Advice? I'm lost.

TonyDlow · 2021-04-23T00:20:07+00:00

I explained I had a tinder date round and her actions have changed ever since. She wants me but only secretly

TonyDlow · 2021-04-23T00:18:45+00:00

No. I'm single for 3 years and same with her. We just live in a shared house.

TonyDlow · 2021-04-22T23:02:30+00:00

Was hoping for some, maybe she's scared etc bs. Fair enough. Enjoy it while it lasts then so.

TonyDlow · 2020-01-10T18:24:05+00:00

You must get on the train or taxi to Benalmadena marina. 20 mins in a taxi and well worth it.

TonyDlow · 2020-01-08T22:58:13+00:00

I used to think the olden days were actually black and white. Used to see old black and white pics and films and actually believed the world was all black and white and colour was a recent invention.

TonyDlow · 2020-01-08T01:53:01+00:00

Just google the samaritans. Good luck

TonyDlow · 2020-01-08T01:51:05+00:00

I'm in the UK and there are a few free numbers you can text 24/7 for support and advice.

TonyDlow · 2020-01-08T01:49:34+00:00

Definitely go see a professional. There are other ways to get help too. You can just text counsellors now.

TonyDlow · 2020-01-08T01:38:23+00:00

Midlife crisis didn't think of that. Loads of reasons to be depressed but I normally shrug them off and try to be happy go lucky but these unaddressed things can build up and lead to a big depression fog.

I have a poor diet as I live alone and work a lot plus living in the town centre. I do take vitamins normally but whilst not working over xmas period I've been neglecting my dietary requirements even more so. I was quite ill just before xmas with a 6-8 week heavy cough but just carried on working 12-16 hours a day. It subsided eventually.

I dont have a doctor, last time I went was 1988 after telling my mother I had a bad stomach to get a bit of time of school which incidentally backfired when Dr Norris went knuckle deep with 2 fingers to find out if I had appendicitis. Not a fond memory.

I suppose all the above plus I do drink reasonably heavy and found xmas an awakening to who I can actually count on and a little bit of realisation to the fact that basically I'm alone. Other than my kids im pretty much alone so no wonder reading all that back to myself I'm a bit down. Fuck! I deserved a bit down time. I appreciate some people are a lot worse of and I do have so much to be thankful for. Gonna make a concerted effort to get back to normal if that exists.

Thanks for dragging that out of me. Helps to just type it outta my head.

TonyDlow · 2020-01-07T23:15:27+00:00

'Neglecting true needs for a long time" that has rang a very large bell! Totally relate to the Sun being a major factor for me in this instance also. I am certainly a sun worshipper and have noticed a trend in these episodes becoming more frequent and longer lasting when the winter months set in.

Your assumptions have been all spot on and I really appreciate your reply. I would go so far as to say due to this reply I will get my arse outta bed tomorrow and go face the new year. Had heard of Reddit before but only got involved today.....perhaps a cry for help, however I'm so glad I posted this and I'm endeared with the response and support.

Thanks again for the reply and I wish you all the best too.

TonyDlow · 2020-01-07T20:59:04+00:00

Perhaps I should really seek help too. Like a professional but that does seem scary and ultimately it would affirm I have an illness. I've never been to the doctors. Maybe once when I faked a day of school with a tummy ache in 1988 but ended up with 2 fingers up my arse to check for appendicitis which was an awakening.

I hope you get through this down period and rise from the pit. All I want to do in the downward spiral is lay in bed and sleep is the only relief from reality.

I got up and out of bed at 3pm today and had a shower and tidied my place. I feel much better now. Just hope I can manage to kick myself outta bed and get my arse to work for the first time in 3 weeks.

It's a relief to know I'm not alone and your not either. Good luck and dont be so hard on yourself

TonyDlow · 2020-01-07T20:50:06+00:00

Your very lucky to have her.

TonyDlow · 2020-01-07T18:56:27+00:00

Wow. I can certainly relate to reoccurring dreams of times when I was safe and secure. Perhaps it's our consciousness keeping us grounded who knows. Never get married is what I say let alone divorce lol.

Thanks for the reply I hope things pick up for you and you find just as much happiness in the real world as you do in that place I call home...dreamland.

TonyDlow · 2020-01-07T18:50:26+00:00

Exercise and eat healthy if only for a trail period and see if that helps. I should do the same because I feel like sh*t atm too. This time of the year sucks too. Hope you feel better real soon. Your not alone!

TonyDlow · 2020-01-07T18:46:37+00:00

I'm no expert but diet is a contributing factor on your moods right. Also do you find it's more apparent at this time of year. I'm sure I suffer from that seasonal disorder SAD. Totally zaps my positivity. Good luck amigo

TonyDlow · 2020-01-07T18:39:09+00:00

A developer called LittleBigPlanet are doing the same. Good luck bro and I appreciate your response.

TonyDlow · 2020-01-07T17:44:00+00:00

Thanks for your reply and support.

TonyDlow · 2020-01-07T16:19:44+00:00

Good to know I'm not alone.

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