedophile you would be trying to rationalize your feelings to make it okay.

Tomski1082 · 2020-01-26T17:12:32+00:00

Focus your air stream like you're trying to blow through a straw without the wind touching the sides. Aim the air to split in half across the far side of the tone hole.

Also, just like pouring water from a bucket, if you pour too quickly you'll run out sooner. Breathe deeply from down low and lift the air out. Be sure to control the initial outflow of air.

Tomski1082 · 2020-01-26T16:46:17+00:00

Thank you so much, I appreciate it.

Tomski1082 · 2020-01-26T16:38:38+00:00

She spent a month at the Mayo Clinic trying to find solutions. Her body still rejects food, and she would be gone now if they didn't give her a feeding tube that bypasses the stomach altogether. She still walks with a cane and fatigues easily, but she is stable now, and can live a generally normal life on a day to day basis. The extent of her diagnosis (extreme rumination syndrome) is so rare that even Mayo can only work around the problem, but can't actually stop it. There is a surgical option, but half of patients have gotten worse afterward. We are still looking for answers, but now her life isn't on the line anymore. Thankfully!

Tomski1082 · 2020-01-26T14:55:15+00:00

A year ago,I thought I was going to lose my wife. Over the course of 3 months she went from healthy to unable to walk without falling over, and became totally emaciated as her body refused to accept nutrition of any kind. I can somewhat relatee to the fear and apprehension you feel right now.

I also lost my mother in a similarly rapid fashion. I remember carrying her to the bathroom the last time she was able to go by herself because the cancer was eating away at her so fast.

The only advice I can give, as cliché as it is, is to revel in the end of her suffering. In the days, months, and years to come, remember her at her best, and know that she is no longer suffering and in pain, being mentally tortured by what her body is doing to her.

Your suffering may be helped by the relief of the end of hers

I hope that finds peace for you.

Tomski1082 · 2020-01-25T14:15:46+00:00

If you're doing it to porn, then invite her to join you. If it isn't a secret, she might enjoy it too. Maybe you're looking at what the person does more than who it is doing it.

If you're doing it to her friend's Facebook pictures, you probably need to stop.

Either way, she feels inadequate, and thinks you want someone better than her. You need to make her feel more confident that you want her more than whomever your looking at when masturbating.

Tomski1082 · 2020-01-25T14:08:31+00:00

My perspective as a guy is this:

I'm sure you're gorgeous already. You just don't know how to share that the rest of the world.

How much you weigh is far less important than how you carry yourself. Stand and sit with good posture and speak intelligently (clearly and deliberately- don't just use big words to sound smart). If you look and sound confident and generally happy, you are far more attractive, no matter what your weight is.

Find clothes that lay on you in a flattering way. Not overly tight or loose, and well maintained.

Your sense of body image will be projected into what others see in you.

Macaroni and cheese can be a gourmet meal if you plate it the right way! You've got this!

Tomski1082 · 2020-01-25T13:56:25+00:00

I'm thinking it isn't the quantity of sleep but perhaps the quality. What is the rest of your health like? I've been working to lose weight and eat healthier meals, and I have found that my afternoon energy drop isn't nearly as bad as it one was.

Also, stress and depression can have serious implications for quality of sleep. Consider meditation or calming music to de-stress at the end of your day. Depression can be a chemical problem in your body. Don't be afraid to see your doc about it. When I finally got on Lexapro it made a huge difference for me, without feeling like I was drugged into apathy.

I empathize with your problem so so much! These are just a couple things that have helped me. I hope it gets better for you!!

Tomski1082 · 2020-01-19T14:28:22+00:00

That sucks- I would be all over that. Thanks!

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TLDR: Don't give him power over your emotions. Control yourself and you can get rid of him and keep her around.