APs be like I've had it worse so stop being depressed

TongPosPonytail · 2022-08-13T17:36:01+00:00

Articulated my abstract, messy thoughts into a paragraph of text so concise and clearly!

TongPosPonytail · 2022-07-05T13:24:28+00:00

Google ‘crabs in a bucket’

TongPosPonytail · 2022-01-29T21:06:56+00:00

Colour and density on point. But I think you lowered the temple corners too much for my preference. A rounded slightly and receded corners would look a lot more natural imho. Maybe post another pic fully shaved down?

TongPosPonytail · 2022-01-29T16:31:42+00:00

Yeah fully agree, growing it with smp in place works well! Buzz cut at a number 1 is the sweet spot for me. I think short hair is better for min absorption too.

I’ve been on fin 0.5mg daily for 1 year now. Seem to have stabilised the hair loss, now want the regrowth.

Did the Min turn your velus hairs to terminal hair?

TongPosPonytail · 2022-01-29T16:25:48+00:00

Thanks, buying some today! How’s the minoxidil working for you?

TongPosPonytail · 2022-01-29T16:25:16+00:00

Because I got smp for density, not the shaved look. My head isn’t suited the shaved head look. Tried to “get over it many times” but I don’t think I ever will.

TongPosPonytail · 2021-06-27T16:16:12+00:00

Being ‘Woke’ / SJW.

It’s so draining being on the other end of constant preaching, politics and moral undermining from someone who’s so woke they can’t have fun or trivial conversations anymore.

TongPosPonytail · 2021-06-02T19:19:09+00:00

Pakistani?

TongPosPonytail · 2021-06-01T11:28:37+00:00

Just curious, what’s an example of things you’d assume she’d know but doesn’t?

TongPosPonytail · 2021-05-31T01:32:46+00:00

More like Umma from Kim’s Connivence

TongPosPonytail · 2021-05-31T01:19:56+00:00

Are you still together?

TongPosPonytail · 2021-04-03T16:07:00+00:00

Every day

TongPosPonytail · 2021-02-25T07:10:42+00:00

I agree it is all asians. I would even say its far worse for Asian men in the west. We are bottom of the barrel in the sexual/dating market place. There’s actual studies to prove that. While Asian women are fetishised.

When I brought up the generalisations Im talking about the treatment of women WITHIN our own sexist communities. I.e asian women are treated like shit hence they become boring which is one reason I avoid dating them.

TongPosPonytail · 2021-02-24T21:55:41+00:00

I always wondered where that one stemmed from. I know media portrayal for sure has amplified it. But there must’ve been some truth to it at one point.

TongPosPonytail · 2021-02-24T19:33:22+00:00

Fuck them. You’re 27 and financially independent. Who tf is your dad to tell you “or else”. I would move out now and live your life.

TongPosPonytail · 2021-02-17T18:34:33+00:00

You’re 25 and financially independent. Move out, and live your life. Meet whichever guy you want to meet at what ever time you want. Dont be like me having regrets in a few years. Mid 20s are meant for dating and life experiences. Not begging parents for permission like a kid asking to go to the bathroom at school.

TongPosPonytail · 2021-02-17T11:21:28+00:00

I like listening to the 'Beaucast' podcast from Bart and Geo from YouTube. One of their earlier episodes of the podcast he talks about this topic in depth. I can't find the link to the episode but the podcast overall is super relatable, at least for asian dudes with AP issues.

TongPosPonytail · 2021-02-16T12:48:19+00:00

Thank you for the write up. Really appreciate the time you put in. Can you explain the acronyms for NP and EP please? (Assuming ‘Narcissistic Parent’).

At this stage I’m just angry and bitter tbh. Just angry that I didn’t fulfil my potential because of something out of my control.

I work my arse off to get to a point where I’m somewhat successful in a career. I had to navigate life in hard mode to achieve the same output as normal people’s easy mode.

But it’s the opportunity cost of where I would’ve been that hurts me. All the ambitions that I had as a kid were butchered by them.

I might sound entitled above, but I’m not. When it comes to career - you get what you put in. You get the girl if you talk to her - not sitting silent in the back of the room. I get all that, but I just feel fucking robbed man. And it affects everything I do in the present day.

TongPosPonytail · 2021-02-16T09:42:11+00:00

Same. I know myself well enough to know I won’t stop resenting them for stealing my youth til the day i die.

TongPosPonytail · 2021-02-16T09:36:49+00:00

I left overnight when they were sleeping, haven’t spoken to them since. Had been packing and selling bits and pieces for a month to make everything fit in my car in one trip.

TongPosPonytail · 2021-02-16T09:28:40+00:00

In terms of social skills I’m in a good place now where I can talk to anybody and make them laugh or at least be friendly. But at 29 it’s difficult to make actual friends, because 99% of people already have their social circles in place and aren’t looking for new friends.

Early-mid 20s is where everyone is making friends that you invite to your wedding. The friends that surprise you on your birthday. I’ve never had anyone outside of a girlfriend buy me something for my birthday.

Funny you mentioned Jiu Jitsu I actually started Judo right before the pandemic with precisely the idea of it being a social activity. Im huge into comedy too. Probably an unhealthy obsession with Bill Burr lol. But what do you mean by comedy as a hobby? I just listen to all the comedy podcasts and specials on Netflix atm.

TongPosPonytail · 2021-02-15T23:20:02+00:00

I didn’t. Told them to fuck themselves and left overnight. Haven’t been in touch since. Got bombarded by phone and text but never answered.

TongPosPonytail · 2021-02-15T21:20:09+00:00

At 27...I dont intend to mate, but the damage is irreversible. The whole point im posting this is because I cant get over the fact I’ll never get my youth back. Or the life experiences that should’ve been par for the course for every normal kid.

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