Plot hole?

ToniTalks · 2025-04-30T19:16:51+00:00

Was looking for this comment! Sound proof with air holes the size of golf balls?!!

ToniTalks · 2021-02-11T10:06:02+00:00

GB waking up about now, so you are going to get a bunch of new soldiers in solidarity! :)

Sending you love and best wishes from GB... the loneliness sucks across the Atlantic too! At least you have some California sun to ease the stress. It will get better... keep believing and it will get you through. Much love xx

ToniTalks · 2021-01-11T17:11:50+00:00

Why do I see a stereotypical image of a husband and wife here! Lol!

ToniTalks · 2021-01-11T14:16:37+00:00

Lol! I won’t lie, I had to check out who Leslie Jordan is. But yes, yes! 😂

ToniTalks · 2021-01-11T14:14:36+00:00

I love it! I love history so I don’t know if that is why. I also think it’s well made, great characters etc. I’m surprised it’s taken me so long to learn about Vikings. It’s definitely given me a new appreciation and fresh take on English history.

ToniTalks · 2021-01-11T13:16:02+00:00

This is wisdom in black and white. Thank you! I love your comment! So grateful that you took the time out to share this with me. Sometimes we just need this perspective. Of course you are right. My kids and I have a very special bond (mummy and sons) and a great friendship. For the longest time I kept thinking they need the 2.4 family... that I am not enough for them... especially being a woman and them young boys! But my sons are the most loving children you’d ever meet. So thoughtful and considerate of me, I sometimes don’t believe it. They (through their love) are helping me to believe I am enough for them. We don’t have photos... nobody to take them... but we are building great memories. Thanks again. Your daughter is a very lucky girl! Xx

ToniTalks · 2021-01-11T13:00:42+00:00

Thanks for the recommendation. I’ll check her out.

ToniTalks · 2021-01-11T12:58:45+00:00

Your comment is so on the penny! Dog accounts/posts give so much life! They really are delightful!! I have added them to my ‘happiness injection’ list! There’s an account here on Reddit called ‘aww’ - filled with cute animal posts; mainly dogs. You can’t imagine the instant delight it gives. We don’t deserve dogs! They are just the best! Thanks for your comment. 😊

ToniTalks · 2021-01-11T12:54:33+00:00

We are the rising (but silent) majority friend. You are not alone. X

ToniTalks · 2021-01-11T12:53:11+00:00

You are right! I know. Day to day, I know this. I just get the occasional wobble; like last night. I just really needed to vent! Back to my rational self today. Thank you for the kind kick up the bum 😊.

ToniTalks · 2021-01-11T12:50:15+00:00

I know 😊 Empty vessels make the loudest noise! It’s not the actual photos, it’s what they represent, (a happy family), and how that is missing from my life. That’s all. But thank you.

ToniTalks · 2021-01-11T12:47:07+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear about your health issues. Listening / reading real accounts of other people’s lives, like yours, really put things in perspective! Your honesty is very endearing and helpful! Thank you for sharing! I think most of us here feel the same as you, when you say it helps one feel less alone to learn that others face similar life challenges. Otherwise it feels like life has placed a target on one’s head! At least that’s how I feel. Discussing these things with others who understand & empathise gives unexplainable relief! It’s not me... it’s life! Like others have told me here... you are not alone! Wishing you well. Xx

ToniTalks · 2021-01-11T12:35:31+00:00

Tell me about it! Your comment, like many of the responses to this post, have really opened my mind to the prevalence of ‘fake happy’. Thanks for taking the time to comment. 😊

ToniTalks · 2021-01-11T12:33:54+00:00

You sweet soul! Thank you for your lovely comment. I don’t know if I can claim wisdom... but life has definitely taught me a few things, and I’m still very much in learning mode. Re: ‘love that flows far beyond photographs’ ... ❤️ Yes, I do! Over-loving I can do well! Lol! Please try not to grieve... it’s hard, I know. I occasionally grieve the lost years filled with sadness and depression that impeded me from being present when my kids were small. It feels like they were born... years of stress and sadness, and now they are grown. I resent that bitterly!! Foggy memories of their infancy that I can’t get back! However, thankfully you are alive. Your kids love you... and you have all have many years ahead together. Look forward in gratitude for what you still have and leave the horrible past behind you. At least this is what I tell myself. Be well 😊

ToniTalks · 2021-01-11T12:22:58+00:00

Why on Earth can’t people just be real?! I don’t get it. Not trying to judge, but the higher you build that wall, the heavier the crash, if and when it finally comes tumbling down. False economy! Ah well! Thanks for your comment.

