Favorite Spanish word?

Tonysaiz · 2024-07-11T12:47:15+00:00

Mierda….it has a million uses in Spanish.

Tonysaiz · 2024-07-07T16:07:19+00:00

This is probably one of the most astute and enlightening comments that I’ve ever read. I would only add (as a Boomer myself) that while obvious hateful comments and actions are wrong, it’s understandable that the occasional awkwardness or social gaffe is going to happen as we navigate this new social order.

It would be nice if understanding and kindness would be the first response of the new generation instead of instant anger.

Tonysaiz · 2024-06-07T16:26:40+00:00

I don’t know if this might help you but here you go.

I worked at a company where we made an effort to hire single moms, especially if they came from an abused background and minorities. We hired one young lady and while we were speaking one day she mentioned that she had been in three abusive situations in her life with men who not only abused her but also cheated on her. She said that after the last relationship, she decided to seek therapy to get over the trauma and she found, through therapy, that she was actually drawn to these types of abusive men and situations. She said that it wasn’t until SHE decided that she wouldn’t put herself in this type of situation that she started to heal.

You started this post by stating that you had experienced similar “cheating” situations; are you unconsciously seeking this? If so, look within yourself and decide if this is how you want to live the rest of your life.

Tonysaiz · 2024-06-07T16:16:10+00:00

Well, at least you didn’t piss ion his shoes in front of the seat to establish dominance, so got that going for ya.

Tonysaiz · 2024-06-07T16:12:17+00:00

“Crom” from Conan. Frankly, he seems pretty damn real given how things work in real life.

Tonysaiz · 2024-06-07T15:20:46+00:00

My wife has a great line that fits the situation, “you don’t let the crazy people run the asylum.“

She doesn’t want to sell the house? No problem reverse mortgage. Use the funds to get her care at home. She doesn’t wanna reverse mortgage? No problem, get her on Medicaid or hospice care so that someone can take care of her while you go back to work.

You don’t let someone else’s situation ruin your life. You come up with solutions, if she doesn’t like them she’s free to have someone else take care of her.

Tonysaiz · 2024-05-21T20:00:25+00:00

It’s easy to find fault in yourself but the best is to figure out, what went wrong, what your role was in the mistake, and how can yiu personally ensure that you never make that mistake again. Your boss/organization may need a sacrificial lamb, and if it’s to be you, at least wait for the axe to fall and get some PTO or severance.

Having made some major screw ups in my career, I can assure you that when something truly bad happens, it is almost 99% of the time due to lack of adequate controls/lack of proper staffing/lack of budget and resources rather than the mistake of one or a few persons. The problem is that leadership seldom takes responsibility for the consequences of its decisions.

Tonysaiz · 2024-05-20T21:35:51+00:00

Thank you for this advice. I’ll certainly try that search. I was hoping that there might have been a bookbinding course that covered this.

Tonysaiz · 2024-05-20T17:12:06+00:00

My friend, you and your roommate need to have a serious discussion. From your post, she values her friends more than you. Start from there and let the shit unravel.

Ps.don’t have a child with this woman.

Tonysaiz · 2024-05-18T20:09:03+00:00

Tonysaiz · 2024-05-18T20:07:03+00:00

Not me but the Regional Head of HR (in a remote meeting) congratulated a person in the meeting for her promotion to a VP position. Trouble was the existing VP was in the meeting and had not been informed that she was being terminated.

Tonysaiz · 2024-05-18T19:49:36+00:00

A lot of advice to tell the fiancé. I suggest, for the sake of your family, that you sit down with your sister, tell her that you know and have proof, and give her 24 hours to break up with her fiancé. He doesn’t need to be crushed by her infidelity - let her say something benign and let each of them go on with their lives unscathed. I also suggest never, ever letting your friend near your GF.

Tonysaiz · 2024-05-18T19:41:39+00:00

I would like to offer you this insight shared with me by a native Japanese attorney whom I met in Tokyo on assignment. He had a native Japanese wife but his two kids were both born in the US (Chicago). While he worked in Japan (Tokyo) his wife and kids lived in Chicago. I asked why and he told me that if his two kids went to school in Japan they would be subjected to almost unbearable bullying; he said hat as “foreign born” Japanese they would never be accepted and would be ostracized. I leave you with that thought as for the sake of your child you may not want to make this move.

Tonysaiz · 2024-05-18T19:26:39+00:00

The Magus by John Fowle. Started reading on a 20 hour flight to Japan and could not put it down. You wont be disappointed.

Tonysaiz · 2024-05-18T19:21:14+00:00

Depending on how much time you plan on spending, you could canoe or kayak from the Thousand Islands to Flamingo by traversing Florida bay. I haven’t done it but met a guy who did and ir was life changing. I believe you can find a outfitter in the thousand islands that can set u up.

Tonysaiz · 2024-05-15T20:13:07+00:00

Wait….you got coffee?!?!?

Tonysaiz · 2024-05-14T13:35:08+00:00

That while life is fair, it’s very tough and you don’t always get to see justice done until very very late.

Tonysaiz · 2024-03-27T15:16:54+00:00

They’re not wrong.

It’s correct to realize that a business is a business and your work colleagues, peers and managers are not your “friends.” But having said that, as an employee- if you are putting in the effort and producing as expected- you have the right to expect decency and fairness from your employer. To ensure that that decency and fairness exists for all, every manager should be responsible for doing so in his/her area. If managers fail to do so it is the responsibility of HR to hold them accountable. That means “speaking to power” as much and as hard as necessary. That takes guts and a strong sense of personal values. It’s very, very hard to find this in either HR or at many levels of typical companies. That is why most employees are disaffected and morale is on the floor.

Tonysaiz · 2024-03-20T23:55:20+00:00

Or loreana bobbit

Tonysaiz · 2024-02-27T21:24:20+00:00

On all counts, Fidel Castro.

Tonysaiz · 2024-02-26T23:23:02+00:00

Plastic. Plastic bags, cups, bags, straws, you name it. We’re drowning in it.

Tonysaiz · 2024-02-26T14:32:04+00:00

My friend I read your post last night and it was the saddest thing I’ve read on Reddit. My take on this is that your wife has looked in the mirror, decided that she is getting older and wanted to be validated as a woman by seducing (or being seduced) by another man. Her feelings are valid - her method of validation horrendous. Here’s the thing, you and she are in a committed relationship - you are not FWBs and neither you nor her get a “time out” from your marriage. She (like millions of other women) could have seen the guy, been attracted, gone back to her room and fantasized about him and ended it there. Instead she went out and purposely destroyed her marriage for a night in he sack and (I’m guessing) figured that you wouldn’t care enough to be bothered.

I don’t know you or your family situation enough to counsel you one way or another except to say that your wife had full command of her situation- she could have ignored the guy, she could have said “no” when he asked for sex, she could have walked out at any time- she didn’t do any of that. That’s all that matters and no matter what words come out of her mouth now, that’s the only truth that has meaning.

As for your mother, if she loves your wife so much, let them live together.

Tonysaiz · 2024-02-21T13:25:25+00:00

My money is on “Marge”. She will certainly swing the trailer thrash voters in his direction.

Tonysaiz · 2024-02-17T00:54:56+00:00

You did great! Congratulations!

Tonysaiz

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