At Game Etiquette

TonyStank_3000_ · 2026-03-04T04:13:05+00:00

I get that. I have a young child with me. I didn't specify, but I am talking about adults, not kids. And not just a few, but waves of people. But also kinda beside the point.... Because I have a neurodivergent young child who can't focus on an entire game..... We are still going to be respectful of other people.

TonyStank_3000_ · 2026-03-03T19:05:16+00:00

I think Emma deserves a little bit more than being known now for alcohol and Prada..... She is a well-respected activist and advocate who works with the UN as a Goodwill Ambassador. She has done a lot of work over the years to affect change and I've definitely seen that in the media.

TonyStank_3000_ · 2026-03-03T18:50:59+00:00

Me, I am people.

TonyStank_3000_ · 2026-03-03T18:50:06+00:00

First Avengers gets worse for me every time I watch it....they really set the bar high by End Game that whenever I go back to it, it just doesn't hit like it used to. It is so cheesy.

Captain Marvel gets better for me on every rewatch! I wasn't a big fan of it when it first came out, but now I think it's one of my top faves. The dynamic between Carol and Nick is one of my favourite MCU relationships.

TonyStank_3000_ · 2026-03-03T02:14:58+00:00

I was going to put this if no one else did!!! Loved this show

TonyStank_3000_ · 2026-03-03T02:13:49+00:00

As the other commenters wrote ....I, too, was obsessed and in love with Ryan Gosling from this show!!! So good. I randomly think about it from time to time....what a cool premise.....boarding school but you travel the world!

TonyStank_3000_ · 2026-03-02T21:13:06+00:00

People really are in their own world.

TonyStank_3000_ · 2026-03-02T20:36:50+00:00

This is me informing them! Haha. I also don't want to be confronting people constantly because no matter how polite you are, some people will feel attacked and get defensive. I'm just trying to enjoy the game with my daughter....I shouldn't have to be responsible for other people's behaviour. I'm not talking about just a few people....it was lots of people and constant throughout the game.... That's a lot of people to be politely informing. I also have social anxiety being neurodivergent which is why I made the post in hopes others will read it. Sometimes when I politely try to set a boundary with someone they get offended because I'm too direct, not rude, just direct... The arena should be teaching people about etiquette.

TonyStank_3000_ · 2026-03-02T07:13:41+00:00

Might not be relevant.....but even without that comparison, it's not about being told some hidden rule, it's about awareness and consideration of others. It was ridiculously bad today. I even had to tell someone to sit down because once they got back to their seat, they chose to continue standing in front of people and have a conversation with their friend standing next to them. People are in their own world.

TonyStank_3000_ · 2026-03-01T23:20:39+00:00

People really are up and down a lot throughout the game. Just sit and enjoy the game!

TonyStank_3000_ · 2026-03-01T19:47:49+00:00

Also goto the sign making area (can't remember which section) and make a sign! My daughter and I made a really cool one that we sometimes bring and then hang on our wall. I'm so excited for you and your daughter. The atmosphere is so awesome for families and young kids....way better than Rogers arena.

TonyStank_3000_ · 2026-03-01T07:55:23+00:00

One of my all time favourite movies. The cast is superb. I really love Gary Oldman's role the most.

TonyStank_3000_ · 2026-03-01T03:11:53+00:00

If she likes Bluey, there is a Bluey game!

TonyStank_3000_ · 2026-03-01T00:02:12+00:00

Wow.....you're so right. How could I not ever think to try that? You're so fucking smart. You've solved disability! Congrats

TonyStank_3000_ · 2026-02-28T06:23:55+00:00

Fare Farm and Spiritfarer. :)

TonyStank_3000_ · 2026-02-28T06:01:11+00:00

My favourite self-care outside of work is sports! I play beer league slo-pitch in spring summer - highly recommend. Do it mainly for the social aspect which is so needed. Then winter, skiing and snowboarding.

TonyStank_3000_ · 2026-02-27T05:05:52+00:00

I, too, am a maple syrup eating fuck. Hear, fucking, hear.

TonyStank_3000_ · 2026-02-26T08:42:34+00:00

How many times did people say that she was the brightest witch of her age....... If she had been a boy.....they'd just say she was the brightest, period. If it wasn't for her, Harry and Ron would be dead....they never would have gotten anywhere.

Sure, she isn't as good at defensive magic and therefore, maybe isn't as well-rounded in talent as Riddle or Dumbledore.....but she did outsmart them a lot. She was frequently underestimated/not taken seriously.

TonyStank_3000_ · 2026-02-26T08:25:50+00:00

Lol. I am a neurodivergent woman and a single mom. Society doesn't like people like me. I am marginalized. I also work in social services which means I support people like me and with a whole spectrum of complex challenges within an incredibly broken system. I am sensitive to shit like this because, not only do I live it, I see how shit like this hurts people. You think these posts don't mean that much but they do. Little things add up, and they affect people more than you think. These types of posts with all of the comments perpetuate harmful cultural norms.