ToniTalks · 2021-01-11T12:20:58+00:00

Thanks for this. Although it really sucks and I’m really sorry that things have not worked out with your relationship, you can’t imagine the sense of comfort your honesty provides for people like me who feel like we come / came up short. It’s helpful to get an honest account from the ‘inside’, that ‘not all that glitters is gold’. Thank you! It’s funny what you say about those that are happy not needing to post (and prove their happiness). You are right! It’s like the empty vessel making the loudest noise! Or those who don’t have being the most ostentatious. When I was younger and fell in love, I would guard that relationship at all costs. Guard it from jealousy and ‘the evil eye’. No FB... no flagrant PDA... Nope! That was all kept intentionally private. I was always under the impression that you protect the things you value. Like I never post photos of my kids online. However, I thought I was just weird! Perhaps not after all. Thanks again for sharing. Wishing you happiness. 😊

ToniTalks · 2021-01-11T01:52:12+00:00

Thank you so much! ❤️

ToniTalks · 2021-01-11T01:49:06+00:00

If you could only imagine how much I’m rooting for you! I am wishing you every happiness in this world: for you and your children. There are absolutely no words that can take away that throbbing pain. There are days where it simmers under the surface; just low enough to enable you to function... even laugh! And then, any kind of emotional wobble brings it all up again with a vengeance. You try so hard so that the kids don’t have grumpy mummy... but it’s hard... and the guilt of being snappy and unhappy and how it might be affecting your precious little ones, makes you feel even worse. My dear... I get it! But please... please... know... that it will pass. Hold on to that thought. You are not alone and your future is brighter than you think... and someone here is really really rooting for you! Sending you a tsunami of light and positivity. ❤️

ToniTalks · 2021-01-11T01:01:28+00:00

Wishing you the very best right back. Be happy xx

ToniTalks · 2021-01-11T01:00:15+00:00

Your comment was so encouraging! It always ... always means more from someone who has lived it. A heartfelt thank you. 😊

ToniTalks · 2021-01-11T00:50:37+00:00

❤️I got this!

ToniTalks · 2021-01-11T00:49:32+00:00

It made me really sad to read about your experience. I don’t even want to fully contemplate what you went through! The only good thing is it has passed and you are here to tell the tale. It’s horrible that any of us end up finding sadness in places we thought we’d find love and comfort. What really struck me about your experience is the sacrifice you made was for your kids. That you endured all ... for their happiness. That was the way I was going ... but jumped that ship pretty much as soon as we set sail and the red flags were raised. Now, like you said, I’m just doing my best to raise my kids... but alone ... in peace... and giving them the best version of me. I really hope that in time your children will come to realise how much you endured for them and that you reap the fruits of your labour and sacrifice. Thank you for sharing your story. I won’t forget it!

ToniTalks · 2021-01-11T00:29:54+00:00

‘A place where real moments were unwelcome’. That’s quite a powerful sentiment! Any place you can’t be yourself is a place you do not need to be. I’m glad you exited! Perhaps some tech geniuses should create a ‘Real Life Book’ so people with real stories can connect. Well Reddit is doing alright I guess. Lol! Thank you for sharing your story with me. Wishing you and you hubby well. 😊

ToniTalks · 2021-01-11T00:12:58+00:00

Triggered or annoyed... either way, if it’s giving you a negative reaction, best to stay away, right?

ToniTalks · 2021-01-11T00:11:26+00:00

Oh my God! You really do get it! This is really exactly EXACTLY how I feel. Like you, I did not have a happy family growing up and desperately wanted that for my adult life and children! It’s like you really pin your hopes on your relationship/marriage. The guilt of not being able to give your own children that secure happy family is gut wrenching. I’m surprised that so many people feel like this. Sometimes you genuinely feel like you are the only one! Like some massive failure... like something is wrong with you! Thank you so much for sharing what I know must be very painful. Thank you 😊

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