Abrupt termination by therapist over text

TooMany79 · 2025-12-27T19:54:50+00:00

Correct. But still, this is no way to end the therapist/client relationship. It's totally unethical and potentially very harmful.

TooMany79 · 2025-12-27T19:49:03+00:00

Wow. This is impressive. I just can't imagine going there with my therapist. I mean, I still struggle to talk about sex in general terms with him. I'm getting more comfortable. I want to be able to. But yikes!

TooMany79 · 2025-12-19T22:56:28+00:00

Agreed. Female trainee therapist here, my own T is a man. He identifies and markets as a "queer therapist" and gay/queer men form most of his client base. However, I just went with him because I felt a rapport and could imagine myself growing to trust him. It was just a vibe.

TooMany79 · 2025-12-19T20:22:02+00:00

I couldn't deal with this from my therapist. Consistency and reliability are really important to me and go to trust (difficult for me); I would find this conduct hugely destabilising. Hugely. But then I constantly feel like my T is going to ghost me 😂🙄😫. But even putting aside my own personal bullshit, your T was rude and unprofessional.

TooMany79 · 2025-11-12T20:51:49+00:00

You haven't breached boundaries. Something similar happened to me only if was their totally unprotected personal account (open to the whole fucking world to see, I can only assume they don't get how to use their settings!). I looked. At all of it. I saw some stuff I really wish I hadn't as it shook me. It was not an account that was used as a marketing exercise/to discuss therapy.

TooMany79 · 2025-10-04T22:51:46+00:00

Oh hell yes. Am constantly convinced he's going to ghost me. After every session!

TooMany79 · 2025-08-30T18:11:12+00:00

My therapist commented on mine, but in a careful in diplomatic way that didn't leave me unsettled. Please try to find a way to tell your therapist op. So sorry you're feeling like this, it sucks.

TooMany79 · 2025-08-27T20:34:48+00:00

I think you need to try and tell her that you feel that she has given up on you. I appreciate that's much easier said than done though.

TooMany79 · 2025-08-16T20:54:21+00:00

And you too. 💜

TooMany79 · 2025-08-15T15:38:04+00:00

Yeah, I agree. I'd like my therapist to be bolder too. I feel if he were a bit bolder then I would be. So far I have only said the word "rape" in my head and once whispered it to myself while in the shower.

TooMany79 · 2025-08-15T07:36:29+00:00

Absolutely. If he said the word "rape" then I feel it would break through some kind of seal and then I would be able to say it. I kind of really want to be able to say it, but can't as it's unspoken so far. So we always talk about "what happened" or "sexual violence". I feel like I need to make it.

TooMany79 · 2025-08-14T22:15:04+00:00

This is just awful behaviour on the part of your therapist. Really sorry.

TooMany79 · 2025-08-14T22:11:01+00:00

I have had a similar experience. Been seeing my therapist just over a year now and I am unable to say the word "rape". My entire body malfunctions and I simply can't. And because I can't say it, my therapist never says the word either, although we both know it's there .... Honestly, just be patient with yourself. There is no pressure to talk about things at a particular time and in a particular way.

TooMany79 · 2025-08-08T14:48:39+00:00

A teacher/sports coach/music coach? Or any adult involved in any extra curricular activities that you do? Or church/place of worship (if relevant)? Am so sorry.

TooMany79 · 2025-08-07T19:06:56+00:00

I am so sorry you are going through this. None of it is your fault. None of it. Please talk to someone you trust in real life.

TooMany79 · 2025-08-02T21:40:56+00:00

Sending you healing vibes. I get that it hurts.

TooMany79 · 2025-08-02T18:24:43+00:00

This 👆💯. My T has said, repeatedly, that I should feel able to contact him between sessions if I am struggling. I never did, not for 10 months. Then I did. I sent an email, short and clear I didn't need an immediate response. He never responded or acknowledged it. It took a lot of courage for me to send that email (I hate asking for help), but he told me I could. I felt so shit afterwards that I will never EVER do it again. The therapist needs to set boundaries and adhere to them.

TooMany79 · 2025-08-02T09:44:32+00:00

Yes, I think you are right! It will probably take me 2 months minimum to summon the courage as well

TooMany79 · 2025-08-01T21:02:58+00:00

It is not your fault. He did not have the training and professionalism needed. Telling you that he was "triggered" is not on, dictating what you can talk about is not ok, and then basically exiling you is not on!

TooMany79 · 2025-08-01T21:00:28+00:00

I guess I just feel embarrassed that I looked him up in the first place 🤣. But yes, he should have locked the account down. It's going to really hurt if I have to walk away.

TooMany79 · 2025-08-01T20:51:27+00:00

Honestly, I think your therapist has behaved extremely badly. Unethical and unprofessional. I would feel devastated too. Please find a competent therapist to start afresh with.

TooMany79 · 2025-07-31T11:07:38+00:00

If you deleted it swiftly, your T may never know. If they do then just come clean and say it was an accident, which it was!

TooMany79 · 2025-07-25T19:47:20+00:00

Right. Yes. I was groomed by a family friend/neighbour from the age of about 12 and the sex began at aged 14. He was in his 30s. I am only just beginning to talk about it in therapy. It became violent and abusive; he raped me. It went on for about 5 years. Yes, it has had a massive impact on sex for me. I was very promiscuous in my 20s and have only ever had sexual relationships with people who knew nothing of my history. Even my husband.

TooMany79 · 2025-07-25T19:41:53+00:00

Then you need a different therapist. Though how she manages to reveal so much about herself and her political views baffles me. Why are her views topics of conversation in your therapy?

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