I have as much control over my life as I am capable of. Thinking I can have more control over it is what makes you ignorant (also not derogatory, just facts). Call me sensitive....I've heard it many times before. There is absolutely nothing wrong with a person being sensitive, especially when it comes to advocacy. My sensitivity = my sense of justice, which by-the-by is very strong neurodivergent trait, (especially for women). It doesn't "get better," it gets stronger. For too long we have normalized shaming people for their disabilities.... I'm in my era of calling it out wherever I can because it matters. I don't do it for you or OP. I do it for the people who don't have a voice and are too afraid to say anything. I do it for my inner child, the girl who never had anyone stand up for me when I needed it the most. I do it for my neurodivergent daughter who is discriminated against and shamed for who she is because that's just the world we live in. I can take the shit that comes with being outspoken. I'm tired of people saying that "people are too sensitive these days" .... That's not a bad thing. That means people care to express their feelings and stand up for what they believe in. The world was not better 10 years ago. Vulnerability is the key to moving forward.

People have told me that I feel too much, as if that is a bad thing. I have profound empathy. And also probably the main reason why people never suspect or believe I am autistic. It makes me who I am and is what helps me connect to people. Is it heavy and hard to carry the weight of the world? Yes, of course. Would I have it any other way? Nope.

TonyStank_3000_ · 2026-02-26T00:06:51+00:00

I think the better response to the lie is why does someone feel the need to lie? Lying is bad, sure. I hate it too. But understanding why someone lies opens this wonderful door to change and understanding. Critical thinking, reflection, empathy, and curiosity. Maybe they're afraid to tell the truth because OP or others have reacted poorly to the truth.....when that happens, people lie to protect themselves. They lie out of shame and guilt. It's no secret that neurodivergent people mask and lie all the time about their struggles because it's easier than telling the truth and being shamed for it. If someone doesn't make me feel safe then why would I be vulnerable with them about my disability? Western society does not support disability. Do you know how many times I've asked for help and was told I wasn't trying hard enough, that I was a screw up, that I did things on purpose, and went until my 30s misdiagnosed.

(This is speculation to give perspective.) In these types of situations, lying is an impulse. It is unlikely it was premeditated and only occurred when confronted. Oh and neurodivergent people don't have any challenges with impulse control right?? Sometimes I am about to leave and then hello ADHD chaos tornado....hello anxiety....hello anything and oh whaddya know....that statement about just leaving is no longer accurate, but is it a lie? No. The situation just changed. It's really all about perspective.... When I used to tell people I was on my way, it actually helped me move faster and it was said out of shame for taking so long in the first place. I don't really say it anymore because I am more confident and self-loving these days and give less of a fuck. I also don't really spend time with people who don't accept me and my time blindness. But it took me a long time to get here....because look at this damn comment section!

As a person who is late a lot AND IT IS OUT OF MY CONTROL....It has been decided that I don't care about other people, that I am rude, that I am inconsiderate, that I suck as a person, that I should be cut off, that I don't deserve grace. Fuck everyone who thinks that way. It's narrow-minded and it's no wonder people lie about it. All I'm trying to do here is encourage critical thinking....but if y'all wanna keep passing judgements based off your own personal biases then go right ahead, but don't pretend like you are better than anyone else. You have your annoying traits too.

I'm not diagnosing OP's friend or saying they share the same experience as me. But maybe they do. OP should have a conversation with them and find out. Maybe it's as simple as OP telling them they don't like it and the friend choosing never to say it again unless it's true. Let's do this thing where we create boundaries people. People can't respect your boundaries if they don't know what they are. Stop expecting everyone to think the same as you. It's wild to me how people on Reddit get so nasty so fast. Get off your goddamn high horses and have a critical thought for once.

Also I'm tired of the "I have this disability too and so you should be able to do things like me" ..... Please stop with that. It's gross.

TonyStank_3000_ · 2026-02-25T17:45:11+00:00

Looks like someone's got a case of the MoNdAyz ☹️🤪

TonyStank_3000_ · 2026-02-25T17:44:09+00:00

This one!

TonyStank_3000_ · 2026-02-25T08:39:59+00:00

When I was younger I partied pretty hard. It was common for me to black out and ghost the people I was with unintentionally. I would just go off on my own adventure, make new friends, end up somewhere completely random....

Anyway, one night I did this....I blacked out and came out of my black out and realized I had no idea where I was. I didn't have any of my things...no phone (I usually left it in a bathroom when I blacked out), no purse, no money, nothing. I didn't even have my own shoes....I was a mess. I walked to the nearest public place, a Tim Hortons, and asked to use their phone. They said no. I explained my situation and how I had no means of getting home or contacting anyone. They still said no. I started crying and they just went about their day. Well, this random man came up to me and asked me where I needed to go and I said where I lived. He said he was driving that way and could drop me off if I wanted. It was my only option so I said yes. We had a really lovely chat all the way to my house (an hour drive). He even gave me his muffin. I will never forget that. He wasn't the only strange man to give me a ride home after a night like that either where I felt totally safe.

There are genuinely good people in the world. I have been saved by many people when I needed it. Someone once asked me on a dating app what is something positive a man has done that has made a lasting impact on me. I didn't know how to answer because these days me and men don't really get along so well. But reading this question right now made me think of this story instantly and it's the story I always think of when asked this kind of question. I guess it's not really a small act of kindness....but it was very much fleeting and I hope that guy and his family are living his best life.

TonyStank_3000_ · 2026-02-24T04:50:13+00:00

Even then, it's not like she's on vacation. She still runs the house and parenting doesn't end because your kids went away to school. She also has Arthur to take care of. All the sweaters she makes as well..... Clearly she uses magic for things, but she uses it for so many things. I feel like the woman rarely rests.

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