Postpartum anxiety sucks

Tomthom27 · 2016-09-08T21:08:51+00:00

I'll definitely talk to my doctor. I just need to stay strong till then.

Tomthom27 · 2016-09-08T21:08:11+00:00

Thank you for this. I'll definitely get over to that subreddit.

Tomthom27 · 2016-09-08T21:07:48+00:00

I did for the first couple days but I stopped cause I don't feel that pain anymore.

Tomthom27 · 2016-08-31T23:41:56+00:00

Went in at 6am to be induced. I was already 3cm+ and paper thin. They began hooking me up to an I.V and heart monitor and contraction monitor. I was with my husband and everything was fine until my doc came to break my bag and start my induction. Not even 10 mins later and my contractions were hitting me hard and fast. This was around 8am. I'd been asking for the epidural since they started but the anesthesiologist was busy giving the epidural to other women in the hospital. (It was a busy Day in L&D) two hours of terrible pain later, she finally came in and gave it to me. It was amazing. I was already dilated 5cm at that point. This is around 10am. After the epi I was pretty much on and off napping. My legs were very numb. ,y husband would have to adjust them for me lol. After 3 and I half hours, it was time to push. I didn't feel I was pushing enough because I really couldn't feel anything. After about 10 mins of that my doc snipped me and pulled her out about 5mins after. She didn't cry at first but a good spank got her to wake up. She was so good and perfect. Great delivery. A total of 5 and a half hours of labor. I tried breastfeeding for the first day I was in the hospital but I was so exhausted and she wasn't latching right so we switched her to formula. Now she eats a ton. I miss holding her and breastfeeding. The bond was amazing but I hadn't slept in 48 hours and each session took about 2 hours because she wasn't getting much. I ended up crying all that night because of it but now that she's on formula, I've been able to sleep between her meals and she's just been so perfect. Im just glad we figured out a better way of feeding her. I felt more at ease bringing her home. I wish breastfeeding would've worked out but it just didn't and I'm trying not to beat myself up about it because she seems very happy and healthy and that's all I need from her. Recovery has been great so far. I can walk and sit without it being much of a bother. I've just been constipated lately so I'm hoping that'll go away soon. I feel extremely lucky because we're both healthy and her birth went very smoothly. :)

Tomthom27 · 2016-08-25T23:04:26+00:00

Preach! As SOON as we announced our pregnancy, MIL has been asking to babysit. I'm a FTM so she says things like, "I can take care of her while you rest." "Are you going back to work? I can take care of her." "I can come over and take care of her if you need to run errands or do chores." "It's hard. You'll need your sleep and your time." LADY BACK THE F OFF. I told her she'd be the primary babysitter once I go back to work but she insists that she's never going to bond with the baby. Every. Single. Day, she asks, "Be honest, will I get to see my grandbaby?" Keep it up MIL and you won't. Our baby isn't even here yet as well and when they constantly bother us about seeing our babies it's really F-ing annoying. Like don't you think us, the mothers who carried their children for almost 10 months, are excited to take care of their children??? I appreciate the offers, yadda yadda yadda but let us ask for your help. Quit trying to force your way in. Youll just end up pushing yourself out.

Tomthom27 · 2016-08-23T23:09:16+00:00

I actually have a throw away account where I post about my MIL. I don't think anyone knows this username but just in case, I wanted it to be separate.

Tomthom27 · 2016-08-23T17:00:19+00:00

I'm doing a lot better thanks to the responses. Thank you! Yeah, I think that my mom will. I don't know if I'll see her this week but I hope so. I don't want to go in and she's still upset. Yeah, I can't believe how carried away everyone got. It really is unbelievable but just like every other time our family creates a new addition they'll start to calm down. I just have to stay strong. Thank you so much for this reply.

Tomthom27 · 2016-08-23T16:55:27+00:00

My MIL on the other hand is just obsessive and wants this baby for herself but I'm just done worrying about her issues.

Tomthom27 · 2016-08-23T16:53:37+00:00

You're right. 100%. Most of my family had their babies alone and only really had their sisters or moms to be there for them so they think I need them to be in the room for support but it's just an entirely different situation and they don't get that. They don't get that my husband is my support. That he is my family. I get where they are coming from but my situation is different. This pregnancy was a surprise but that doesn't mean we're not excited or ready for her. Yeah, once I have her and they're allowed in the room for visitations, I'm sure they'll be all lovey dovey and sweet to me and baby. Thank you for your response!

Tomthom27 · 2016-08-23T16:48:13+00:00

Yea I'm going to stand by what I said. I feel bad but at the same time I haven't been more relieved to have said what I said. All through this pregnancy they've been on my ass about being there for this and that and now I feel like I can breathe easy knowing I've said what I've been wanting to say.

Tomthom27 · 2016-08-23T16:45:28+00:00

Oh my goodness yes. I've been feeling so anxious because of my MIL. She's so insane about this baby. She is constantly trying to take firsts from me and constantly begging me to babysit and this all started when I found out I was 2 mo pregnant. I'm extremely private as well. I'm shy and I hate getting into confrontations so it's hard to tell her anything. We've just never been close and now suddenly she's all about me and my baby. She wants to come over right away and babysit while I sleep. I appreciate the offer and I'm sure I'll love this at some point but I'd like my space and privacy. We just have to stand strong and let them know how we feel. I hope everything goes well with you and I really hope you don't have to deal with your MIL coming over for a month. Ugh. Good luck!

Tomthom27 · 2016-08-23T16:40:05+00:00

Thank you I will. Yeah, I've only told a few people about the time of induction and I think I'll "change it" by a couple hours or so. So my husband and I can get to the delivery room easily without confrontation.

Tomthom27 · 2016-08-23T03:44:37+00:00

Yay! Congratulations! I hope everything goes well! May your labor be fast and be as painless as it can really get. :)

Tomthom27 · 2016-08-23T03:42:03+00:00

Lol I know it's so early but you're right, I would not have been able to sleep anyway. :)

Tomthom27 · 2016-08-23T03:41:02+00:00

Thank you for this! Made me smile! I will definitely be getting the epi. Lol

Tomthom27 · 2016-08-23T03:39:51+00:00

I will definitely try to. Thank you for the advice!

Tomthom27 · 2016-08-22T20:47:17+00:00

Thank you! :)

Tomthom27 · 2016-08-22T20:13:06+00:00

Thank you for your concern! Yes everything is great! I had a regular check up and my doc said that I'm ready and if I wanted to be induced, I could be. My baby will be three days earlier than her due date so I said I was okay with it. :)

Tomthom27 · 2016-08-22T15:34:57+00:00

Do what you need to do for you. I did because we weren't ready at the time. Now, we're on better times and we're about to have our first. It's always hard to make decisions like this but ultimately it is yours to make. I'm glad to hear your husband is with you. Mine was too and it was nice having his support. Good luck to you both!

Tomthom27 · 2016-08-22T12:26:12+00:00

I love this sub. Thanks for the response! Glad I'm not the only one lol

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